Kodwa loo nto inenhlanhla : ngesizathu esithile ayisebenzi. Nangona kutheni "ngesizathu esithile"? Ayisebenzi ngoba asikholelwa kuyo! Yaye akumangalisi. Bade basifundisa ixesha elide kangakanani: "Awukwazi ukuzingca! Okokuqala cinga ngabanye, kwaye ngoko malunga nawe ... Kakade, oku akunakudlula ngaphandle kokulandelwa.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, uvile isiluleko "indlela yokuzithandayo" ngaphezu kweyodwa, kwaye mhlawumbi wazama ukuwalandela. Kodwa ngoku, xa unyaka omtsha sele ungene kumalungelo awo, siza kudlala umdlalo: masicinge ukuba siwava okokuqala. Zama kwakhona ukuphumeza. Ndiqinisekile ukuba ngeli xesha uya kuphumelela! Kholelwa kuwe kwaye uzithande ngokwakho ukuba ungubani.
Uvavanyo loLuthando
Ukufunda ingxaki yothando nothando ngawe, iingcali zize zivavanywe ngaphezu kobuqhetseba obuninzi obukukunceda ukuba ufumane indlela ozivelayo ngayo. Kwaye sifike kwisigqibo sokuba uvavanyo oluchanekileyo lwenoba sithandayo okanye akunjalo, sisisithethe esilula, esenza ngendlela, siyenza imihla ngemihla. Nantsi indlela esibujonga ngayo esibukweni, yintoni iimvakalelo esizifumanayo. Ukuba ukhangeleka, uyavuya, uzibonga, ucinga into ethi "Awuyi kuthetha nantoni na, kulungile!" - Kakade, uyazixabisa, ntanda wam. Ukuba ukhangeleka nje ngokufutshane nje, kwaye ke xa ufuna ukulungisa iinwele zakho okanye ukhangele ukuba ingubo yakho ibomile, ngoko kufuneka ukuba usebenze ngesimo sakho sengqondo.
Kukho nezinye iimpawu ezibonakalisa ukuba awuwenzi lakho ubulungisa. Cinga ngeengxelo ezilandelayo malunga nawe.
Ndiyayiphika inkonzo yam : "Yintoni wena, andingazi ukuba ndingazenza njani, nje ukuba ndiqatshelwe ngengozi" okanye kuthiwa ngabanye: "Ngaphandle kweViktor Antonovich, andizange ndikwazi ukuyilawula!"
Xa into engasebenzi, ndiyazibuza: "Ndiyinto endiyifunayo, kutheni ndihamba nje kwiikhosi zokuqhuba! Ndisazi ukuba andinalo ulungelelaniso oluninzi. "
Ndizigweba ngokuthi ndikhangeleka kakuhle: "Ngaba ndinomfanekiso omhle? Le ngubo elula ifihle imiphumo. " Ndibingelele into ngenxa yabanye abantu: "Yeka inqabileyo enhle! Kwaye umhla wokuzalwa komhlobo uza kuza kungekudala. Ndiya kukuthenga kangcono kuye. "
Ukuba ubuncinci ababini basondele kuwe, kufuneka uguqule isimo sakho sengqondo ngokukhawuleza.
Zikwamkele
Njengoko u-Kuzma Prutkov uthe, imbono iyingcambu. Uphi ukungathandi ukuvela kuyo? "Ndiyabulela" kuye kufuneka uxelele abantu abaseduze nawe: abazali, izihlobo, abahlobo kunye ... ngokwabo. Ziyinto abagxekayo baze badumise encinci, kodwa ngokwabo - ngenxa yokuba ukholwa loku kugxekwa kwaye wathatha "ibhanki." Kodwa akukho mntu omele uxanduva. Abantu abakujikelezile, baninzi ukuba babengayiqondi into ebangelwa yingozi, ngokuchaseneyo, abaninzi babecinga ukuba babenza okulungileyo. Ngokwam, xa umntu ephinda ephindaphinda "ukuba oku akuyinto emnyama, kodwa i-blue in specks," uya kukholelwa kamva okanye kamva. Ewe, nakubani na, akukho mntu omele uxanduva. Akusitshintshi nantoni na ngaphambili, kunene? Kodwa okwangoku, inokukwenza ukuba unyuse. Iingcali zengqondo zithi isinyathelo sokuqala esiya kunene, ngaphandle kokuba "kodwa", ukuzithanda kukuzivuma ngokwakho.
Ndandifunda ezininzi iincwadi ngokuzithandana, ndathetha ngoku ngokusondeleyo kwaye kungekhona abantu abathile: "Ndandibonisa ngomzekelo wam oku kusebenzayo" ngaphambi kokuba ndiqale ukukholelwa ukuba ukuhlonela kwam ngokwenene bambise ukuba yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle ebomini bam, yonke into endiyifunayo iya kunikwa ngokukhawuleza kwaye kulula. Andikwazi ukusho ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba ndiyamthanda kunye nephuzu, kodwa ndilapha endleleni, endikufunayo kuwe.
Iinguqu ezintle
Kunzima ukuguqula ngokuphawulekayo: ukuvuka kusasa phambi kwesibuko kunye kanye kunye nokukholelwa ukuba ungumnandi kakhulu kwaye unomdla kakhulu. Ukusuka kumava ethu siyazi ukuba le ndlela ayisebenzanga kuphela, kodwa iyakucasula kwaye idangele.
Zonke iinguqu kufuneka zihambe ngokuthe gqolo. Kufana nokulahlekelwa ubunzima. Ukuba ulala nendlala, unokukhawuleza ulahlekelwe isisindo. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba ufake isicelo sezambatho kunye neepeyi, ubunzima buya kubuya ngokukhawuleza.
Yintoni endiyenzayo? Iingcali zenzululwazi zinikela ngemisebenzi embalwa emangalisayo, kwaye yenze ngenye imeko: kufuneka iqhutywe rhoqo.
Okokuqala, yenza uluhlu lwezinto zonke ongazithandayo ngawe. "Ndiyintlekisa," "Ndineenwele ezinqabileyo," "Andikwazi ukuthetha ngokukhululekile." Kwaye ngokulandelayo, bhala amagama abo abo uvalele ezo nkcazo kunye nezizathu zokuba kungani, ngokombono wakho, uthethe. Kwaye kwiphepha elinye iphepha libhale kuzo zonke "izigxeko" zokuthi: "Ndiyakhawuleza ndibuhlungu," "Ndineenwele ezimnandi," "Ndingumhlobo ophelileyo." Emva koko, ngovuyo, ukukhawuleza okanye ukutshisa iphepha lokuqala, ufake isibini kwindawo evelele kwaye ngezikhathi ezithile ufunde kwakhona.
Xa ixesha elizayo ekuphenduleni kwenkomfa wenze ukuba ufuna ukusho ukuthi "Hayi, wena ..." kwaye uzigxeke - ngengqondo uthi kuwe "Yeka!" Kwaye wongeza: "Ndifanelwe amagama amnandi kunye nobudlelwane obuhle. Kwaye ndinokufumana ngakumbi! "
Ukuba ekuqaleni ulahla ngokupheleleyo ukugxekwa akusebenzi, zama ukuwuphazamisa ngeengcinga ezilungileyo. Akunjalo ngokulinganayo. "Ewe, ndabuyisela iikhilogram ezimbalwa, kodwa ndineentsapho ezintle," njalo njalo.
Invest in yourself. Ngengqondo engokoqobo nangomfuziselo. Jabulela wena. Kwaye ungahlali ucinga malunga noko abantu baya kuthetha okanye bangakanani na. Ukuba uziva ujabule, xa uhamba kumdlalo wewonga ozithandayo, okanye ukhange ngakumbi, ukuba u tyelela i-cosmetologist, yenza ngaphandle kokucinga.