Yintoni eyenzekayo kumntwana?
Emva kweenyanga zokuqala, xa i-crumb yayilungelelaniswa nobomi be-extrauterine kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo yayizolile. Kodwa kungekhona. Abanye abazali bayakhalaza ukuba iiveki zokuqala zazifana neendlongo. Umntwana wakhala njalo, kodwa wayengenakuqonda into ayifunayo, mama. Oku kunzima kokubili. Loo mfanekiso uhlala kwenzeka xa uye wafumana ubunzima bokuzalwa. Kwaye ukuzalwa okugqithiseleyo kumntwana kukuxinezeleka. Kwaye kufuneka nje akhale, akhwele, qinisekisa ukuba akukho nto yenzekile. Kulo mzuzwana kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umama abe kunye nosana lonke ixesha, ukuwuthwala ezandleni zakhe, ukuncelisa, ukulungelelanisa iphupha elihlangeneyo nomntwana. Umama wasungula urhulumente wesondlo, wafunda ukuqonda iimvuthu. Inyanga yesibini yadlula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye apha-iingxaki ezintsha, apho. kuvela, akunakulungele konke.
• Akukho ubisi ngokwaneleyo! Ukwesaba akunakunceda xa ukondla ngokufunwa. Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba, ingxaki iphosakele ekusebenziseni, eyokuzibonakalisa kweli nqanaba, kuba umntwana uqala ukunamathela ngokunyanisekileyo kunye neemfuno zakhe zokunyuka ubisi. Ukuba i-crumb ngexesha lokusondeza ngokukhawuleza iphosa isifuba, iqala ukukhala, akuthethi ukuba le ngxaki ivela kwiingcambu zakho ezincinci. Kungenxa yokubambisana okungafanelekanga, umoya ogonywa ngumntwana. Mncedise u-regurgitate kwaye uthethe ngeengcali ekunceliseni. Khumbula ukuba kunye nesinamathiselo esifanelekileyo, umntwana akanasisisi isipu, kodwa uyagcina yonke i-okolososkovuyu areola.
• Ukuvutha ukukhala. Mhlawumbi ngaphambi kokuba umntwana alele ngokulala kwaye akaqhelekanga, kodwa ke waqala ukuba neziqephu zokukhala. Mhlawumbi unayo i-colic. Zama ukusasaza imvumba esiswini sakho "isikhumba ukunqanda", unakekele inkqubo yesantya yomntwana, ukukhusela umntwana ekukhanyeni okukhanyayo kunye nesicacile esiqingatha sesibini semini. Hayi, le miqathango ayincedi rhoqo. Ubume be-colic bengaqondakali na oogqirha, kukho iinguqulelo zezinto ezibangela ukuba bangabonakali kwinkqubo yesantya kunye neendlela zesisu. Kodwa musa ukuphelelwa lithemba: ezininzi iintsana zihlaselwa yi-colic ezingapheli kwiiveki ezintathu ukuya kwezine. Ukuba loo miqathango ayigqiba emva kwenyanga kwaye ivela imihla ngemihla ngesigama seyure okanye ngaphezulu, oogqirha baxilonga i-colic. "Kwezinye iimeko, kucingelwa ukuba umntwana uhlala kwelinye ixesha lokuzivumelanisa nokuphila kwangaphandle.Ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza kwentlalo Abazali abaninzi banenkxalabo yokuba umntwana, ngubani ngaphambi kokuba akwazi ukuphuhlisa izakhono zezithuthi, ngokukhawuleza "uyayeka ukuqhubeka." Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo! Ngeenyanga ezintathu kuphela, abantwana baqala isigaba sokuphuhliswa kwezakhono ezifanelekileyo zezithuthi, kwaye inkulu "iyayeka ixesha elithile." Kule minyaka, umntwana uqala ukubamba yonke into kwaye uzama ukuphatha izinto ngoncedo lwezandla, kwaye oku kukukhangela ngaphezu kokuzama ukunyakaza.
• Ukuziphendulela okungasalindelekanga. Kulo nyaka, abaninzi abantwana baya ngokuzithandela ezandleni zabantu abadala abahlukeneyo, kodwa kukho ukungafani. Ngokomzekelo, i-crumb ingamkeli nayiphi na ilamane okanye iyenqaba ukuthetha nabani ngaphandle komama. Musa ukwenza izigqibo eziphambili. Ukutshintsha kwemizwa enjalo ngokukhawuleza kuyitshintsha, ungabandakanyi ukubaluleka kubo.
Kwenzeka ntoni kumama?
Kubonakala ngathi lixesha elide lokuba uMama azive efanelekileyo kunye nolwazi. Kodwa kwakukho, kwaphakama imibuzo ngakumbi. Ukongezelela ukukhathazeka ngosana, umama ukhathazeke ngeengxaki zomntu. Kwaye abaninzi abafazi basecaleni lokudandatheka.
• Ukukhathala kuqokelela.
Akunabo bonke oomama abancinci abanokufumana utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila, abaninzi banokufumana nzima kunomntwana oswelekileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi kufuneka aqhube indlu aze asebenze ekhaya. Ukongezelela, ukunyameka kweeveki zokuqala kudlulayo, kwaye umfazi uyaqonda ukuba kwikamva elisondeleyo akanakwenzeka ukuba anike ithuba elide. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Okokuqala, khumbula ukuba iholidi lakho linye yezinto eziphambili. Cela uncedo kwizihlobo: bavumele bahambe kunye nomqhubi, kwaye uchithe ngeli xesha ephupheni. Hamba ngeeyure ezimbalwa ekhaya kunye nomntu osapho lwakho kunye nokuphumla.
Ubomi bentlobano
Oomama abancinci abaninzi babuyela ebomini babo obusondeleyo ngaphambi kokuba umntwana aguquke kwiinyanga ezi-2 ubudala. Nangona kunjalo, abo babeneengcawa okanye izibeleko ezibuhlungu abanakukwazi ukwenza oku de inyanga ezintathu. Ukongeza, kwamanye amabhinqa emva kokuba i-libido ikhuphuke, nakwezinye - iyancipha phantsi kwefuthe lama-hormone kunye ngenxa yokuxinezeleka. Abo bangenakuthanda, nangona ukuba umzimba uphilile ekuzalweni, iingcali zincoma ukuba ziqale ngethenda kunye nomyeni wakhe. Khumbula kwakhona ukuba i-libido iyancitshiswa ngenxa yokungabikho kokulala. Ukuba unengxaki ezinjengezandla zobunini okanye intlungu ngexesha lokulala, sebenzisa iiblue. Iintlungu ezinzima ngexesha leenyanga ezintathu emva kokuzalwa - ithuba lokubonisana nengcali.
• Ulwalamano nobaba oselula. Ngelishwa, akubona bonke abantu abakulungele ukwabelana nomntwana osandul 'umva iingxakini ezinxulumene nokuvela kwintsana, kwaye oku kuholele kwingxaki ekhoyo kwintsapho. Ngokuhlambalaza uyenzela ukwandisa ingxabano. Ukuqwalasela ukukhula kobawo umntwana, ukuba ufunde uyise, njl njl. Ngokuhlwa, ncokola, hlamba kunye kwaye ubeke imvumba. Enye ingongoma kubalulekile: ngamanye amaxesha izikhalazo zethu zingenasiphelo, kwaye ukunyeliswa kakubi. Ufuna umyeni ukuba abelane nawe ngononophelo lomntwana. Uyakhathala ngenxa yosuku, kwaye ulindele ukuba uza kuza aze athathe umntwana kuye. Kodwa awuyikuqwalasela into yokuba uTata akazange aphumle yonke imini. Wasebenza kwaye, njengawe, ufuna ukuphumla. Ukuba imeko yezemali ivumela, ziqeshe umncedisi oza kukukhulula ngemini, ukuze kusihlwa ungaziva uphelile kwaye unganika ixesha lomyeni wakho othandekayo.
• Ukufundiswa kwisibhedlele. Kule minyaka, abazali abaninzi bazama ukufundisa umntwana ukuba alele embhedeni owodwa kwaye angavuki ebusuku. Ezinye iingcali zikholelwa ukuba lo msebenzi unokwenzeka, kwaye uncomela ukuba abazali benze oku ukuze baphumule kwaye balale ngokwabo, baqhelise umntwana ukuba kuyimfuneko yokwenza izinto ezicwangcisiweyo. Ezinye izazi zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba umntwana uyaxhalaba xa ekhutshelwe umama ngexesha lokulala. Uya kufuneka ugxininise ngakumbi kwi-intuition yakho kunokuba uluvo lweengcali. Ukuba uziva ukuba ixesha lokufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba alale ngokwahlukileyo, khumbula: kuthatha malunga neveki ezimbini. Ukubeka umntwana embhedeni emva kwesidlo esiqhelekileyo kunye nesondlo sakusihlwa, unqwenela ubusuku obuhle kwaye ushiye ekamelweni, ungagungqi kwizandla zakhe kwaye ungalindeli ukuba alele ebhokisini. Ukuba inkwenkwe ingalali ngokukhawuleza, ungaya kuye emva kweminyaka emi-5, emva kwe-10, emva kwemizuzu eyi-15 ukuyibetha emhlane, ukuba umama usekufuphi, kodwa lixesha lokulala. Uninzi lwabantwana kwiveki enye okanye ezimbini zifundiswa ukuba zilale ngokwabo, ukuba abazali baziphatha ngokuzimeleyo nangokuzithemba. Nangona kunjalo, siya kuphinda, kungekhona bonke abantwana abakulungele ukuxothwa ngokukhawuleza. Ingane ifuna uMama kakhulu. Musa ukusetha kwakhona i-crumb ukuya kwelinye igumbi, ubeke isikhephe sakhe embhedeni wakho, ususe udonga ohlangothini. Ewe, iinyanga ezintathu zinkalo yobomi obunzima. Kodwa, ukuba unqobe iingxaki, uya kuba nokholo ngakumbi kuwe.