Uthando luvakalelo olunzima kwaye luninzi, mhlawumbi kutheni abaninzi banengxaki ekuchazeni. Uthando kuwo wonke umntu - owakhe, umbala ngamnye kuwo ngemibala yayo ekhethekileyo, kwaye ungakhathazeki ukuba awukazanga ukuqonda ngokucacileyo le mvakalelo emangalisayo.
Kwilizwe leentlanga ezininzi, iilwimi kunye namasiko, ngeli lizwi ngamanye amaxesha linikezelwa intsingiselo echasene ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye ngoku - sithetha kumntu "Ndiyamthanda" asisayikungabaza, yintoni enentsingiselo esiyibeke kuyo. Kwabanye abantu eli gama lilingani, kuba abanye likhona kuphela kwibinzana elithi "yenza uthando."
Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba uthando lunamalungu amathathu:
Okokuqala kukusondelana. Kuvakalelwa kukuba usondelene, ukhange. Sifuna ukusondela, ukwenza ubomi bomntu obathandayo bube bhetele.
Okwesibini yisigqibo, ukuzinikela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukuqonda ukuba abantu bathandana, kwelinye - umnqweno nokuzimisela ukulondoloza lo thando.
Yaye yesithathu isithandwa. Ivuselela umdla wesondo. Nangona isithwathwa singenakubizwa ngokuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yolwalamano, kodwa ngaphandle kwayo, iimvakalelo zingapholisa phantsi kwaye zingabikho nto.
Ungacingi ukuba uthando aluxhomekeke kumntu, akunjalo. Unokuqiniseka ukuba ukuba umthandi wakho ukhangeleke ngokungafaniyo, okanye, umzekelo, ufumene imikhwa emibi enokucaphukisa, ngoko kungakhathaliseki ukuba uvakalelwa njani ukuvakalelwa kwakho, baya kuguquka. Uthando lwethu luqokelelo lwalo lonke ulwazi malunga nento, ukusuka kumfanekiso walo obonakalayo, ukuphela ngeengubo kunye nokuvumba. Yonke into eyenzekayo kuwe kunye nomthandayo, yonke intshukumo yakho kunye nokukhangeleka, yonke igama lakho-konke oku kuqhubekayo kunye nokulungisa iimvakalelo zakho. Ngako oko, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba uthando alukwazi ukuphila ngokwalo, lumele luhlale lusomelezwa, luxhaswe kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukubonakalisa uthando lwakho kumthandekayo. Akumangalisi ukuba bathi uthando ngokwenene ngumsebenzi omkhulu. Uya kufunwa ukubonakalisa uthando lwakho rhoqo kwisibini. Ukuba uyayithanda le hlobo lomsebenzi, hlala uye kwi shishini. Awukwazi ukulahlekelwa ngumzuzu.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde kwaye uyamkele ukuba uthando luyisipho. Abanye abantu ebomini babo bonke abazange bazi le ntliziyo. Yingakho kulungele ukuhlaziywa izimvo zakho ebomini kwaye uyeka ukucinga ukuba uthando luyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ibonakala. Kweminye, oku kuphela okukwaneleyo ukuqala ukuxabisa yonke imzuzu yothando.
Ngokuqhelekileyo umbuzo "indlela yokubonisa ubungqina bakho kumthandayo?", Ukwenza ucinge ngenye into. Ngaba ufuna ukubonisa nantoni na umntu? Ngubani na ofuna lo bungqina kwaye kutheni? Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abantu ababuthathaka kunye nabakhuselekanga abafuna ukuva ubuncinane, abafuna indlela yokuzibhokoxa ngeendleko zabantu ababathandayo. Kukhohlakele, akunjalo, ukusombulula iingxaki zakho xa ubeka iintlungu kwiintsapho zakho? Unokukunceda, njengoko kwakungeke kuzwakala ibhanal, ingxoxo engathandabuzekiyo, igama elinobubele. Ekugqibeleni, mhlawumbi, kufuneka uhlolisise isimo sengqondo kumntu onje, ukuba ikusasa lakho kunye neentsholongwane ziyithandeka kuwe. Ngokudla kaninzi kunjalo, abantu abanjalo 'abanangqondo,' bazihlawula ngamanani, kwaye ke, bakushiya ngentliziyo ephukile kunye nephelile, baqhubekile befuna ixhoba elitsha.
Kwenzeka ukuba umntu ufuna ukubonakaliswa kothando, unokuthi, ukuxuba, nje kuphela. Ufuna ukuzisa iimvakalelo kunye nemibala ebomini bakhe ngale ndlela, xa oku akunakwenziwa ngokuhlukileyo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zibambisana, kwaye ngoko ke, akufanele unike ithuba lokuba nobuhlobo obunjalo.
Ekugqibeleni, cinga ukhetho xa usuphilile, nithandana, kwaye nonke "iibhabhathane zithinta isisu" ... Okokuqala, kukufanele ukujonge. Mhlawumbi, ukubonakalisa uthando lwakhe kwimeko enjalo, o, kubaluleke kangakanani. Phendula umbuzo, ngaba unyanzelekile nomthandi wakho? Ngaba ungeva nantoni na? Musa ukucinga ukuba iimfihlo zakho kunye neemfihlakalo zihlala kuwe. Awudingi ukuba ube yingcali enkulu yengqondo ukuba uqaphele ukukhathazeka ngobuso, ukucinga ngokugqithiseleyo kunye nokufihla. Isiqingatha sakho siya kubeka uphawu, uze "ubhale" umfanekiso wakho emphefumlweni wakho. Ngoko gxotha imfihlelo, uchithe yonke into engonakalisa ulwalamano (ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, ufuna ukuyigcina ngokunyanisekileyo), kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, phulaphulaphula isazela sakho - ihlala ikuxelela ukuba unendlela efanelekileyo. Kwaye kaninzi kuthi "Ndiyamthanda" ...