Kuthekani ukuba ungathandabuzi uthando lwesahlulo sesibini?
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, senza ngendlela yethu. Omnye uqala ukulandela isiqingatha sawo, umntu uhlala ethule ebizwa ngokuba yi "rag", kwaye umntu uzama ukuthetha nje ...
Ngokuqhelekileyo, isiqingatha sabantu besizwe asinakuqinisekiswa ngabantu abathandayo, kuba amadoda ayiphatha ngokunyanisekileyo ubuhlobo! Amadoda ngokwawo anobungqina bokungabaza, nangona bafumana "phakathi kwemilenze yabo." Ubulili besilisa abanokungaqiniseki kwabo abazami ukufihla ubunzulu obubudlelwaneni kunye nokuzibonakalisa ngokunyanisekileyo kunye nezenzo ezingadingekile (umona, ngelixa utshintsha ukushiya kunye nokunene, ungenzi izipho zanikwa ngexesha lobabini ubudlelwane, kwaye emva kweminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye). Inxalenye yindoda ibhinqa kangangokuba ixhala. Abayithandabuzo uthando lwesahlulo sesibini baze bazixhomekeke kule nto.
Unokuqwalasela imeko xa ungathandabuzeki uthando lenye isiqingatha nakwelinye icala. Kutheni kukho ukuhlaziywa kwamadoda kunye nabesifazane? Abasetyhini banobuqili kwaye bafana namadoda awunako ukuxelela indoda okanye ibhinqa. Kule meko, intombazana (ibhinqa) inedatha apho yonke indoda yesini iyavuya kwaye kukho utshintsho lweempawu ezithile.
Sinoyika ukunyathela ukuqhosha kwethu, xa kuyimfuneko, xa sinokuthandabuza ukuthandana kwesiqingatha sethu sesibini.
Wonke umntu unelungelo lakhe. Zithintela kangakanani ukukhangela isiqingatha sakho sesibini? Singaqala njani ukufunwa kwisiqingatha sethu oko sikubeke kuyo? Unako konke emva kokunciphisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngenxa yokunyaniseka nokuzikhukhumeza, siqala ukungquzulana, sifuna izinto ezingenangqiqo. Emva koko, akukho ntembelo kumntu obathandayo, kwaye awuyikuthandabuza ukuba uyamthanda.
Ukuba sijonge imeko apho, okomzekelo, oku kulandelayo kwenzeka: umfana kunye nentombazana banquma ukutshata, lo luhlobo olulinde ixesha elide kubafazi abaninzi, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo xa abantu bethetha ngoku, kukho into ebizwa ngokuthi "i-brake"! Okokuthi, kukuqala kokungakhuselekanga kuwe, ungakholelwa umthandayo wakho njalo njalo.
Kwiimeko ezinje, ndicinga ukuba, ngokufanayo kuyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane kwaye uqiniseke ukuba awuyikuthandabuza inceba yesibini. Kunokwenzeka ukwenza oku ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kukho inkqubo enomathotholo kumabonwakude njenge "Belt of Fidelity", kodwa ngokubanzi kukho ininzi yabo. Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene, ngoko unako ukuya khona. Ingundoqo yale nkqubo kukuba loo mthandayo ulungiselela isheke. Ngokomzekelo, le ntombazana. Uxoxisana naye malunga nentlanganiso ngexesha elithile kwivenkile, kwaye xa ixesha lifika, shayela uze uthi uhlale ixesha elithile. Ngokwemvelo, intombazana ihlala kwaye iqhubeka ihleli kule cafe. Emva kwexesha elithile, insizwa esesikhululo se-TV esisephambi kwexesha ihleli etafileni kwaye useofisini ubukele oko kuza kwenzeka.
Kwaye kukho intsebenziswano eyahlukeneyo. Ukuba intombazana ayiphuzi nantoni na, ngoko-ke unokwenza umlingane kunye nomnxeba omtsha kwaye unika inombolo yakhe yefowuni ... Akunasikisi, kodwa, xa ebuzwa ukuba unomfana kwaye uyaphendula "Hayi" ngoko yonke into iyacaca, kwaye ndicinga ukuba intombazana ayiyi kudlula le mvavanyo. Kukho iimeko ezibi nakakhulu xa le ntokazi iqala ukuthetha nomfana, ngoko baqala ukusela, kwaye uyavuma ukuba anganiki kuphela inombolo yakhe yefowuni, kodwa naye uyavuma ukudibana nalo mfana kwakhona, ngakumbi ngakumbi, Le nto yinto ngokukhawuleza ivumelana naye, umzekelo, ukuyi tyelela.
Ngaloo ndlela, ngenxa yenkqubo enjalo, unokuzijonga iqabane lakho kwaye unokuzithemba ngakumbi kulo, ngaphandle kokuba iphela iphelile ngokuphendula kakuhle). Awusayi kuphinda uthandabuze uthando lwesahlulo sesibini.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ubiza kakhulu ukubhenela kumabonwakude, ngoko unokuyidlala le meko ngokwakho.
Kulula kakhulu: uthumele umhlobo wakho omhle ukuba uqhelane nentombi yakho, kwaye uhlala kufuphi nawo, kwaye ubukele ngokukhawuleza imeko ebonakalayo!
Mna, umzekelo, ukholelwa ukuba ukuthembela ngenye yezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ebomini kunye kwaye akudingeki ukuba ungathandabuzi uthando lwesinye isiqingatha. Kodwa, njengokuba i-classics ithi, kufuneka ufumane ukuthembela kwakho, kwaye akunjalo lula!
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqiniseke ngokwakho kwaye unqume oko kubalulekile kulo mbuzo ngokwakho, kwaye sele ufune ukujonga isimo esifanayo nakubantu bakho abathandekayo! Kuye kube njalo kwaye kuya kubaluleka. Zama ukuthetha rhoqo kubathandekayo bakho ngeemvakalelo zakho, uchithe ixesha elingakumbi, ukuba akuhambisani nani, ubuncinane ubuncinane ngeentsuku, xa ufuna ukuhamba!
Ngoko ke, bahlobo bahlobo! Ndikwacebisa ekuqaleni kwaluphi na ulwalamano lokuba nomonde, ukuzithemba ngokwakho nangemvakalelo yakho, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ukuzalisa i-akhawunti kwifowuni yakho yeselula ubuncinane kwiinyanga ezimbini zokuqala ukuqinisekisa ukuba uluthando lwesiqingatha sesibini! Yiyo indlela onokuyiphumelela ngayo ithemba lomntu othandekayo kuwe!