Yintoni endiyenze ukuba ndiyenze ukuba umntu enze ukoyika ukulahlekelwa ngumfazi

Ulungelelwano phakathi kobudlelwane xa kulungelelaniswa uthando lomntu kunye nokuzifumanisa, kukho indawo yokuzithemba, ukunyaniseka okungekho mqathango kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando. Uloyiko lokulahleka phakathi kobudlelwane lunye lweemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, kuyavakala, kuyinjini yenkqubela phambili yothando, ukuphuhliswa kweemvakalelo ezinzulu kunye nolwalamano oluchanekileyo komnye nomnye. Ukuqonda oku akuvuselelanga nentsapho enye, uthando apho ubomi obuhlambulukileyo, umkhwa kunye nokukhohlisa "akukho ndawo." Ngokuqhelekileyo oku sisono sabantu abaye bafezekisa ngokwabo ubudlelwane - ukusondelana, ukuhlalisana okanye isitampu kwipaspoti. Kodwa ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuhoxisa uxanduva, ukusabela kwimeko yesibini ephathekayo - "bonke abantu bawabo ...", iminyaka esichithwa kunye kunye neyokuba inokutshabalalisa iimvakalelo eziphakamileyo, njl njl. Hayi! Musa ukuqhawula! Hlalani nisoloko nihlala kwindoda, niphoxele ukuba uziva uloyiko lokulahlekelwa nguwe!

  1. Imfihlelo, ehlanganiswe ngongoma. Akunakuze, ungalokothi ube yindoda evulekileyo incwadi kunye nebali eliqikelelwayo! Le yinto yokuqala ebulala uthando kunye nolwasetyeni ngobuhlobo. Wathandana, xa, evula yonke iphepha elitsha kuwe, wafumanisa khona imfesane kunye nokuthotywa. Wayefuna ukunqoba, ukufezekisa, ukuhlola nokumangalisa. Ingongoma kunye nokutshabalalisa isistim ebudlelwaneni, okwenza ngokuchasene nezinto ozilindeleyo. Qhathanisa "ubuhle bakho" kunye neziganeko zakho, apho indoda ejwayele ukuyenza, njengento ephikisayo. Oku kunokuba yimeko, ngokuqala ngokutshintsha ngokungathandabuzekiyo nokungenangqiqo kumfanekiso kwiingubo okanye ngeenwele, kwisigqibo esisigxina sokuhlala ngokwahlukileyo kwithuba elithile. Isiganga semfihlakalo kunye nemfihlelo oya kuyigqiba. Kodwa, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ungagqithiseli ukunyamezela ukuba umntu abe nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa nguwe, kungekhona umnqweno wokubalekela kulo mfazi ongaziwayo.

  1. Ubuhle buya kulondoloza uthando. Abasetyhini abaninzi, ukuqinisa ubudlelwane babo nomntu, banqamle ukubeka iliso ngokukhawuleza kwabo bobukeka, njengokuba benza ngexesha le-candy-bouquet. Musa ukulula Akukho nto! Makuye naziphi na izimo zobomi kuwe uya kuba yinto engathintekiyo ukuba uhlale uzilungele kakuhle. Njalo uhlale unesimo! Kodwa uzama ukungena kwimidlalo okanye ukwenza iinkqubo zokuziqhelisa ezingekho kwintsimi yombono wakho. Thumela kubangani, kumama, ukuloba, kwaye wena uzisa ubuhle. Makhe kuye, ngonaphakade, inkqubo yokuguqula ibhinqa ibe yindlovukazi, ubuhle apho uya kuziqhayisa kwaye aziqhayise kubahlobo bakhe, ihlala ingummangaliso. Ukuze ungathethi khona, ngaphezu kwazo zonke, amadoda anjengeenyawo, kwaye kuphela ke ngezinye iinjongo. Ewe, ukuba ngumzimba omhle akusisona isiqinisekiso sokuba indoda iya kuhlala kunye nawe ngonaphakade. Abathandekayo abathandwayo abathandekayo bathanda kwaye bayayixabisa. Hlonipha ubuhle bakho, ukuze umthandi wakho abe neloyiko lokulahlekelwa ngolo hlobo.

  1. Umhlobo ngumqondo wesintu. Musa ukufuna ukuba ngumntu ungumhlobo! Inkxaso, inkxaso, ithemba - ewe, kodwa akakho umhlobo! Ubuhlobo nomntu bulala umfazi kwintombazana. Umhlobo unakho ukuboleka imali, ukusela ubhiya ngendleko yakhe, ukuthulula umphefumlo wakhe, unganqikazi ukusebenzisa ucoceko lwakhe, awukwazi ukugcoba, ungabi nantoni, unamandla kwaye unqande. Ngaba ufuna umntu onjalo? Hayi! Ngaba ufuna umhlobo wesibini? Kunokwenzeka ukuba, akunjalo. Uya kufumanisa nabani ukuba benze abahlobo, kwaye bakuphi na umsebenzi wokubaluleka. Uya kuba ngumhlobo wakhe, uya kuhamba ekhangela ibhinqa. Kodwa awukufezekisi oku. Uze ulungelelanise injongo. Umsebenzi wakho kukumenza abe neloyiko lokulahleka kunye nomnqweno wokuba ngumntu onjalo, oza kukuziva uthanda, unesithakazelo, unesisa, unomdla kunye nomfazi onqwenelekayo. Ngenxa yoko, rhoqo kwaye phantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko ihlala ibhinqa kwaye ithatha ilungelo labo elisemthethweni ukuba lingabi yindoda kwelinye.

  1. Iqhawe leveli yakho. Vumela umntu wakho ehlala ecaleni kwakho ukuba uzive njengeqhawe, u-superman kunye noMntu onobumba obunkulu. Amadoda acwangciswe kangangokuthi azinako ngaphandle kokuzimela. Kufuneka balwe egazini labo - ukuze kube yinto engcono kakhulu ye "mammoth", kwintsimi efanelekileyo, ngowona mfazi ongcono. Makhe abe ngumdlali onamandla. Kwaye nokuba ngaba "imfazwe" kunye ne-crane ehambayo, kunye neengxowa ezinzima okanye ngamazinyo athabileyo kunye nobushushu obusuku bunyane lwakho, ungayithathi nto okanye umsebenzi wakhe. Musa ukukhatshwa ngokubulela, ukudumisa, ukuncoma izakhono zakhe, iitalente kunye nekhono, nangona zingabonakali kakhulu. Kuyakhuthaza kakhulu kwizenzo kunye nomnqweno wokwenza kwakhona kwakhona. Ukuba indoda ibona ukuqashelwa kwamandla akhe, isibindi, isibindi, ubuchule, uya kuyika ukulahlekelwa ngumfazi ogama lakhe lingamaqhawe kwaye uyaphumelela.
  2. Xho mekeka. Nayiphi na ubuhlobo busekelwe eluthandweni okanye emthandweni. Isiqhotyoshelweyo senza ukuba kuxhomekeke ekuxhomekeke kuyo, kwaye kungekhona kuphela izinto eziphathekayo, abafazi abasoloko badinga. Amadoda axhomekeka kakhulu kubafazi kunye neentlupheko zendlu abazenzayo, ukutya okuhlwaya, ukunakekela, uthando kunye nezinye "iihange", ezixhomekeke kakhulu kwaye ziboshwe. Zama ngaphantsi kwezinto "ezibonakalayo" zihlandlo eziliqela ukushiya indoda yakho ngaphandle kwesidlo sasekuseni, okanye "ukulibala" ukubetha ihembe (kwakhona, phantsi kwesizathu esibalulekileyo). Indoda, njengoko ithethayo, kufuneka iveke umahluko, iyanqatshelwe ukunakekelwa okuqhelekileyo okanye ukuzonwabisa. Okanye, ngokuchasene noko, yifumene, ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuthanda iimfuno ezintle. Kodwa musa ukuyenza kaninzi, ngaphandle koko ezo nwabisa ziya kuba ziqhelekileyo. Yakha ukuxhomekeka komntu ngamnye, apho indoda ayikwazi ukuyila.

  1. Imfuno yindlela yamandlakazi. Musa ukuxhonywa kumntu, ungamenzeli intsingiselo yobomi bakho. Ewe, ekuqaleni ukuziphatha okunjalo kukukhathazeka ngokuzikhukhumeza komntu, kuthintela, kuphakamisa ukuzithemba, kodwa kuya kuba buhlungu, umkhwa uya kuba njalo. Emva koko, indoda ayifuni ukwenza nantoni na, ungakhathazeki kwaye ulahlekelwe. Ingqiqo yakho, ngoko kufuneka ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa yinto. Yaye uloyiko, ukuphosakela ukukholelwa ukuba kufuneka ukhululeke ngakumbi. U libale! Ubomi bakho, yintsimi enye kuphela! Ziyinyamekele, ube ngumfuno, uphucule kwaye uphucule! Kodwa kungekhona umntu, kodwa wena! Emva koko indoda ayikwazi ukuziphika ubuthathaka bokuba nenani elaneleyo, umfazi oxabisekileyo olwazi. Zixubushe ngokuqhelana nomntu okwexeshana, yenza ukuba umntu wakho abe nomona ngamanye amaxesha, ukhathazeke ukuba ungamyeka ukumthanda. Kwaye ngoko uloyiko lokulahleka kwakho luqinisekisiwe!