Ukungabi nenombolo 1. Ukuphepha kweengxaki
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi bavakalisa izihlazo ezilungileyo kubantu, xa bengenaso ukuxazulula iingxaki ezincinane, ngokomzekelo, eziyimvelo yasekhaya. Oku kubonakala ngakumbi xa umntu ehamba kuyo yonke ingcamango yakhe kwaye, njengokuba kunjalo, uyazikhulula. Emva koko kubonakala kubasetyhini ukuba le ndoda ishintshisa ingxaki kumagxa abo athathaka, ingakumbi imshiya. Kwaye kwinqanaba leengqondo - akunjalo ngokupheleleyo. Amadoda nje afuna ixesha elide lokulungisa ingxaki. Bamele bacinge yonke into, baqikelele ngokucophelela, ngaphandle kwemvakalelo. Ngenxa yoko bafuna uxolo kunye noxolo. Amadoda akakwazi ukucinga nokunika izicombululo ngokukhawuleza, ngoko ke iingqondo zabo zenziwe.
Abafazi banzima kakhulu ukuqonda amadoda kule meko, kuba bathambekele ukucinga ngezinto zonke, baninzi izigqibo kwiintloko zabo. Xa loo ntokazi icinga ngokucwangcisa yonke into, iyathetha kwaye iyifake kwiithalali, ngoko ke isigqibo esifanele siza kuye ngaphandle kokulibala.
Kwaye amadoda, konke kwenzeka ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Isisombululo seengxaki sifika kubo ngaphakathi, akudingeki ukuba bayandile kwaye bathethe ingxaki njengabesifazane. Kwaye kufuneka kuphela umntu ukuba anikwe ithuba lokucinga, kungekhona ukukhawuleza izinto, kwaye ingxaki yakho iza kulungiswa ngempumelelo nangokuchanekileyo.
Ukungabi nenombolo 2. Ukungaphumeleli ukugcina izithembiso
Yonke indoda ifuna ukuziva ingcono kwisiqingatha sayo, ilungele ukuyijika iintaba, ikhekhe ikhekhe, kodwa yenze loo nto ivuyiselwe. Unokumthembisa into endiyithandayo, kwaye naye uya kufuna ukukhawuleza ukufumana. Kwaye ukuba ngokukhawuleza umfazi akafumani into ayethembisiwe, emva kwexesha elithile angakwazi ukuhamba ecaleni, athukuthele okanye athukuthele, ukuphendula ngokuthe ngqo kuxhomekeke kumlingani wesifazane. Ibhinqa liza kutsho indoda ukuba iphuculwe, ingahambelani okanye ayikwazi ukumnceda.
Ngaloo nto, into eyikrakra kakhulu enokuthi ibe yindoda kukuqaphela ubuthathaka bakhe, ukungakwazi ukunceda umfazi wakhe othandekayo, unokukwazi ukungaziqondi. Xa wayefuna, ngokuchasene noko, ukuba abe yindoda, ukufezekisa iminqweno, umcebisi wakhe. Le meko ivelisa umnqweno omncinci wabantwana ukuba amadoda ahlale ephezulu. Isivumelwano esibi: "Ewe, ewe," "Ndiya kwenza konke" - yiloo nto leyo intokazi efuna ukuyiva kuye ngeli xesha, kwaye yena, ukuze avume ngokukhawuleza kuyo yonke into. Oku akuthethi nakuyo yonke into athembisayo loo mntu ayiyi kuzalisekisa, kumthatha nje ixesha.
Ngendlela, yindoda enesibindi kuphela inokuvuma ukuba into engaphezu kwamandla akhe okanye ukuba idinga ixesha elithile lokuzalisekisa isithembiso. Abanye baya kuphula i-tucker ukuze bazalisekise abo bathenjisiweyo, kwaye xa bengasebenzi, nabo baya kuthukuthela, kwaye ukuzithemba kwabo kungawa. Indoda ngokwemvelo ifuna ukuba yintandokazi. Ngoko musa ukubeka imisebenzi engenakwenzeka phambi kwabathandekayo bakho, ukubeka ekupheleni kokufa, okwenza umqambimanga kuwo, musa ukubuza rhoqo "kakuhle, xa" - ke uya kufumana into oyifunayo kwaye loo mntu akayi kuwela "ekungcola" ubuso bentliziyo.
Ukungabi nenombolo 3. Amanga
Ngamanye amaxesha kulula ukuxoka kumfazi kunokuthetha inyaniso. Amadoda amaninzi anamaxesha amaninzi awajongene nokuphendula okungaqinisekiyo kwabasetyhini kwizimpendulo zinyani. Kodwa oko kungumntu ongaqhelekanga wendalo - ngamanye amaxesha babuza imibuzo enzima njengokuba sele isentloko yempendulo yomntu. Kwaye ukuphendula indoda engcono kunokuba umfazi wayecinga entloko yakhe, kuba akayi kwamkela ezinye iimpendulo. Impendulo ayicinga ngayo iya kuba yinto ekhululekile kwaye iyamkeleka.
Ukuze kuphephe ukuphendula okungapheliyo kwabasetyhini, amadoda afunda ukuxoka. Kwaye, ngovuyo kunye nobuchule lwenziwa. Bonke abantu bakulungele ukuwamkela ubuxoki, obangela ukuba bavuyiswe kwaye bavuyiswe. Ngokukodwa, oku, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuxhalabisa abameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka, abathi, njengokuba siyazi, bathanda iindlebe. Kwaye ekubeni unako "u-hang noodle" kwiindlebe zentombi ezithembekileyo ...
Ngamanye amaxesha sicinga ukuba abantu abaqondi izicatshulwa zengqondo yabasetyhini. Kodwa oku akukwenzeki. Abanye basebenzise ngobuchule, umzekelo, ukubetha. Ngubani na owamabhinqa angathandi ukunyanzela kumntu othandekayo? Khumbula uDostoevsky kunye neqhawe lakhe uSvidrigailov, owonakalisa kwaye wadukisa ngaphezu kwamfazi omnye.
Ukungabi nenombolo 4. Slovenliness
Into ebalulekileyo yabasetyhini. Ukungakwazi kwamadoda ukuzamekela ngokwabo kunye namakhaya abo, ukungazihoxisi iinkcukacha zangaphakathi, indlu yangasese kunye nentuthuzelo yabesifazane abaninzi. Ukunyaniseka kwamadoda kubangelwa ziintlanano zentsapho. Makhe sikhumbule amasokisi ahlakazekile kulo lonke indlu, izinwele ezizinzileyo, ubuso obungaphephile, ukuphefumula okubi, ukusuka kwimilenze kunye nezinto ezifana. Kubantu - kubonakala ngathi kuyinto engathandekiyo, kodwa konke oku kunokubakhubaza ngonaphakade abafazi ekukhongweni ngokwesini kumlingane onjalo ebomini.
Ziziphi izizathu ze-muzhnennoeoprjatnosti? Uninzi kakhulu bakholelwa ukuba oku kubuya kubuntwaneni - kubomama nogogo. Okokufundisa umntu ukuba bahlala beyenza yonke into kuye: baxuba, baqoke amathoyizi, bahlambe iisokisi, bebhulukwe, baze bawafake ngobumnene kwisifuba sabadwebi. Indoda, ejwayele ukunyamekela nokunakekelwa okunjalo, iya kuba ngumntu omdala kunye namava afumanekileyo kunye nokuqinisekiswa kwakhe ukuba uya kugcinwa. Ibhinqa lifumana umphumo walezi zenzo Mami ugogo - umntwana omkhulu, apho kufuneka uhlambulule yonke into, uhlambuluke, uhlambe, uqaphele ngokucophelela njengento encinci. Kodwa a kunjalo nje.
Indoda ayinakukwazi ukuyiqwalasela loo maqabunga njengama-bristle, iisokisi ezincinane kunye nokunye. Kungenxa yokuba ezinye iingcinga zivela entloko yakhe, umzekelo, malunga nomsebenzi, kwiprojekthi, uhlobo oluthile lokufumanisa, malunga nomgaqo ofanayo okanye into ethile malunga nento ethile. Ngoko ke, abanakho ixesha lokuphazamiseka yizinto ezinjalo. Abafazi mabaqwalasele oku.
Ukungabi nenombolo 5. Ukuphazamiseka kwimibandela yomzwelo
I-psyche yesifazane iguquguquke kwaye iyakutshintshwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Kubantu, ngokuchaseneyo, ihlabathi elingaphakathi lide kakhulu kwaye izigqibo zabo ezinzima azizange zithini ukunyaniseka kumlingiswa. Ngamanye amaxesha iimvakalelo zabantu zixhomekeke ngakumbi kwaye zinamava ngokugqithiseleyo. Oku kungabonakaliyo ngaphandle, umzekelo, xa umntu ehamba yonke okanye efihla emva kokushukuma, ukunganelanga.
Ukungabi nenombolo 6. Ukungaqondi
Imfuno yokunxibelelana phakathi kwamadoda ingaphantsi kweleyo yabasetyhini. Ngenxa yoko, ngamanye amaxesha amabhinqa acinga ukuba othandekayo akafuni ukuthetha nabo. Kodwa oku akunjalo. Ukususela kwingcamango yengqondo, amadoda angabesifazane abaphulaphula ngokukhawuleza kuphela imizuzwana eyi-10-15. Abayithandi iinkcukacha, umphumo wencoko ibalulekile kubo, kungekhona inkqubo. Indoda isondele ngakumbi ukucinga kwaye inike impendulo ekulungeleyo, kunokuqonda yonke into, ukuthetha nokuxoxa ngayo.
Ukungabi nenombolo 7. Ukuqhayisa
Ukuntula kwala madoda kukwazi ukutshabalalisa ubuhlobo obunothando kakhulu. Amadoda acinga ukuba ukukhulumisana kwe-ilaskovoe ehloniphekileyo kukubonakalisa ubuthathaka babo. Ngokuphambene noko, abafazi abahloniphekileyo nabanyamekayo emehlweni enkosikazi bayakwazi ukukhusela nokulwela, bamenze bajabule. Kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba unamandla, kuba abanqweneli. Ngamadoda anjalo kufuneka uxoxe ngomusa, kwaye ungaphenduli ngokukhawuleza kwaye uhambe ngokukhawuleza uza kuqonda ukuba ukunyaniseka kumvimbela ukuba angonwabile.
Ukungabi nenombolo 8. Ukuzimelela nokuzingca
I-Egoism - i-conscious and emerging from the characteristics of nature of phenomenon. Umntu owaziyo uyazi ukuba uyintoni na, uyazi iimfuno zabanye kunye nezikhundla. Nangona kunjalo, uyazibalela. Kungcono ukuba ungabi nantoni na efanayo na madoda.
I-egocentric iyigqala njengoluvo oluphezulu kubo bonke. Ngamanye amazwi, kukho uluvo lwakhe nangoluvo lwakhe, okwesithathu alunikwe. Indoda enjalo inokuba ngumtyholi, u-whiner, umona, nokuba ngumntu ongaziwayo, ngaphandle kokuba efunda ukujonga ihlabathi ukusuka kumacala athile. Ngokuqhelekileyo le nzekayo iqhutyelwa iminyaka eyi-12, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ihamba nendoda yonke yobomi bayo.
Kunokwenzeka ukuthetha ngokungapheli ukuba asinelisekanga ngabantu, malunga nokungahambi. Kodwa khumbula ukuba ibhinqa akufanele likhangele iintsilelo kwiintanda kunye nayo yonke ithuba limbambe i-nasos kuyo. A thabathe umntu ngokuba ngubani okanye uzama ukwenza ngcono.