Ngoko ke, abazali bahlala becinga ngendlela yokufundisa kakuhle abantwana babo. Kwaye ke abantwana baphinda bacinge ngendlela yokuziphatha ngendlela ekholisa abazali kunye noluntu olujikelezayo?
Iingxaki zentsapho ekukhulisweni kwabantwana zihlawulelwa ingqalelo enkulu. Inzululwazi (i-pedagogy) yinto yesiko ukwahlula iintlobo zemfundo kumaqela. Nazi ezinye izinto eziphambili:
Ulawulo lokunyanzelisa luhlobo lwenkqubo yokukhuliswa kwabantwana, apho i-initiative "yolawulo" ngumntwana idlulela kwelinye lamalungu amabini entsapho. Kwaye ngokupheleleyo. Kufana 'nosapho olusenyongweni.' Ngokwenza njalo, kuxhomekeke kumandla omlingiswa womntwana. Ukuba kuya kuba namandla, umphumo wale mfundo iya kuba yindlela enamandla yokuchasana, ukuchasa kubazali. Ukuba umlinganiswa ubonakala buthathaka, kuya kubakho ukunyanzeliswa okupheleleyo kweminqweno yomntwana. Uya kugxothwa, kwaye ukubonakala kokuhlukanisa kuya kuvela.
I-Hyperopeka - ukusuka kwisihloko kucacile ukuba le yinkqubo apho abazali bazama ukukholisa ngokugqibeleleyo i-whims yomntwana. Umntwana onjalo unokukhula akwanelisekile, aziqhenyce aze azingca. Ngomntu obuthathaka, unokufumana uncedo lokungancedi kwihlabathi, okanye ngokungafaniyo, umnqweno wokulahla ukunakekelwa kwabazali, okuya kuba nefuthe elibi kakhulu ebomini.
Ukungangqinelani - kwimbono yam, akusona inkqubo ebi kunazo zonke, ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka isetyenziswe ngokuhlakanipha. Zonke izigqibo kunye noxanduva oludluliselwa kumntwana. Kwaye, ngokulingwa nokuphambuka kufuneka aziqonde okulungileyo noko kungenjalo. Oku kunika umntwana ithuba elihle kakhulu lobomi, olubaluleke kakhulu kubomi abazimeleyo. Kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuqonda ukuba ukwenza njalo kukubeka ingozi kwimilinganiselo yokuziphatha yomntwana. Unokuba nje udidekile, ulahlekelwe yiminqweno yinyani.
Ukubambisana akungathandabuzeki ukuba ulwahlulo oluchanekileyo lwentsebenziswano kwintsapho. Nantsi nonke sincedana, kwaye zihlangene kunye, ezibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana. Amaholide, iziganeko, ukunyuka, ukuhamba, ukuhlwa kweenkcubeko - yonke into eyenziwa kunye. Umntwana unokufumana uncedo xa efuna oko, kuba isandla sabazali sihlala sikhona.
Kodwa apha uya kubuza: - "Ngoko ke yintoni ingxaki? Impendulo kumbuzo obaluleke kakhulu. Sidinga ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye, kwaye sincedana ... "
Konke oko kunjalo, kodwa akubona bonke abanokubambisana nentsebenziswano. Iingxaki zentsapho zidla ngokuqala ngabazali ngokwabo. Kwaye amaninzi amaninzi, umama noTata bavumelani. Ngokomzekelo, ubaba ufuna ukuba unyana wakhe abe nesibindi, aqiniseke kakuhle, ngoko uhlala emphatha ngokuthe ngqo. Umntwana akanakho ndawo, uyazama ukufumana ukuqonda kumama. Umama, njengomntu onobubele, uhlale enesihe ngonyana wakhe. Kwaye kwalapha kwakukho ingxaki enkulu-inkwenkwe icinga ukuba uyise ulungile, kwaye umama ulungile. Oku kwenza ukuba ubawo abe nomsindo ngakumbi. Uyaqonda ukuba ukubaluleka kwakhe kwintsapho njengotitshala ulahlekile, kwaye kukho ukuxabana phakathi kwabazali kunokuqala. Umntwana, ekuboneni oku, unokucinga ukuba esi sizathu salo mfucuza. Kukho ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo.
Ukungavumelani phakathi kwabazali banakho ukungafani nakumava emfundo. Abanye abazali bakhulisa abantwana babo ngendlela efanayo nabazali babo abakhulisa ngayo. Abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, beqonda ukuba abazange bakhuliswe ngendlela engcono, khetha enye inkqubo.
Abazali banokuthi bahluke ngokwemvelo. Ngokuqhelekileyo uotata, oqinileyo kwaye ococekileyo, kwaye unina unxubile kwaye unyanzelekile. Oku kungalingani ngokukhawuleza kwabafundi kubaluleke kubazali.
Ziyintoni umahluko phakathi kwabazali? Ziziphi iingxaki iintsapho eziza kuzisa ekukhulisweni kwabantwana? Apha, kwakhona, konke kuxhomekeke kwimeko yomntwana. Kwimeko enye, izinga lokuxhalabisa lingaqhubeka - ngenxa yokulindela rhoqo isijeziso okanye ukunyaniseka. Kwesinye imeko, umntwana angasebenzisa oku. Xa uyise engqongqo, aze amjezise, umntwana uya kumama kwaye afune isipho sakhe esiduduzayo, i-candy okanye ingqwalasela.
Imiphumo yezi ngqubana, ngokuqinisekileyo, ihluke kakhulu kwingqondo yengqondo yomntwana. Lapha unendima enzima kakhulu, ukukhetha indlela yokuziphatha ukuze ukholise omnye wabazali abathandayo ngokulinganayo.
Yaye njani ukuba ngabazali ekukhuliseni abantwana? Okokuqala. Ungaze ufune ukufumana ubuhlobo phambi komntwana. Akuyimfuneko ukukhusela ingcamango yombono ngokugqithiseleyo. Le yintsapho, unakho kwaye unika omnye komnye.
Okwesibini. Kufanelekile ukuthetha ngale ngxaki. Thetha, ukuphulaphula ngokupheleleyo. Ngomoya ozolile, othabathayo ngetayi ... Ndicinga ukuba umphumo ungasoloko ufunyanwa. Kuyinto encinane ukukholelwa omnye nomnye. Nangona kunjalo, akukho nkqubo efanelekileyo yemfundo. Kukho omnye onokufanelana nani. Ufuna nje ukuyifumana. Inhlanhla kuwe.