Indoda nomfazi zimbini zehlabathi ezichaseneyo, kunye namandla ahlukeneyo kunye nokuqonda kwehlabathi. Nangona kunjalo, ukudibanisa nomntu-umzingeli ongunaphakade wokufumana i-adventure, kufuneka ufunde iindlela ezimbalwa eziza kukunceda uqulethe i-predestitive spirit in the channel of peace and close to you. Ezi zixhobo zazibizwa ngokuba yiindlela zokuqeqesha okanye "ukugungqiswa kwezinto ezinzima".
Yintoni efunekayo ekuqalekeni koqeqesho?
Ukuze usebenzise iindlela zokuhlaziywa kwindoda, kuyimfuneko ukufundisisa imihla ngemihla ncinane kunazo zonke ezenzekayo kunye nezinguqu zabo, kubandakanywa nenkqubo yakhe yeentlanzi. Eyona nto ixhomekeke ekukhuthazeni kwamadoda ukuya kwiminyaka engama-30, kwaye emva kweminyaka engama-30-kunikezela, kodwa kunzima kunzima ekubhekeleni kwimikhwa yokuziphatha kunye nexabiso. Kwakhona, amandla eempembelelo zowesifazane kumxhomekeke kakhulu kumhlobo wakhe, oko kukuthi, kuyimfuneko ukuqwalasela umgangatho ngamnye weentlobo zobume obukhoyo kumntu (sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic, choleric). Emva koko, njengoko siyazi, kwindlela ecocekileyo yohlobo lomntu luyinto engaqhelekanga, ngokuqhelekileyo ixutywe. Kwakhona kwindlela yendoda kufuneka ikhokelwe ngumbono wokulinganisela kuyo yonke into. Iphutha eliphambili labasetyhini kweli nqanaba lokuqala loqeqesho kukujonga umntu ophantsi kwipropati kunye nokulawula ngokugqithiseleyo kuye ("ukwelula i-leash"), okuya ekukhokelela ekungaqondeni ukuziphatha komfazi ngumntu. Ukuqinisa isigaba sokuqala soqeqesho, kuyimfuneko ukukhokelwa ngumfazi ocacileyo wokwakha imigaqo yoqeqesho kunye nokunamathela kwawo.
Imigaqo yomsebenzi
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukuqeqesha "iwadi", funda ukulawula nokulinganisela izenzo zakho kuqala. Qinisekisa ukuba ii-interstic zinobudlelwane beemvakalelo kunye nomonde kwaye emva koko unokuqhubeka nokusekwa kwemigaqo yoqeqesho:
- ukwenza amanyathelo okuqala okuqeqesha ngendlela engabonakaliyo;
- umkhuba wakho "wokuqala" ngabaqeqeshi abalula, emva kokudlula kunzima kwaye kunzima;
- Ungaqali ukuphuhlisa izakhono ezintsha kwilwanyana, uze udibanise umphumo wemigaqo emibini yangaphambili;
- Ukuqaliswa kwendlela entsha kufuneka kuqhutywe ekuqaleni kokuqhelana kwakho ekuseni, ngelixa indoda ithe yathobela, kwaye ingakhathali komsebenzi wemihla ngemihla;
- ixesha loqeqesho landa kancane;
- umqeqeshi kufuneka ahlale eqwalasela zombini iimeko zangaphandle nangaphakathi;
- cacisa ngokucacileyo oko ufuna ukufikelela ekupheleni. Zihlakulele ngokwakho i-strategist, kungekhona inqubo.
Iimpazamo vperedirovke:
- ukungabikho kwedatha efunyenweyo kunye nolwazi malunga nenjongo yoqeqesho, indlela yokuphila;
- ukuziphatha okungokwemvelo ngokumalunga nendoda ngexesha lomyalelo;
- ukuziphatha okuthobekileyo, okuhlaziyileyo kunye nokungaziphathi kakuhle kufutshane "novavanyo";
- ukunqanda ukuqeqeshwa koqeqesho, ukunyanzelisa i-caress kunye nokuthobeka komntu.
Indlela yokuhlola okanye indlela ekujoliswe kuyo
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba umntu ubona eli hlabathi ngendlela yakhe, ngeembono zakhe zeembono. Ngokubhekiselele kumbono ohlukeneyo weenxa zonke, amadoda ahlukaniswe ngamaqela amathathu: ama-visuals, abaphulaphuli kunye nabakhonkethi. Iziboniso zifana nezinto zonke ezikhanyayo, ukuphonsa kwiso - ukuzakhela kwakho okukrakra, yangaphakathi ngaphakathi. Abaphulaphuli bathanda ukuphulaphula umculo kunye nokuthetha ngabo bathandekayo. Kwaye i-kinestetikam efana neentsikelelo zemimoya yakho enhle kunye neendlela ezizintlobo zesifazana. Kwakhona kukho uhlobo oluthile lomntu oluthile, ukuhlala kunye nobunzima kakhulu, kodwa kunokwenzeka ngomnqweno wakho.
Iibhokhwe zamadoda ngokwempawu zazo zihlukaniswe ngo:
- ezinzima-ezinobundlobongela-zichanekileyo, zixakile, zinobudlova, kodwa ngokukhawuleza zinyusa indlela yokuhamba;
- i-melancholic - idinga ukunakekelwa rhoqo, musa ukuthatha amahlaya ngokwabo, zihamba kakhulu;
- kufihliwe - bahlala benganelisekanga ngento ethile, nangona bayayithobela nayiphi na into encinci (khumbula igama lakho ngalinye);
- ababi - bathanda ukuchaneka kwizinto zonke, ukufikelela kwirekhodi ye-ruble nganye oyichithe. Ukuze ulwe ubuncinane ubulungisa ekulawuleni uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali, ungambonisi yonke ingeniso, vumela izinto zivele endlwini ngento enhle yezihlobo okanye ngabahlobo;
- i-spender - into echasene nayo. Banovuyo, bazinikezela lula kuzo zonke izinto, oku kukhanya kubonakala ngokumalunga nemali. Oku kuziphatha kukubangelwa kobuhlwempu obuninzi "bokulinga", okanye isalathisi sokukhuliswa kowenu kwintsapho apho yonke into ingathengwa ngaso sonke isikhathi;
- iimpawu - zenza ihlabathi lakho ngenxa yempumelelo yakho, kunye nale ndlela yokulungela ukufumana ubuhlobo, ngaphandle koko unobungozi bokuchitha ubomi bakho. Kule mihla, ngokukhawuleza kuphuma i-gigolo, iilawulwa ngokukhululeka, ngubani, usebenzisa ubuhle babo obuhle kunye nokuqhaqhayisa, amantombazana atywala kunye nabasetyhini. Balekela kulolu hlobo lokungabi nantoni, bafana neentleons;
- abathandi bamantombazana kunye nabafazi - nabo bahlula kwiinqanaba ezine:
- UDon Juan Romantik-bayakhangwa yimfihlelo kunye nokungafikeleleki kwabasetyhini, ukuba usebenzisa ngobuchule le khowudi, ke yena uyigulane sakho;
- i-self-affirming-donzhuany kaninzi iloyiko lwabasetyhini kwaye libagwebise ngokungathembeki ngenxa yeengxaki zabo ezifunyenwe ebuntwaneni bentsapho okanye ukubonakaliswa kwabasetyhini abangabonakaliyo, badinga isigulane kunye nesigxina rhoqo ukuze banyuke ngokwabo ukubaluleka kunye nesidingo;
- i-dandies yezocansi inithanda inkululeko, iyanqwenela ukutshintshwa kwamaqabane amaninzi, kodwa ukuba unomonde kwaye ungagcina amehlo akhe kwiintetho zakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo uyazixabisa ukuba awuhambisani nokuhamba kwakhe okukhululekile ebomini;
- Abaxhamli bePlato bavame ukuzinikela ngokusasazwa kwenkxaso engakwesobunxele nakwesokunene, kodwa banomntu oyedwa kuphela, abahambelana nale mibonakalo ye-syumor nokuqonda.
Akusiyo imfihlo yokuba i-hormone eyintloko yomntu ngu-testosterone, ephucukisiwe ngakumbi xa inyama ithathwa, ngoko inkulumo ethi "indlela eya kumntu isisu sayo" ayizange ikhanselwe, ngoko yenza! Banyamekele, ungafuni ukuba uziqwalasele. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umntu akafuni ukutshintsha okubhetele, ulala embhedeni usuku lonke, aguqula iziteshi zeTV, kwaye ulinde, kumagxa akho athathaka, ukunyamekela yonke imithwalo yemindeni enokugcinwa kwintsapho, akusikho into engabonakaliyo ukuba ubonise ngubani kumnikazi wesizinda. Nangona, ukuba awufuni ukupheka, uhlambe kwaye uhlambulule kunye nomnye umsebenzi wasekhaya, unakho unembeza ocacileyo uthatha umthwalo wempahla yentsapho, kwaye isilwanyana sakho simele sihlele ukufudumala ekhaya, ukuthuthuzela nokucoceka.
Kwakhona, ungakulibali ukuba umntu ungumntu oguqula izimvo zakhe kunye nezinto ezithandayo ngokuxhomekeke kwiminyaka yakhe. Ngokomzekelo, xa eneminyaka eyi-14 ukuya kweyesi-16, uyintando yesithandana, eneminyaka engama-25 umntu uba ngumthandi onomdla, ngo-30 unzulu, ulungelelanise kwaye ungeyena ubudlova bakhe bokuqala ngokwesondo, kwaye u-45 - kufuneka agcine iindlebe zakhe zivulekile! Ekuphishekeleni ulutsha oludlula, amaninzi amalungu omndeni agijimela emzimbeni omncinci, ezama ukutshintsha nokuphelisa. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awuhlali nje ngaphandle, kodwa ngaphakathi kwakhona, ikati lakho elikhukhunyiweyo liya kuhamba enkathazweni, liya kulala ezinyaweni zakho.