Unokuthandana njani nomntu obambe isikhundla sobuholi? Yaye ukuba naye unobungangamsha, ulungile kwaye ukhuselekile? Kungenxa yoko abathandi bamabhinqa abo bafazi beba ngakumbi ngakumbi imihla ngemihla. Nangona kunjalo, bambalwa kakhulu abantu abazi ukuba iingxaki kunye neengxaki zinokuphelisa kwanomxholo omfutshane.
Abafazi bahlala bebona izinto ezilungileyo kuphela. Ngokuthandana nomphathi wakhe, abasetyhini bahlala bebona imizekelo yolwalamano oluvuyisayo oluphela ngomtshato. Nangona kunjalo, into ekhoyo apha ididekile.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba inombolo kunye nomphathi kukho iindlela ezimbini zokuphuhlisa iziganeko. Inketho yokuqala yezona zinto ziqhelekileyo: usanda kufika kumsebenzi omtsha kwaye umphathi wakho unomdla kuwe. Inketho yesibini: usebenze ixesha elide kwinkampani, nangona kunjalo, kwiintlanganiso ezinobungozi okanye ezingacwangciswanga, ngokukhawuleza wacinga ukuba umphathi ukhangele kuwe ngendlela ekhethekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kuya kuba yinyaniso, ukudibana kunye nabalingane kunceda ukwandisa umdla. Kwaye ke, lo mfazi ngokwakhe akaqapheli ukuba uyashesha njani ukusebenza. Iiveki zeeveki azisayi kuzisa olo lwaneliseko ngaphambili. Iifowuni zokugqoka kunye neengubo zeeofisi ziya kuba zinzulu ngakumbi, kwaye xa ubona inkokheli, uqala ukuhlazeka.
Ayenzeki ngaphandle komlilo. Ukutsalana komzimba kuvezwa ngamadoda kunye nabasetyhini, ngoko kuyisidenge ukukholelwa ukuba umphathi ubengazi ukuba uyamphatha njani. Kule meko, abasetyhini banakho amathuba okubonisa intshisekelo yabo ekwandeni amandla okusebenza. Ngoku uyavuma ukuba ahlale emva emsebenzini okanye afike kwangethuba, ukuba ngaba umphathi kuphela nguye owanakekelwa.
Njengomthetho, kulo mzekelo ibhinqa ayimi kwaye ixelela iimvakalelo zakhe nomhlobo okanye umlingane emsebenzini. Iiglasi zeentombi zama-Pink zihlala zide kakhulu. Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba u-boss uyona nto iyona nto ibhalwe yile ncwadana okanye ukuba oogxa baqaphele.
Isilumkiso esilungeleyo kubo bonke abasetyhini-ukuthandana nomphathi kungaba yingozi. Eyingozi kwimizi kunye nomsebenzi. Ngelishwa, amanani abonisa ukuba abaphathi kunye nomphathi abapheli nantoni na enhle, kwiimeko ezininzi.
Imiphumo yokuzixinzelela ngokweenkohlakalo zengqesho:
- Ingozi yokufumanisa ngokuthandana kwakho ngumphathi ophezulu. Umphathi wakho unokuthi ajezise ukulahlekelwa ngumvuzo okanye ukutshintshwa kwelinye isebe, elincinci kakhulu. Kwizinto ezinqabileyo, ngokukodwa iingxaki ezinzima, ukuba umphathi wezonomnene ongezantsi angakwazi ukutshisa.
- Njengomthetho, ukuthanda umntu ophumelelayo kulula kakhulu. Ngoko ke, ekuhambeni kwakho ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba neentanda ezimbalwa eentloko zamantombazana afuna ubuhlobo. Ukuba omnye wabo ufumanisa ngesimo sakho sengqondo kumphathi, abayikwazi ukukhangela kuphela umsebenzi wakho, kodwa nobomi bakho. Ukongezelela, ukusuka kwiindlebe kunye neentlebo, awukwazi ukuwususa.
- Kwimeko apho uvelwano lwakho luba lunye, ke oogxa baya kuhleba. Kwaye uchitha ixesha lokuchitha ixesha kunye neengxaki, uya kuba nobudlelwane bakho noxolo. Iindlebe, ukuhleba kuyoba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yolwalamano lwakho, kwaye ngoko ke kuya kuba nesizathu esithile sokuxabana. Ukuba uxabana okanye uxabana, oogxa baya kuphawula oku kwaye baza kuvela kunye neyimbambano yokulwa kwakho.
- Akakuqondi njengentombi yakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda ahlala kwisithuba esiphakeme azi ukuba aziphathe njani ngokuhlukile ekhaya. Ukuba emsebenzini uguba ikhofi, ngoko ekhaya uya kumnakekela ngokupheleleyo. Oku kuyindlela eqhelekileyo, xa umphathi angakwazi ukususa imaski yomphathi omkhulu ekhaya kwaye uyalela umlawuli. Njengomthetho, nokuba le ntombazana yayingumqali wobudlelwane, yena ngokwakhe uyakhalazi nezinyembezi. Ukuziva rhoqo kwindawo yesibini akunakwenzeka.
- Ukhetho olukhethiweyo, xa ugqibe ukusebenzisa umphathi ukuba ufezekise iinjongo zakho. Apha, abafazi ngokwabo basebenzise umkhwa wabo basebenzise zonke iindlela zokukhohlisa. Ndimele ndithi, kakhulu, ngempumelelo. Ukuba ubude bephupha lakho lifanelekile, yenze ukhetho ngokwakho: cinga umphathi okanye ufezekise yonke into. Nangona kunjalo, kukufanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba ungadlulisela ixesha elide kwisithuba esiphezulu kwaye kufuneka udibanise omnye umlingane.
- Ukuba ulwalamano lwakho luqalisile, i-aspustya isikhashana idlulile, mhlawumbi awuyi kukwazi ukusebenzisana kwakhona. Abanye benu kuya kufuneka bashiye umsebenzi wakho, akunakwenzeka ukuba oku kuya kuba ngumphathi wakho, ongeke ashiye indawo epholileyo. Kwaye ukuba uphakamisa ukuba ufuna ukuba mstizza aphumelelwane ubudlelwane ...
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, uvelwano lwakho luyabambisana, kwaye unesiqiniseko sokuthi ukulungele ukuya ekupheleni, okokuqala ufihle ubuhlobo bakho ngokufanelekileyo. Zama ukuxuba umsebenzi wakho nothando lwakho. Ukuba ngaba amava omsebenzi wakho awunzima ngokwaneleyo, ngoko unokukhangela ngokufana nomsebenzi omtsha. Njengekhetho, cela ukutshintshwa kwelinye isebe.
Tshela oogxa bakho kwireveli kuphela kwisigaba xa unquma ukuhlala kunye. Ridkimzhenshchinam inhlanhla, emsebenzini wonke oogxa banabantu abathandekayo, kunye nemoya enobubele kunye nosapho lwenene. Ngaloo mbutho baba ngabahlobo, kwaye inoveli yakho iya kwamkelwa nge-bang. Amaqela amashishini ahlangeneyo, iziganeko zeofisi kunye neentsuku zomsebenzi zijongwa yiholide.
Isiphumo esipheleleyo: inveli kunye nomlawuli kufuneka iqaliswe kuphela xa kuxolelana kunye kunye nokugqibela ukuyifihla kubalingane.