Into ephambili ukuyiqonda: umntwana uyayinayo izicelo zakho kunye nemiyalelo engekho engozini (ukuba "uphume kwaye uphumelele iimbilini zakho"), kodwa ngenxa yokuba ungokoqobo. Abazali kufuneka baqonde into ebalulekileyo malunga nomntwana oneminyaka engama-4 ubudala - oku kuyingqayizivele yokuphuhliswa kwenkqubo yakhe yeentlungu. Kuyiminyaka emine ukuya kwemihlanu ukuba umntwana alawulwe inkqubo yokuvuselela. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba umntwana usemnqweno kakhulu kwinto ethile, oko kunzima ukutshintsha kwizinto ezinokubakho. Unenkqubo yokuqhaqhazela, oko kukuthi, umntwana akakwazi ukulawula imeko yakhe. Akakwazi ukuzinza, ukuba uyavuya okanye, umzekelo, uyesaba. Oku kuboniswe ngakumbi okanye ngaphantsi ngokuxhomekeka kwintliziyo. Yonke into ithetha ukuba iimfuno zabazali zokuzithiba ("Vulela phansi!") Xa umntwana ekhuselekile kakhulu yinto engenakuncedo ngokupheleleyo. Ndikholelwe: umntwana uya kuvuya ukuhlalisa, kodwa akakwazi ukukwenza. Olu buchule uya kuqhuba iminyaka kuphela ukuya ku-6-7, kuphela esikolweni.
Imigaqo yokunxibelelana nomntwana
Zixhomekeke kwimimandla yenyama ye-predominance of excitation kwi-inhibition. Ngoko, ukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngokuchanekileyo nomntwana, ukuze akuvile kwaye akuqonde, kufuneka wenze oku okulandelayo:
1. Qaphela ukuba uluvo lwakho. Ukuba ngaba abazali basesimweni esinomdla (inomsindo, ukucaphukisa, ukwesaba, ukuzonwabisa) - akukho mqondo ukulinda uxolo kwengqondo kumntwana. Umfanekiso weklasi kwindawo yokuthenga kunye nomntwana weminyaka engama-4: uhlaziya abaxhwankqisayo ekukhatheni nasekukhatyeleni, kunye nabazali bekhala ngokukrakra: "Ewe, cima! Yeka ukumemeza! ". Nangona kunjalo, i-psyche kunye nomzimba wonke womntwana kuxhomeke kakhulu kwimeko yabazali. Ukuba bayavuya - umntwana uyakhathazeka. Kwaye ukuza kuthobela ukuthobela kunye noxolo kwiimeko ezinjalo ukuba umntwana akakwazi.
Ukuba ufuna umntwana ukuba akuve, zama ukuzinqabisa. Ukuphefumula ngokujulileyo, ukusela amanzi, cela ukuzola umntwana kumntu okhululekile kwaye othobileyo.
2. Ukutsala ingqalelo yabantwana. Ngokuzimela kumntwana kunzima ukutshintshwa kuyo nayiphi na ishishini elincomekayo (ejikeleza egumbini, ekubukeni iikhathuni, njl.) Kwizicelo zakho. Zingaphi izihlandlo ozibonayo umzobo: umntwana uthabatha ngokukhawuleza echibini elingcolileyo (kwaye akusoloko ephethe intonga), kwaye umama umi phezu kwakhe kwaye "amathayi" athile: "Yeka ukwenza oko! UPhew, owenza! ". Kakade, akufanele kubekho ukuphendula malunga nenxalenye yomntwana. Akayivayo ngokwenene, kuba yonke ingqondo yakhe igxininise ngentshiseko kwi-puddle.
Thatha isinyathelo sokuqala-hlala phantsi kwinqanaba lentloko yomntwana, "yibamba" amehlo akhe. Kuye, jonga oko wamthanda ngako: "Hayi! Yeyiphi inqabileyo! Kubuhlungu ukuba awukwazi ukuyichukumisa. Makhe sifumane enye into. "
3. Cacisa ngokucacileyo. Iibinzana ezilula kunye ezimfutshane - ngokukhawuleza umntwana uya kuqonda into oyifunayo kuye: "Ngoku sithatha iikhabhi, ke izandla zam kwaye sidle". Gwema ukuchazwa kweentetho, ingakumbi ngexesha lomzuzu wokutshintsha ingqalelo. Ngaphandle koko, inkunzi ayinayo ixesha lokulandela inkambo yengcamango yakho.
4. Phinda amaxesha amaninzi. Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha kuyacaphukisa. Kodwa intukuthelo nokucaphukisa kulo mzekelo kukuba, uxolo, iingxaki zakho. Akuyona iphutha lomntwana ekuphepheni kwengqondo yakhe, i-biochemical and electrical processes. Yintoni eyasicasula kakhulu xa kufuneka senze into efanayo ngokuphindaphindiweyo? Yiyo kuphela into yokuba, abadala, kubonakala ngathi sisizathu esithile: yonke into kufuneka ifike kuthi yokuqala. Kwaye ukuba akuzange isebenze (ibhalansi ayizange iguquke, umntwana akazange amthobele) - Ndiyindoda! Leli "hello" ukususela ebuntwaneni bethu, apho nayiphina impazamo ilandele ijeziso ngokukhawuleza. Amava abantwana, kubonakala ngathi, ilibalekile, kodwa ukwesaba ukwenza into engalunganga - yahlala. Amava okubuhlungu asenza sibe nemihlali kakhulu xa umntwana engafuni ukuthobela. Umntwana ngokwakhe akanayo nantoni na. Ngoko ke, kungcono ukubuyela kwinqanaba lokuqala "ukunyamekela ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango," kwaye kungengakanani na ukugxeka inkunzi yento.
5. Bonisa oko ufunayo kumntwana. Ngokukodwa xa kuziwa kwimisebenzi emitsha kuye. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana usanda kuqalisa ukufumana eyedwa kwiinqanda zakhe, gcwalisa i-pastel, njl. Endaweni yamagama angenanto: "Fold amathoyizi okukhawuleza" - zama ukuqala naye. Futhi ungakulibali ukudumisa xa ehlangabezana ngokuphumelelayo nesicelo sakho!
Kwinqanaba leengxoxo, xa umntwana exhalabile (ukukhala, ukuthukuthela, ukuhlaziya) -kufanele kuqinisekiswe. Kukho isicwangciso esikhethekileyo, isethi esilandelayo: uqhagamshelwano lwamehlo (hlala phantsi phambi komntwana!) Ukuqhagamshelana nomzimba (thabatha isandla sakhe, ukukhupha) uxolo lwakho lwengqondo. Ukuba uthetha ngokuchanekileyo nomntwana, ngoko uya kukuva. Jabulela uqhagamshelwano!