Ngamanye amaxesha uqala ukuthandana, kungekhona ukuba ube yedwa. Elandelayo kuwe ngumntu ongekho nto, oya kuba novelwano kuwe, kodwa uqaphela ukuba ukukhanda kweenwele zakhe ezingaphumelelanga, ke indlela ecasulayo yokuguqula i-cigarette okanye ukutya iSushi. Emva koko, emva kwexeshana, uyaqonda ukuba inveli yakho ayikho into engafaniyo, kungekho ngaphezulu.
Ngezinyathelo zikaBridget Jones.
Uyakhumbula le heroine eqaqambileyo? Cinga malunga nokuba unento efanayo. Mhlawumbi ubomi bakho bonke buzaliswa nto ngaphandle kokulindela uthando oluzayo? Ukuba ucinga ukuba ngaphandle kwesibini ungenzi umsebenzi, inwele, ukucocwa, uyeke, mhlawumbi ulahlekelwa into ebalulekileyo.
Ingaba umntu ngokwenene uphupha kwaye uyishukumisela kuphela sokuqhubela phambili nokuphuhlisa? Ngaba unesiqiniseko sokuthi ngokuza komntu wakho othandekayo, ulahleke zonke iingxaki, umsebenzi uya kukhula ngokwawo, iinwele ziyeke ukulenga, intombi kunye nomphathi uyazibika, kwaye uthuli luqokelele emacaleni? Enyanisweni, ingxaki ayikho ukuba unayo indoda, kodwa ukuba awufuni ukuba noxanduva lobomi bakho.
Musa ukuphulaphula intengiso kunye nemveliso eyenzelwe izibini, ukuya kwimiboniso enomdla kunye namaqela, nokuba ngaba isimemo sinikezelwa abantu ababini, musa ukoyika ukuya kwi-cinema yodwa. Unqobe ukwesaba kwakho kunye nokwesaba ukuba umntu omnye ngombono wakho unokuba ngumgwebi. Funda ukunandipha ubomi, nokuba uthanda okanye cha.
Njengakho konke.
Wena ngokwakho waphawula ukuba kunye neminyaka yamantombazana angatshatanga asondele, kwaye ngokukhawuleza waba yigusha elimnyama. Kodwa iimbono zakho zazingqiniswa kuphela ngamazwi okuqala omama kunye nezihlobo ukuba kuya kuba yithuba lokuba uhlale kwaye utshate. Eminye iminyaka embalwa kunye nabazali baya kufuna abavukulu, kwaye abahlobo baya kukuthandana nabo kwiintsapho zentsapho ngethemba lokutshata nomyeni wakhe osithandayo.
Musa ukufihla kwaye ungashiyi impendulo xa umntu enomdla ebomini bakho. Khumbula, ngokungekho mntu kodwa ungenawo. Kuzo zonke ezinye, unokuphendula ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba yonke into ilungile, ngakumbi xa ujabule nawe.
Musa ukuchukumisa iingcamango zesifazane. Kubukeka buhlungu xa intombazana eyedwa ifuna ukutshata ngokukhawuleza iqala ukuphikisa ukuba amadoda ayidingi umfazi wamanje.
Futhi ungazami ukufundisa kwakhona abazali bakho. Abayi kupheka ngokutya ngokuzonwabisa lwakho, yenza nje ukuba unomdla wokubangela uvuyo ngokukhawuleza kunye neenzukulwana zabo. Nangona oku akusiyo inxalenye yezicwangciso zakho ngokukhawuleza, unokwenza uvuyo lwabazali bakho.
Kwimeko apho.
Ngaba awuziqondi kwintombazana engayithandi, ayinyanga mntu, kodwa igcina umntu egcinwe kuyo? Ngomnye, ngamanye amaxesha uya kuma-movie, ngamanye amaxesha ubonisa iintombi zakho okanye umama kwelinye, udonsa okwesithathu kwiintengiso okanye kumaqela. Ngamnye wabo uqinisekile ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buya kufutshane, kwaye ucinga ukuba akuyimfuneko ukucacisa ubudlelwane kunye nokuncintisana nezinto.
Lahla eli lifu labalandeli abangenalusizo. Sebenzisa ubuncinane iiveki enye kunye nawe, kunye nabahlobo okanye izalamane. Thembeka wena - ukuba uyakhumbula ngomntu kuphela xa ufumana isimemo kwisiganeko kubantu ababini, ngoko awuyidingi. Futhi khumbula - akulungile ukusebenzisa abantu, kuba ixesha elizayo imiva yakho yokwenene ingasetyenzwa ngumnye umntu, ngoko uya kuziva e zihlangukweni zakho.
Ngokomgaqo, ngoku uluntu luhlala luthembekile ngokuphathelele ubudlelwane bobulili obuqhelekileyo. Ngubani ongenzekiyo? Ubuthakathaka obuthathakayo buxolelwa. Kodwa ubudlelwane obungasondliyo kuseyinto engaqhelekanga, engafanele ibe yinto ebomini bethu. Uthando lokwenene lubazisa abantu, ubudlelwane obungabonakaliyo kunye nobudlelwane kunye nomgama. Isaziso, awunayo imvakalelo yokuba uyamanga umqhubi wakho wesikhashana nje ngokuba ngeglasi okanye ifilimu? Ziziphi iintlanzi nezithando? Cinga, mhlawumbi ufanelekele ngakumbi.