Kwiingxabano phakathi kwabantwana nabazali, akukho nto entsha kunye engavamile. Kodwa ke, unyaka unyaka, ukususela kwinkulungwane ukuya kwinkulungwane, izizukulwana azikwazi ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo. Ngenxa yokuba ulwalamano olusapho lushushu, ukuxabana kuqala, kukho inzondo kunye nenzondo. Ukuba intsapho sele iqalile ukuhlahloka ubudlelwane, abazali kufuneka bathathe ngokukhawuleza imeko leyo, ukuze konke kungabi kubi. Kodwa umzekelo, akubona bonke oomama bazi indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane nentombi yentombazana. Nangona, kubonakala ngathi, abafazi ababini bafanele baqonde. Nangona kunjalo, umahluko kwiminyaka ibonakala ngokubonakalayo. Yingakho bonke oomama baqonda indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane nentombi yakhe, ngakumbi xa eselula.
Yaye zonke iingxaki nentombi yakhe, zidla ngokuqala ekufikeni. Nangona kunjalo, akumangalisi. Umama ngamnye ukhangeleka ukuba intombi yakhe yincinci encinci, yonke loo nto ithenda, intombazana entle enemilo. Yingakho xa intombi ikhula, kunzima ukuba umama adibene naye, kuba umama uyicinga njengentombazana encinci, kwaye intombi yakhe ifuna ukuzivakalelwa njengendoda ekhulile. Indlela yokwenza kule meko?
Ukuphepha Ukuthanda
Okokuqala, oomama abaninzi basonakalisa ubuhlobo nentombi yakhe ngokuzama ukunyanzelisa iingcamango zabo kwizinto ezithandayo nangaphezulu. Okhe ngakumbi nakakhulu, bathetha ukuba izinto ezithandayo kunye neenkwenkwezi zintombazana ziphosakeleyo kwaye aziqhelekanga. Ngoko akunjani na. Nangona intombi iqala ukubandakanya emculeni omninzi, uzibheka njenge-goth kwaye ixhomeke ngeefowers ezingaqhelekanga, ungagqiba ekubeni unguye kwinkampani embi kwaye uzilimaza.
Xa beselula, abantwana bayazijonga kwaye bazame ukuziveza. Yingakho baqala ukuba banomdla kwiingqungquthela, ukugqithisa ukulungiswa, ukuphulaphula umculo, ohlukileyo kwimizimba. Ukuba ulwalamano lwakho nentombi yakho luqala ukuhlabalala ngenxa yokuphila kwakhe, ngoko, njengomama, kufuneka ufunde ukuba uyamkela njani njengoko kunjalo. Ukuba ubona ukuba isitayela sakhe kunye nokuthanda akuthinti kakubi (akaphuzi, ngokuqhelekileyo ufunda, uziphatha ngokufanelekileyo), ungazami ukutshintsha intombi yakhe. Ngaphandle koko akufuneki ngokunyamezela ukuzama ukujoyina ihlabathi lakhe. Kusadingeka uhlale umama - oko kukuthi, umntu omdala ongazami ukuxhoma kunye naye, kodwa unokuncedisa ngcebiso xa ecela.
Ukunxibelelana nentombi yakhe, kufuneka ubenomdla ebomini bakhe, kodwa ungabuzi. Uya kuzixelela ngokwakhe oko akucinga ukuba kufanelekile, ukuba awuyixinzezeli. Xa intombazana iselula ivula phambi kwakho, akukho mzekelo kufuneka igwetywe. Nangona ucinga ukuba akalungile, zama ukuzincoma ngokukhawuleza, ucebise iindlela zokusombulula ingxaki, kodwa ungakhange ukhwele, ungabizi, ungatsho ukuba akazi nto kwaye akazi. Ukuba intombi iya kukuva kuwe kuphela isigwebo, awuyi kukwazi ukuseka ubudlelwane kwaye iya kupheliswa.
Ingxabano ngenxa yomfana
Ingxabano phakathi koomama nentombi ingabangelwa uthando lokuqala kunye nabaqhubi, abakwaMama abangavumiyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kule meko, unina kunzima ukuzibamba, kuba ufuna ukukhusela umntwana kumntu ongenakufaneleka. Nangona kunjalo, kwimeko enjalo kufuneka ubeke kwindawo yayo kwaye ukhumbule ukuba xa uthanda, ubona kuphela okulungileyo, kwaye ubona nantoni na into ebhekene nento yokububula njengento yokuhlambalaza. Ngoko ke, nangona umama ebona ukuba intombi ikhetha intsha engalunganga, umntu kufuneka athathe ulawulo lwakhe kwaye anike umntwana ukuba afunde kwiimpazamo zakhe. Kakade ke, ngelixa kungekho mntu ulela ukunika iingcebiso ezingenakunceda.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba ufuna ukuseka ubudlelwane nentombi yakho yentsha, khumbula ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba unjani ubudala. Funda ukujonga imeko engekho kwiminyaka yakho, xa sele usilumko kwaye ubone okuninzi. Khangela le meko ngamehlo entombazana yakho, oqala ukuhlola ihlabathi. Ukuba unokwenza oko, uya kuqonda indlela onokukunceda ngayo, ngaphandle kokungqubana.