Iintsapho ezingapheliyo zijongene nobunzima obuninzi. Ngokwenene, ezi ngxaki zengxaki, kuba esikhundleni sabantwana bobabini intsapho iyanyanzelekile ukuba inikezele ngezinto eziphathekayo kuphela ngumama. Abantwana bakhathazeke ngokukhethekileyo kwimpembelelo yobutyebi bentsapho ngaphambi nangemva kokuqhawula umtshato, kwaye kunzima ngokwaneleyo ukufumana le ngxaki, ukubona indlela abanye abantwana abahlala ngayo kwiintsapho ezipheleleyo zibhetele kunabo. Oku kukuchaphazela kakubi kwi-psyche yengqondo yomntwana, kumenza abe nomona wokuba nomona nokungahlambuluki.
Sekuyisikhathi eside oogqirha bezilwanyana beqaphele ukuba abantwana abakhuliswe kwiintsapho ezinomzali oyedwa bahlala begula ngenxa yezifo ezinzima kunye nezifo ezingapheliyo. Okokuqala, oku kubangelwa kukuba umama unyanzelekile ukuba asebenze kanzima, enakekele imeko yezemali yentsapho, ukubeka bucala ulondolozo lwempilo yabantwana kwimvelaphi. Izibalo zibonisa ukuba phakathi kwalabo ba khulele kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga ukuba kudla ngokuzinikela kwimikhwa emibi, kunye nokuhleleka okuphezulu kokufa kubundlobongela. Oku kungenxa yokungabikho kolawulo lomzali. Emva kokuqhawula umtshato, abantwana bahlakulela umsindo wabo kubazali babo, baqala ukuzitshozela ngokuqhawula umtshato, baziva bexhalabile kwaye bexhalabile. Konke oku, ngokuqinisekileyo, kukhokelela ekunciphiseni ukusebenza kwesikolweni, kwiingxaki zonxibelelwano kunye noontanga. Njengoko sibona iingxaki ezininzi zabantwana kwimindeni yabazali abangabodwa, eqinisweni, zidinga imfundo engobuchule yengqondo.
Imfundo yengqondo yabantwana kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga kwindawo yokuqala kufuneka ijoliswe ekuqinisekiseni ukuba umntwana kwintsapho enjalo akavumi ukuba uyathandwa kwaye uyedwa. Abantwana bahlala benesihe kakhulu ukuthanda nokuthanda. Kwaye umzali onesizungu okhupha abantwana kufuneka ahlale ekhumbula le nto. Akukho zipho eziza kuthatha indawo yokunxibelelana komntwana kunye nonina, ukukhathazeka kwakhe kunye nokuqonda. Imfundo yengqondo yabantwana kwintsapho engaphelelanga ikwabonelela ngokungafaniyo kwimfundo yabantwana bezesondo ezahlukeneyo. Ngoko, umzekelo, inkwenkwe, ishiywe emva kokuqhawula umtshato kumama wayo, akufanele ivelele ukugcinwa kwayo kwisigxina, kungenjalo indoda iya kukhula kuye, ayikwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezizimeleyo kwaye ixhomekeka kakhulu kumfazi. Intombazana eyashiywe ngaphandle kayise akufanele ibeke ityala kayise ngenxa yokuqhawula umtshato, mhlawumbi iya kukhankanya bonke abantu ebomini bayo kwikamva. Imfundo echanekileyo yengqondo yabantwana kwintsapho engaphelelanga ihlala iphazamiseka ngumntu onobunyani bomzali. Umzali onjalo ubona imfundo efanelekileyo ukuba ngumlawuli oqinileyo malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakhe.
Umntwana ukhula esatshiswa, ahluthe kwaye ngokugqithiseleyo unengxaki yengqondo kunye nabanye abantwana engadini okanye esikolweni. Imfundo echanekileyo yengqondo yabantwana kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga nayo inobungozi ngolunye uhlobo lokuba ngumzali - ukungakhathaleli kwabazali kunye nokungabikho kokulawulwa kwabantwana. Umzali uvumela yonke into ukuba ihambe yodwa, kwaye ukuba abantwana bangakwazi ukulawula, bahlala befumana isizathu. Imfundo yengqondo yabantwana kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga akufanele ivumele ukubunjwa kwimeko yomntwana weziphene ezibangelwa ukungabikho komnye wabazali. Okokuqala, umntwana kufuneka ahlonishwe ngomntu. Umama, ukukhulisa abantwana, okokuqala kufuneka athole igunya labantwana ngokusebenzisa umzekelo wokuziphatha kwakhe nendlela yokuphila. Ubungqingili kwengqondo yengqondo yukuba engakwazi ukulinganisa kokulungileyo nokubi kwaye akahlala ethanda ukulandela imimiselo yokuziphatha, kungekhona imfundiso yokuziphatha. Yingakho xa imfundo yengqondo yabantwana kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga kubaluleke kakhulu ukubeka iliso rhoqo kumama (utata) ngokuziphatha kwabo nezenzo zabo. Umama, ukuze athole igunya elivela kubantwana, kufuneka ahlale ehlonipha abantu abasondezayo kwaye ahloniphe abazali babo.
Kufuneka alungele ukuhlala ecela ukunceda abantu abasondeleyo abafuna uncedo. Imfundo yengqondo yabantwana kwintsapho engaphelelanga ibonisa ukuba abantwana bahlala behlonela abo bakulungele ukuphulaphula nganoma yimuphi umzuzu, ukuqonda nokuza kuhlangula. Ngaloo ndlela, imfundo yengqondo yabantwana kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga kufuneka inikwe ukubaluleka okukhulu. Kule ndlela kuphela, ekungabikho komnye wabazali, abantwana bafumana imfundo epheleleyo kwaye baba ngabantu abadala, bahle kwizinto zonke.