Bathi akunangqondo ukutshintshela kubuntu. Kodwa asikwazi ukulinda ukuxoxa nomntu. Umzekelo, wena kunye nengxabano yakho yangaphakathi.
Yiyiphi intsingiselo? Unethemba lokuba uyazi ukuba ungeyonto, icebo, cwangcisa iinjongo zomsebenzi - kwaye ngokukhawuleza ngelinye ilanga (ulwimi aluguquleli ukuba lugqibelele), umntu ophakathi kwakho uqala ukufuna ubomi obuhlukile. Ukuguqulwa okunjalo kulungile kwiincwadi zeempendulo ze-movie, kodwa ngokwenene azinakuchukumisa. Okokuqala, kukho ubuhlanya obukhulu kwihlabathi. Okwesibini, ngokwenene ndifuna ukuzithemba. Nangona, ukuba ucinga ngako, inkulumo engabonakaliyo "ukuzithemba wena" sele isicacisa ngokubaluleka komntu.
Musa ukucinga ukuba sinesongelo kuwe, kodwa oogqirha bezengqondo banamhlanje bathanda ukuchaza ukuba "umntu opheleleyo" akayikho into ehlanganisiweyo yamagama, kodwa ngokwenene isifo sengqondo somntu (sinempilo kakhulu, ngendlela) ininzi. "I-Archetypes", "i-intro", "ukuziphatha ngokusemthethweni" - onke la magama ayingqungquthela athetha iindawo "zethu". Ngamanye amaxesha ezi zixhobo zihluke kakhulu kangangokuba ubomi babo obunxulumene "phantsi kophahla olulodwa" luba ngumzabalazo oqhubekayo, kwaye uyazibuza ukuba yintoni into engaziwayo eyenza wena, olahlekelwe isifungo sokulahlekelwa isisindo, ukujikima kwiqrijini kunye ne-sausage bite! Akusixesha lokuzibuza: masiqonde kakuhle, apho aba bantu bevela khona kwaye bafuna ntoni. Abacebisi abanobungozi
Iingcali zengqondo zifuna ukuba wonke umntu udala imifanekiso yakhe yengqondo phakathi kwabazali bakhe. Oku kwenzeka ngokungazi, kuba izalamane ezifihlakeleyo kwiintloko zentloko zinokutshatya ngokukrakra kunyoko nonina ngokwenene-ngokuqhelekileyo kwindlela yokukhathala okukhulu kunye nokunyaniseka.
"Awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na," "ngonaphakade wena uyawalala izruk", "ngokuqinisekileyo, ufike phi?" - nokuba ngumama onobuhle ngezinye iinkhathi kwenzeka ukuba akanakulinganiswa. Nokuba angabi nomsindo (kuba abazali bafanele bathande!), Intombi entle yamkela la mazwi kwixabiso lexabiso kwaye "ubeka" ngaphakathi ukugxeka umntu omdala njengomcebisi.
Iminyaka ihamba phambili, umama wokwenene ufundisa kancinci, kodwa umcebisi usebenza ngokusisigxina kunye nexesha elibi kakhulu-umzekelo, ngokuhlekisa ukunyuka kwemivuzo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukususela ekuhlambulukeleni okunzulu kunokwenzeka ukunqumla, kodwa ngokuthe gqolo silahlekelwa yinkalipho kwaye njengemantombazana enemifanekiso, siqala ukuphulaphula. Kodwa kufuneka senze. Okokuqala, cinga ngoba ngubani kanye kwaye kutheni amagama ebhaliwe kuwe. Mhlawumbi wakho umama wayexhalabile kwaye wazama ukukhusela ekuphumeleleni. Okanye, ukubandezeleka, abantu abasondeleyo abazange bakholelwe ngamandla akho. Futhi ngokusekelwe kwiziphumo zale ngcamango, zama ukuqonda: nokuba ngaba abazali bakho bokwenene baye benza iimpazamo ezininzi zokufundisa, unokunciphisa ngokupheleleyo intliziyo yangaphakathi. Ngexesha elibalulekileyo lobomi, zikhululeke ukuzibuza ukuba zivale. Ngenxa yokuba ziyingxenye yobuntu bakho, engafanelekanga ngokufanelekileyo ukuhlala entanyeni yakho.
Kodwa ngokweengcamango ye-psychologist yaseSwitzerland, uCarl Jung, owasusa isayensi iminyaka eyikhulu edlulileyo, inxalenye yethu "I" inikezelwa ekuzalweni. Njengokuba abantu sele bezalwe ngeempawu ze-prototype (archetypes) kwimiphefumlo yabo ezaliswe ngumxholo okhethekileyo. , I-Shadow, i-Old Agekazi, ezi zininzi kunye nezihlobo zihlala kuthi ngamnye kuthi kungakhathaliseki ubuzwe okanye isimo sezentlalo (kwaye ngoko iimbali kunye neembali zabantu ezahlukeneyo ziyaqondwa ngendlela efanayo nangabantu bonke ngaphandle kokunye.) Enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo ze-female archetypes, Isinika amandla kunye neqhinga, kunceda ukuxhoma ngaphezu kwentloko kwaye uthathe ingozi yomboleko wemali mboleko. Xa sisemncinci, sinokukwazi ukufunda iimpawu zokuziphatha zabasetyhini, kodwa sikhula, siphumelela kuphela xa senza ubungane ne-Animus. amaphupha othandana nomntu ongeyena mfokazi (okanye umhlobo ongabangela iimvakalelo ezinzulu ebomini.) IJungians ithi amaphupho anjalo ayikho nje into ebonakalisa isidingo sokufumana inkxaso engaphezulu kwindoda yesazi. Ngoko ke, ukuba unesithakazelo kwiimeko ezinjalo, fumana ixesha lokuziqhelanisa nomncedisi wakho onomdla. + Yibhale, ubhale ibali ngokuthatha inxaxheba, udlala intetho-mfutshane, masibe sesifakelwe. Ngendlela, ezo ngcebiso zisebenza nakwezinye i-marmetip. Unokubambisana nomntu wonke: obabinikazikazi kunye ne-Evil Old Woman baxhamla kakhulu, kufuneka nje ukuba ufunde ukuba yintoni imeko yokukhulula umcimbi wabo.
Iibala ezimhlophe kwimephu yangaphakathi
Ngokuqinisekileyo yonke into idinga izinto ezimbini ezibalulekileyo: ukuvunywa kwabazali kunye nothando lomzali.
Kwaye ukuba abantu abadala benqabile ukuqonda kwimbewu yabo ezinye iimpawu okanye iimfuno, naye uya kubakhawuleza ukuba awenqabe, nje ukukopela umama noyise. Omnye uvumelekile ukuba agubungele iplastiki kwipakethe aze avikele amalungelo awo; umntu - ukuya kwisiqendu sakho ozithandayo okanye ube ngabahlobo "nabantwana abangalunganga". Amantombazana ayenzi ukunyuka imithi, abafana abalili, umculo awuyiyo inzuzo ... Mhlawumbi wena ngokwakho unokuqhubeka nokuluhlu. Ubuntu bethu (bungafani) abuyikuphela nje kuphela, kodwa, njengamakhredinali amakhanda, baya kutshintsha ubomi bakho abadala.
Xa i-psyche yakho ifana ne-communal, lixesha lokucela i-neurosis clinic. Nangona kunjalo ukuwela ekuphelelwe lithemba kungekho sizathu. Umsebenzi oyintloko unokuthi uchazwe ngale ndlela: ukuba uqhelane nabemi bayo bangaphakathi, ungawahluli phakathi kokulungileyo nokungalunganga, okubi kunye nokulungileyo kwaye oku akufanele kube yinto esaziwayo ngokusemthethweni, kodwa kunoko uphando lwezenzululwazi. uyakuthanda, kwaye akunjalo? Iinkcukacha ezininzi ozifumanayo, eziphakamileyo ithuba lokufumana abahlobo kunye nokufumana ulwimi olufanayo kunye nalo. Inqaku kule ndlela inokusixhasa iminqweno yakho. Qalisa ngempendulo enzulu kwimbuzo othi "Yintoni endiyifunayo?" Akunandaba nokuba ezinye izinto ziya kuphikisana nomhlobo.
Mhlawumbi umntu ophakathi kwakho ufuna ukupenda ngeoli. Musa ukukhawuleza ukuvakalisa eli sidinga okanye ungalunganga - emva koko, izifundo ze-studio yezobugcisa azikuthinteli ukuba ushiye umsebenzi okanye intsapho yakho. Kodwa ukuba ungayinakukunyusa umculi wakho wangaphakathi emva komnyaka, kukho umngcipheko ukuba uya kuvukela kwaye ufuna ukuthatha indawo ephambili ebomini bakho. Umsebenzi ubonakala ungenangqumbo kwaye umphefumlo ucela ukugqithisa? Kutheni ungazami ukugxuma ngeparachute okanye ukuhamba ngebhayisikili yeentaba? Mhlawumbi mhlawumbi, nangona isenzo sesikhathi esisodwa esibizwa ngokuba "andiyi-akhawunti, kodwa ukuphazamiseka" kuya kuzisa uxolo kunye nokuvumelana okude kulinde.
Kwaye inyaniso yokuba ngamnye umntu wethu unesidima sakhe, akukho nto. Ukuba, ngokomzekelo, uba ngumqhubi kumkhwa wokulawula yonke into, zikhangelele umphangi omncinane - loo mntu uya kukufundisa ukuba ungakhathazeki ngezihlwele. Umntu ovelele ngomoya kaMala Haribudet ubaluleke kakhulu kwiingxoxo ezingenathemba kunye nezinye iimeko zokufa. Into ephambili kukuba ufumane ixesha kunye nendawo yakho yeqhawe lakho langaphakathi. Emva koko, kwimizuzu enzima, uya kuba nomntu obiza umnxeba uncedo aze aqhubeke nomntu.