Ngokuqhelekileyo umona uvela ekungathembeki ngokuyinhloko kuwe, kumlingane. Abantu abanenzondelelo baqala ukuziqhathanisa kunye nabadlali okanye abanomdla, kwaye njengomthetho, amathuba abo aphantsi. "Le ntombazana inhle kakhulu / inqumle / ininzi / ifundwa kakuhle, kodwa kuthekani ukuba uyayithanda?" Esi sizathu esiyinyaniso sokuba nomona. Kuba bonke abanobukhwele, ingcambu yobubi yinto yokuzithoba. Ukungakhuselekanga ngokwayo kuvelisa iingcamango ezifanayo: "Ukuba umntu ungcono kunam, banokundinyalela."
Kukho nawuphi na umona, umona ngumonakalo owonakalisayo ongahambisani nokuvisisana nolwalamano. Kuye okuphambene nothando. Emva kwakho konke, uthando, okokuqala, lusekelwe kwithemba, inhlonipho, inceba. Uthando lokwenene, akanalo iimeko.
Ukuba unomona wexesha elidlulileyo, ngoko awuzalanga olo dlelwane, awuzange ube nemvakalelo yakho, enxulumene naloo meko. Kwaye ukuba konke oku kuyinyani, oko kuya kuba nemiphumo emibi kulwalamano lwakho olutsha kunye nemeko yakho. Ngoko ke, kufuneka siqedele loo meko, kwaye sishiye konke kwixesha elidlulileyo. Sidinga ukuhlala okwangoku, jongana nantoni na, ungacingi, uthathe uxanduva ngokupheleleyo kwiimvakalelo zethu, iintshukumo zethu, iingcinga kunye nathi.
Imithetho Elishumi yowesifazane onothando. Iingcebiso zeengqondo
I-psychology yamadoda kukuba ihlala ifuna utshintsho. Ukuba uyaluxabisa kakhulu indoda yakho, kufuneka ufunde ukwenza iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo eziza kukuguqula ibe yinto ofuna ukubaleka kuyo. Iingcali zengqondo zichonge iingongoma ezili-10 "zokungaziphathi kakuhle".
1. I-stimulus ephumelelayo yinkcazo kunye nokunyaniseka. Ukuba uzinikezela kweli lizwe elingenakulungeleka, ngoko mhlawumbi awuyi kuvakala, kodwa kube yinto efihliweyo. Ubudlelwane bubulala ukunganeliseki ngokuziphatha komntu othandekayo, imeko kunye nobomi.
2. Akudingeki ukuba ube nomntu wakho othandekayo iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku, kuba xa esondele, uziva iimfuno eziqhelekileyo, ezifana nebhola, ukuloba, umnqweno wokubona umhlobo osondeleyo. Kufuneka kwaye abe neengcambu zomphefumlo, apho uya kuziva ekhululekile. Sifanele sichithe inxalenye yexesha lethu ngokwahlukileyo omnye komnye, ngoko iintlanganiso ziya kwamkeleka kwaye zinyaniseke.
3. Ungatshintshi umthandwa wakho kumfanekiselo nofana naye, umthande njengako, uhlawule ngakumbi iimpawu zakhe ezintle kunokuba kukho ukungaphumeleli.
4. Nsuku zonke zama ukungafani nezolo, okokuqala kuya kubonakala kunzima kwaye kungaqhelekanga, kodwa emva kwexesha uthanda lo mdlalo. Ngaphakathi, uhlale usinyanisile kuwe.
5. Ungabonakali uncedo. Zive ukuzimela kwakho nokwaneliseka. Musa ukumkhathaza ngeefowuni ezingapheliyo, amaxesha amaninzi ngeyure, kuya kubangela ukuphendula okungalunganga kuphela. Xa ubiza, zama ukufumana into ephambili, ungayithathi ixesha lakho kunye nemibuzo emincinci.
6. Musa ukuzama ukuba nomona. Ikhwele ngumqondiso wesifiso esinqwenelekayo sokuma umntu njengento, vala indoda kwinqaba kwaye uyiqwalasele ukususela ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku. Ngale nto, akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Iingxowankulu eziqhubekayo malunga nokulibaziseka emsebenzini okanye kwimisebenzi, ukufunda i-SMS, unokuyibuza umtshato wakho.
7. Impazamo enkulu yabasetyhini enokukuhlawula ixabiso lokunyelona. Zama ukusombulula iingxaki zakho kunye nomthandayo, ungathathi ilinen ecocekileyo ngaphandle kwendlu. Musa ukuthetha ngendlela engonwayi ngayo uya kuziva kwinkampani yomhlobo wakho.
8. Musa ukucinga ukuba umthandayo uya kuthatha inzondelelo yakho ukuya kwiimarike kunye neevenkile. Naluphi na uhambo olubini oludibanayo luya kubonakalisa ubudlelwane obuhle. Ngoko ke, kucetyiswa ukuba uthengise kunye neentombi zakho, kwaye uya kuba nencoko yokuxoxa.
9. Ungalokothi ugxininise ukuba umthandayo unokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho kunye neengcinga zakho. Ukuba akayi kuba ngumqondo ovulekileyo, oko kungcono ukuyiyeka intetho kamva.
10. Musa ukuziphoqa ukuba ulinde ixesha elide. Emva koko, kunzima ukufumana indoda eya kuvuyiswa ngayo, ukuba ubude ufike kwiyure nesiqingatha.
Indlela yokujongana nomona
1. Gcina umlomo wakho uvaliwe.
2. Nangona i-chic insizwa ihamba nayo kwimoto ye-chic, musa ukukhawuleza ukuxelela le ntetho kunye nentanda yakho, awuvumanga.
3. Ungabizi uSasha wakho othandekayo ukuba igama lakhe linguMisha.
4. Ekubeni ubuhle bumnandi musa ukukhumbula uthando lwakho lokuqala nokugcina.
5. Nangona kukho izizathu ezaneleyo, gxotha zonke iinkoliso, kwaye wenze ngokuqinisekileyo nangokuzithemba.
6. Funda kumanga ngokukholisa. Eli buchule lenza imisebenzi emangalisayo.
7. Kwimeko apho, qaphela i-alibi. I-alibi ethembekileyo iya kunikwa ngumama nobawo, kungekhona umhlobo ongcono.
8. Umbuzo othi: "Ubani na ogqobileyo?" Phendula ngokuthobeka: "ngenxa yintanda yakho."
9. Ungazifaki kwigumbi enefowuni ezandleni zakho, fownela amanani ofihla yedwa.
10. Njalo ekuseni, xelela umhlobo wakho malunga nezicwangciso zomhla, kwaye ngokuhlwa uxoxe ngeziphumo zosuku oludlulileyo.
11. Musa ukuzithoba nabanye abantu phambi kwakhe.
12. Ukuba udlala ngothando namanye amadoda ekungabikho kwakhe, musa ukwabelana ngokuthandana.
13. Gweba abadlali abahle, abaculi, ababukeli beTV. Memezela kuphela amanqatha, amanxeba kunye neentlanzi.
14. Xa uhamba ngekhefu, thabatha abantwana okanye unina. Uya kubakhokela abantwana, kwaye uya kuphumla ekuthatheni inxaxheba kwintle.
15. Musa ukuzisa ngesondo kwisini sesondo kunye nezobugcisa zesondo ongazange wamukelwa ngaphambili. Yonke into ifanele ibonakale yendalo, njengokungathi ucinga ngako kuphela ngenxa yokulala kwakhe.
16. Xoxa ngobomi bakho bentsapho kaninzi, ukuba uhlale uthembekile komnye nomnye.
17. Ungatshintshi umbala weenwele kunye nesitayela sezinwele ngaphandle kokuxelela intanda, kukulungele ukuthetha kusengaphambili iintsuku ezi-3 okanye ezine.
Indlela yokujongana nomona, ukulandela ingcebiso yesazi sengqondo, uya kwandisa amathuba okuphumelela kumntu othandekayo kuwe. Ukuze ungabi nomona, kufuneka ukholelwe kuwe, kumntu oyintanda, kumandla akho kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane kungekhona ekukhohliseni nokungahambisani, kodwa ekuthembekeni. Yonke into ixazululwe ngeengxoxo.