Ophakamileyo okanye ophantsi, ocebileyo okanye ohluphekileyo, omncinci okanye ongekho - yena wedwa. Umtshato wakhe wangaphambili awuphumelelanga. Kodwa mhlawumbi, kunye nawe, uvuyo luya kumncoma? Ubomi bemihla ngemihla bunokuba phantse yonke imitshato yesithathu, i-alas, iphelela ekuqhawuleni umtshato, Kule nto sinakho inzuzo-kuba indoda elaliqhawuleyo iphinda ibe ngumyeni. Ungubani, ufuna ntoni, indlela yokuziphatha naye kunye nento enokuyithemba? Dibana - indoda ehlukanisile.
Kutheni wahlala yedwa?
Izizathu, ngenxa yokuba umtshato wakhe wangaphambili waphula, ngumlinganiselo omkhulu. Ngoku ngamabomu asiyi kuqwalaselwa ngamatyala xa indoda yashiya enye ibhinqa enye. Incoko yethu malunga nalabo abazitholayo bexoshwa ngaphandle kokuqhawula, ngoko kuthetha, besetyenzisaneni. Kungengqiqo ukuba ungazami ukulungiselela ukuphenywa ngentshiseko ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuziwayo. Kukho umgangatho ophezulu wokufumana impendulo engathembekiyo okanye ukulahlwa ngenxa yokungeniswa kwamanye amazwe. Kodwa ungesabi ukuba kufuphi nawe, isifo esingenakubalwa okanye ulahlekile. Ukuqhawula kwakhe umtshato kuye kwenzeka ngenxa yeemeko ezinzulu.
Iintsapho zanamhlanje zihlukana kungekhona nje ngokuba indoda "imbi." Emazweni amaninzi abizwa ngokuba ngabafazi abaneleyo, abathi ngezinye iinkalo bayaqonda ukuba abayidingi nayiphi na indoda, nokuba yimbi okanye ilungile. Ukongezelela, izazi zeengqondo ziqaphele ukuba i-low-female adaptability to the partner, ukuqonda kwakhe okungahambi kakuhle, ukungafuni ukunyamezela ubunzima bokuhlala kunye. Kukho ingxaki efana nokungahambelani ngokwesondo kwabatshatileyo. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kuzifumana ngaphandle "kohlobo" lwabasetyhini. Iingxaki zakhe aziyi kuthusa, kwaye izidima ziya kubonakala ziphawuleka kakhulu. Kwaye ufuna ukudala kunye naye into engaphumelelanga ngayo omnye umfazi.
Siya kwenza ngaphandle kwesihawu
Kukho nawuphi na, umtshato uqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqhako lwengqondo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo engadluli ngaphandle komkhondo. Ngandlela-thile, ukwahlukana komntu kunzima ngakumbi kunokuba umfazi. Ekuqaleni, umntu oqhawule umtshato ufuna into eyodwa kuphela: ukuba umntu wamthuthuzela waza wathi: "Hlala phantsi, kuya kuba ngcono." Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ibe nesihe. Kodwa akunjalo! Emva koko, akayi kufana novelwano, kwaye kungekudala uza kuqala ukudibana nabani na, ukuba angabuyi kwindlu engenanto kwaye kwakhona aqinisekise ukuba abafazi bayamfumana ekhangayo.
Kwintlanga yabasetyhini, unyanzelekile kwaye kunye nazo zonke iintlobo zeenkcukacha ezikhangayo ziza kuthetha ngomfazi wakhe wangaphambili. Uyabandakanyeka kule nhlebo nge "ahami" kwaye "ayikwazi ukuba!" akukho mfuneko, kuba zonke ezi zityhilelo zingakwazi ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane obusanda kusekwa. Ngelishwa, umntu uvame ukuva indlela intombazana yentliziyo yomntu oqhawule umtshato "ngokufihlakeleyo" etshela intombi zakhe ukuba "wayeyinto enjalo ...". Akuyimfuneko ukuba sibe njengabantu abathandayo. Oku kuya kukuncipha nje emehlweni ekhethiweyo.
Iingxaki zakhe kuphela
Mhlawumbi akanakho indawo yokuhlala kuyo, unenkxwaleko yemali, iingxaki kumsebenzi ... Musa ukukhawuleza ukubheka njengesiqhelo sakho, ungawafaki kumahlombe akho athathaka. Emva koko, eqinisweni, uyimfuneko ngokupheleleyo. Enye into engathandekiyo ebomini yomntu oqhawule umtshato. Mhlawumbi, impilo yakhe ichithwe. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba izifo zentliziyo zenzeka ngokuqhawula kabini, kunye ne-cirrhosis-kaninzi ngokuphindwe kabini kunamadoda ashade. Ngoko, izazi zengqondo zithi kunengqiqo ukungena emtshatweni nomntu ohlukanisile iminyaka emibini emva kokuqhawula umtshato. Masithembe ukuba ngeli xesha uya kulungisa impilo yokomoya kunye nempilo. Kwaye kwandula ke umntu oqhawule umtshato kunye nokutshata kwindoda yangoku uza kuzama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukwenza umtshato wakhe wesibili uphumelele ngakumbi kunowokuqala.
Iindidi ezinobungozi phakathi kwamadoda aqhawule umtshato
Ukunyaniseka ebuntwaneni
Ukuqhawula umtshato "ongenasiphelo", umntu uyathandeka, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile ezilibazisekile ekuphuculweni ngokomzwelo. Ngokusisigxina, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ngonaphakade, ihlala ingaphantsi kwaye ixhomekeke kwiintsebenziswano kunye nabasetyhini. Ibhinqa limkhangela kuphela ade amnyamekele aze amkhusele kwimithwalo nemingcipheko yobuntu abadala. Kuyafaneleka ukuba lo mgcini kunye nokukhusela ukunciphisa, umzekelo, ngokuphathelele ekuzalweni komntwana, njengoko umntu eqala ukuxabana nomfazi kwaye ekugqibeleni uyamcaphula umtshato.
Amandla alambileyo alambileyo
Umzekelo ofanayo ugcinwa xa umntu onamandla efuna umfazi. Ukhetha, kungekhona okokuqala, ibhinqa elibukeka lilula, linobubele. Kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuba ubonise ukulahla kwentando yakhe, njengokuba umntu uqala ukuziva ukuba unxibelele igunya lakhe elingagxininisi. Kwaye akayi kukunyamezela oku. Kuqala ukuthetha ingengqiqo yendoda, eyadlulayo ngamava angaphumelelanga kwimitshato edluleyo, kodwa inkani nenkani. Uthatha isigqibo sokuba uyingxenye yalo mfazi. Ngoko, kwakhona uqhawule umtshato kwaye ufune ukuthobela.