Uncedo kwengqondo yengqondo kwiimeko zobunxila

Uncedo lesazi sengqondo kwiimeko zobunxila phakathi kwabantwana ngoku liyinyathelo ebalulekileyo ebomini obungcono. Emva kwakho konke, okwangoku utywala lwabantwana luya kuba luqhelekileyo, kwaye luye kwenzeka rhoqo. Kuyadabukisa ukuba abaninzi abaselula banomlutha kunye nolo kunceda ukuxazulula iingxaki zabo, kodwa ngelo xesha baya kuba ngamabanjwa, bachithe umzimba wabo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo, bazilimaze ngokwabo, babo ubomi besikhathi esizayo, isimo selizwe labo, kwaye kubantwana babo kwikamva, kungabonakali indlela abazisola ngayo ngabazali xa beva malunga nokusela utywala komntwana. Iingcamango zabo zivame ukuba: oko kwenzeka njani, oko kwenzeka njani, kodwa ke, xa ingqondo iqala ukwenza ngamandla kuneemvakalelo ezixhalabileyo, bacinga ngendlela yokusindisa umntwana wabo, sinokumnceda njani ukuhlangabezana nokusela utywala?

Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ukhetho olufanelekileyo luncedo lesazi sengqondo kwimeko kunye notywala kwabantwana. Ukuba ufuna ukugcina umntwana wakho, ngokukodwa umntwana osemtsha, ukuyeka, ukuthuswa kunye nezohlwayo akayi kumsebenzela, ukuba ufuna ukusela, uya kufumana isikhalazo, isizathu, ithuba, njl njl. Ukuba ufuna ukukrazula umntwana wokusela utywala, kufuneka, ngaphezu kwakho konke, usebenze engqondweni yakhe, umkhuthaze kwisinqumo esifanele ngotywala, usebenze ngokomoya, iimvakalelo, umncede kuzo zonke iinkalo zomphefumlo.

Abazali kaninzi bafuna uncedo lwengqondo. Ukuba baqonda umntwana wabo njengomntu ogulayo, le nto ayikho ithemba, bayabandezeleka, baba ngumlwelwe. Ngaphezu koko, intlekele enjalo kwintsapho ibangela ukungaphumeleli rhoqo kweengxaki zabazali, iingcinezelo kunye neentsholongwane ezibangelwa amava emntwaneni wabo, kwaye oku kuqondakala ngokupheleleyo. Umntwana odla utywala kunye noxinzelelo lokuxhomekeka kotywala kotywala, ukuziphatha kwakhe kakubi, isimo sengqondo sihlala sihlahloka, ukungabi nandaba nokuphila, ukungakwazi ukuzilawula kunye nezenzo zakhe, ukuphendula ngamagama akhe, kukho ukuhlaselwa kobugwenxa, ukucaphuka, ukunyaniseka kubazali , ukungafuni ukuthetha nabo. Umntwana uyazibophelela ngokwakhe, kwaye ngoko ke uyazinikela ekuthuthukiseni utywala. Akakwazi ukuphucula isimo sakhe sengqondo, ukulawula iimvakalelo zakhe, ukuthetha kunye nenkampani engenalo utswala. Kuphela ngoncedo lwakhe uvuselela aze abe neengqondo ngokuxhomekeke kuye. Ingqondo yokuzonwabisa, ukungahambi kakuhle kwiingcamango kumkhangela umntwana osemtsha, ngaphandle kwakhe akakwazi ukuhlala. Nangona ufuna "ukuyeka", kuya kuza ixesha xa eqala ukusela utywala. Impembelelo enkulu ngabahlobo bakhe. Ukuba inkampani yokuphuza iselula, akukho nto inokuthi iya kubandakanywa nokuxhomekeka kotywala, utywala luya kubonakala ngathi yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye nangona kunjalo, abahlobo bayakhuthaza umntwana ukuba aphuze kunye nabo, bathethe amabali amnandi ayenzeka ngexesha okanye emva kokusela utywala. Utywala engqondweni yomntwana uyeka ukuhlala kwindawo enjalo, ukuba, njengokuba kunjalo, wonke umntu uyasela kwaye akukho mntu uyafa, iziphumo zakhe ezimbi ziba nokungathandeki, kunye nokuwa kokuziphatha, ukungabi nesazela ngexesha lotywala - elingayo. Utywala uqala ukujonga emehlweni akhe njengesiselo esivumela ukuba abe nexesha elihle nelonwabo kunye nabahlobo bakhe, bahlaziye, bazinikele kwizenzo zakhe baze bafumane amabali amnandi amaninzi ngenxa yoko, bongeza idrama ebomini bakhe. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana uba ngumntu ongeyantlukwano, utywala kungabangela ezininzi iingxaki zakhe, kubandakanywa nezihlobo, abahlobo, intombi, intlalo kunye nomthetho.

Kubo bonke abantu abathabatha utywala ixesha elide, uncedo lwesazi sengqondo, i-psychotherapy ekuxhomekeke kotywala kuya kuba luncedo. Oku, okokuqala, kuya kunceda ukuseka ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho, ngenxa yokuba utshatyalazo lomntwana luhlazo oluqhubekayo, iimangalo zomlomo, ukuxabana, ukunganyamezelani. Ngexesha elide, umntwana unokuba neentloni, kodwa ayinakusindisa ekutywala, kodwa angenza imeko ibe nzima ngakumbi - ukungabi nandaba, ukungakhathaleli, ukuziva ungenamandla okulwa nokulwa kotywala. Ukungabi nethemba kubangela ukungabikho kokukhuthaza. Abazali akufanele batyhale umntwana, bamgxeka baze bambethe, bawagxeka ngenxa yazo zonke iingxaki zabo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, kodwa abantwana kufuneka baphathwe ngokuqonda, bafanele bazive benothando kunye nethemba, ngaphandle koko abayi kukwazi ukujamelana nabo. Ingqondo yengqondo inceda ekupheliseni iingxabano ezingaphelelanga, ukuseka ubudlelwane phakathi komntwana kunye nabazali bakhe, nesimo sakhe sengqondo kuye, ukumkhuthaza ukuba alwe notywala, ukuvula amehlo yakhe kwimiphumo yakhe kunye nokususa isigqubuthelo esibomvu esiluhlaza emva kokuba utywala uqala ukufihla. Utyando lwesigulane luhlala luqala ngomzuzu xa eqonda utywala kunye nokuxhomekeka kwakhe, ufuna ukukulungisa. Akukho mntu unokutshintsha umntu ukuba akayithandi, ngoko umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba unengxaki echaphazelayo kuphela, kodwa intsapho yakhe. Ukususela kuloo mzuzu, ikhowudi umntwana uyazi ukuba unenkinga, kwaye unyango luqala ngotywala.

Nangona kunjalo, uncedo lwengqondo aluyi kuthatha indawo yonyango lwe-psychiatrist-narcologist. Ukuba loo nto iyanzima kwaye akukho zindlela ezinokunceda ekulwa nokuxhomekeka, umntwana kufuneka ahlaziywe kwaye abekwe kwikliniki, ukuba amkhuthaze kuyo yonke into entsha, kubandakanya indlela yokuphila, ukulahla imikhwa emidala. Ukuxhatshazwa kwezilwelo kudla ngokukhawuleza kwimeko yengxaki zangaphakathi kumntwana, ngenxa yoluhlobo oluthile lwengxabano phakathi komphefumlo wakhe. Izizathu zingaba zihluke kakhulu, kodwa apha ingxoxo kunye nengcali yeengqondo iza kunceda ukuchonga le ngxaki yomntwana kwaye imncede ukuba ajamelane nayo, kwixesha elizayo ukuthambekela okunjalo kunye nokukhuthaza utywala kuya kubonakala.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, uncedo lengqondo yeengqondo kule nkalo yobomi bulukhuni luyimfuneko, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ludlala nendima ebalulekileyo kwaye yindlela kuphela yokuphuma. Kodwa akufanele uyilibale malunga nenxaxheba ebalulekileyo yabazali kumntwana, impumelelo yabo ixhomekeke ekuphatheni kwabo, kunye nesiphumo. Ungamangaleli umntwana, umxhase uze ungamvumeli ukuba uyamthanda. Emva koko ingxaki yokusela utywala iya kulungiswa, kunye kunye unokukunceda.