Kwiminyaka emithathu umntwana ukususela ebuntwaneni buntwaneni uya kuba yintsapho yokufundela. Wabumba iimpawu eziphambili zobuntu. Isimo sengqondo kwihlabathi kwaye ngokwaso sihlalutyo njengenxalenye yendalo. Ikamva lomntu omncinci lixhomekeke ekubeni uphuhliso lwakhe lwenzeka njani ngeli xesha. Iimpazamo kunye nezikhefu ekukhulisweni komntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala kuya kubonakala ziqale ekuqaleni kokuphila kwesikolo.
Ziziphi izikhelo kwimfundo esivumeleyo.
Sihlala sixakeke ngento ethile, kwaye asinaso ixesha elaneleyo kubantwana bethu. Kubonakala kuthi kuthi kukho izinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi zokwenza. Isabelo esiphuthumayo esivela kumphathi, ukucoca - ukupheka - ukuhlamba, izihlobo ezigulayo, imibukiso yeTV enomdla ... Njengabantwana banako ukulinda. Kodwa, njengoko kuvela emva koko, abalindi nje. Baqala ukukhangela ingqalelo kwicala, kubantu abangabazi. Kwaye ke abazali babo baba ngabafokazi kubo. Ngoko ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kunzima kangakanani, kufuneka uthathe umgaqo ubuncinane iyure ngosuku ukuba uhoxise ukuthetha ngokusondeleyo nomntwana. Ngokomzekelo, ngaphambi kokuba ulale, hlalani kwisikhefu sakhe. UPatri entloko, cela indlela yakhe yokuhamba ngayo.
Abanye abazali abazi ukuba bathande, bathanda yonke le nto engadingekile. Ukulungiswa nokuchaneka yizona zinto zixabisekileyo kwiintetho zabo. Kwaye "i-syusi-pusi" inokulimaza kuphela. Iingcamango ezinjalo eziphosakeleyo ngumngcipheko omkhulu ekukhulisweni komntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala. Khumbula, ukunyamezela umntwana kuyimfuneko njengobungqina bothando lomzali. Uvakalelwa kukuba uyamthanda, ufumana ukuzithemba. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umntwana usenokuxinzelelwa ngumnqweno onqwenelekayo wokumbambisa kwiingalo kwaye uyamanga. Zama ukungammangalelwa ngayo. Yenza iqela lokuphucula livela kumntwana.
Ukuzikhukhumeza ngokweqile kwakhona akuncedi umntwana. Abantwana abaphangiweyo baba liziko lokunakwa kwintsapho. Akunakunyulwa nantoni na, bakhuselwe kuzo zonke iingxaki. Kwaye kubhekane nobunzima bokuqala bokuphila, abakwazi ukuwunqoba. Ukungena kubantwana bebonke, abantwana abanjalo banesizungu - kuba akukho ziinkwenkwezi zilapho.
Andifuni kwaye andiyi kuthi.
Eninzi ibhaliwe malunga neengxaki zeminyaka emithathu. Yonke into evile ngayo, ekulungele ukuziphatha. Yaye yena, inselele, usakwazi uku "gxuma" engaboni. Ingakumbi kubazali bephakamisa umntwana wabo wokuqala. Ekuqaleni, awuyikunyamekela ukuba injalo isana esilumkileyo nesingathobeliyo saqala ukudlala okungakumbi. Ngamanye amaxesha ayifanelekanga ukuphendula kwizenzo zakho namagama akho. Uqala ukuziphatha ngokungaqhelekanga kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo. Ukubhala konke into yokuba umntwana uchithekile, uzama ukuqinisa impembelelo yemfundo. Emva koko uyaqonda ngokuphazamiseka ukuba akukho migaqo yamandulo eqinisekisiweyo yemfundo, okanye abatsha abakwenzayo kuyo. Akukho sikhwama, akukho kroti, ayikho nto.
Imeko imihla ngemihla iyancipha - umntwana njengomnye. Infinite "Ndifuna - andiyifunanga", "Andiyi kuba-andiyi kuthi." I-Hysteria ukususela ekuqaleni, u-"no" ongunaphakade kwisiphakamiso, ukungahambelani kunye nenkani. Emva koko uqala ukuqonda ukuba le yinkxalabo! Inokuqala kwiminyaka emi-2.5, kwaye mhlawumbi ngo-3.5. Phantse ngeli xesha, abantwana baqulunqwa ngokwazi, kwaye le nto ibangela isingxaki esizayo. Ukuthetha nabo kuya kuba nzima. Xa uziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo nomntwana, ongapheliyo kwaye unenkani uya kuba. Into eyingozi kakhulu ukhetho xa abadala bebetha abantwana, bacetyisa ukuba bafundisa isifundo esihle ekuthobeleni. Isiphumo siphumelelweyo: Umama noTata kule mpu melelo. Kodwa umntwana, engahlanganisani nendima yokutshatyalaliswa, uya kufuna ukufumana intsapho yakhe. Unokuba ngumxhaphazi kunye nomloli.
Abazali abangqongqo kufuneka bakhumbule ukuba kwiminyaka emithathu, ukubunjwa kobuntu. Musa ukubeka isigqibo sakho rhoqo. Oku kunciphisa umnqweno womntwana ukuba aphume kwaye athathe indawo yakhe kwihlabathi elikujikelezile. Musa "ukuphula" umntu ekuqaleni kwenkqubo yophuhliso. Ukukhula kwabantwana baqala ukufuna ukuzithobela, intliziyo yabo kunye nokuthanda kwabo. Ngobunkani bazama ukusibonisa ukuba banalo ukuthanda. Baphinde bazive sisimo sethu kwaye bafumane ubuthathaka kuyo. Ukuze bawasebenzise ukukhusela ukuzimela kwabo. Ukunyaniseka kwabo bahlala behlaziya. Yintoni esibachasayo yona, ngaba iyanqatshelwe, okanye xa senza umgudu, imeko ingatshintshwa? Amazwi abo abathandayo akuthi "hayi", "andiyifunayo" kwaye "andiyi kuthi." Nantoni na enikwenzayo, nayiphi na into oyicelayo - okokuqala ukuphendula kuya kuba "cha." Ngenxa yokuba esi siphakamiso sivela kuwe, abazali. Ndikwazi njani ukulahlekelwa ngumsindo?
Kodwa jonga kuyo ukusuka kwelinye icala. Kaninzi uhlala uthi akukho kuye. I-Sweet ayikwazi, idlala ibhola kwipropati, nayo, awukwazi ukuthenga imoto kwaye ungafaki iikhathuni. Kwaye uqala ukukukopisha. Ingane ikhula kwaye iyaqonda ukuba ngumntu ofanayo nabanye. Ingakumbi - njengabazali bakhe. Kwaye akukho ukungalingani, njengokuba uncinci, kwaye ndikhulu, akayi kuba nesineke.
Kutheni abantwana bengayithobeli? Ngenxa yokuba abayiqondi isizathu sokuba kubalulekile ukwenza ngokufanayo njengoko umama efuna. Abaqondi izinto ezininzi zokuqala eziqondakala kunoma yimuphi umntu omdala. Abenakho ukucinga okucetywayo. Kaloku, uneminyaka emithathu ubudala unokuchaza njani isizathu sokuba afune ukuya egadi, ukuba akafuni ukuya khona namhlanje? Kwaye kutheni umama angamthengi umshishini afuna kakhulu? Okanye akakuvumeli ukuba udle ezininzi ze-chocolates? Ukongeza, abanakukwazi ukubona ngokukhawuleza ulwazi. Kufuneka iphindwe kabini, ukwenzela ukuba ekugqibeleni bayayiqonda kwaye benze izigqibo ezithile.
Abazali kufuneka banyamezele eli xesha elibunzima kunye nokulahlekelwa okungenani. Eyona nto ingengqiqo kule meko ayiyi kuthatha yonke into eyenzeka ngokungathí sina, ibonise ukuguquguquka kunye nomonde. Qhubeka malunga neengqungquthela ayifanelekanga, kodwa apho kunokwenzeka ukuba unqande ukungaziboni, ungazami ukutshabalalisa imeko ngokunamathela kwimigaqo.
Ufuna ukuzimela-makabe nguye. Kwaye awuphazamisi kwimicimbi yakhe ade abuze. Akakwazi ukukhawuleza iqhosha kwi-blouse yakhe, ukuthukuthela, umsindo ngenxa yeminwe yakhe engenayo - awuphazamisi. Akasayikuxabisa kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuthukuthela ngakumbi. Indlela yokugqoka, nokugqoka. Ungadonsa ngokungekho imilenze - uthi: "Kucelwa utshintshe iibhande zakho." Ijacket ephosakeleyo yebhokisi - phawula kwiphutha kwaye ucele ukulungiswa. Kwaye ngoko yonke into. Dlala ngemithetho yayo. Xa ufika ekhaya, mcele ukuba athole i-slippers yakho. Okanye thabatha izitya ekhitshini, usule itafile nge-rag emva kokutya. Ukubandakanya umntwana ekucoceni indlu. Ukuba akaphumelelanga, nikela ngoncedo. Yaye makafunde.
Umntwana ongenasiphelo.
Umntwana oneminyaka emithathu uhlala exakekile ngomsebenzi othile. Emva koko udonsa into ethile, kwaye uyayichitha, kwaye izisa "imiyalelo" yakhe kwindlu. Kwaye kufuneka abe nexesha lokujonga ngefestile, udlale ngeembiza, uthetha ngefowuni kunye nogogo wakhe kwaye ufunde kunye nonina ngenganekwane. Uqhayisa kakhulu ngeetalente zakhe. Ukuba unyaka odlulileyo wayenandipha le nkqubo kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni umphumo, ngoku uyaneliswa yinto yokuba ihamba kakuhle. Ngaloo nto, akumangalisi ukuba, xa ufunde ukusika ngeesikhewu, unokuhlala uninzi lweentaba zephepha. Kwaye ukuba ufunde umzobo wendlu, uhlala ubonisa kuphela. Yaye naphi na indawo ekhohlakeleyo: kwi-napkins, amakhuphoni, kwincwadi yebazali kunye nakwiphepha lodonga. Kubonakala ukugxeka, umntwana uqala ukuhlola ngokuphumelelayo impumelelo yabo. Unokucaphukisa xa edonsa okanye ephazamise into engekho ngendlela enokuthanda ngayo. Okanye waphosa ibhola kungekudala umzalwana wakhe omdala. Sele sele ezama ukuphelela. Kwaye umsebenzi wethu ukumbonisa indlela yokuphucula iziphumo zakhe.
Ubudala kwiminyaka eyi-3-4 yinto efanelekileyo kakhulu ekufundeni izakhono zomsebenzi wabasebenzi. Kubalulekile kule minyaka ukufundisa umntwana ukuba ahlambulule izandla ngokufanelekileyo aze asule. Ukuhlamba amazinyo akho, ukubeka izicathulo kwikhedidi, ukucoca iimidlalo zakho. Emva koko yena uya kuqala ukulandela inkqubo.
Abantwana bathanda ukudweba. Vumela xa imidwebo yabo ifana kakhulu ne-doodle, banokuthi bathethe okuthile malunga nombhali. Umzekelo, malunga nenqanaba lokuphuhliswa kwengqondo. Kucaciswe ukuba kukho uxhomekeke ngokuthe ngqo phakathi kwakhe kunye nesimo somsebenzi womfanekiso womntwana. Kwiinyanga ezili-12-15 umntwana oqhelekileyo unokukhupha imigca engalunganga. Kwiminyaka engama-2 ukuya ku-5,5-ukukopisha isangqa, kwiminyaka engama-2,5-3-umnqamlezo, kunye neminyaka emine-isikwere.
Dweba abantu abancinci abantwana baqale malunga neminyaka emithathu. Zibukeka njenge-cephalopod, ezibandakanya iinxalenye ezintathu: intloko, amehlo, imilenze okanye izandla, ezinokudityaniswa ngokwasemzimbeni. Ngeminyaka engama-4-4.5, umculi omncinci sele ekhangela umntu kumacandelo ayisithandathu. Ngendlela, kwingcali ye-psychodiagnost, umzobo womntu ngowona mthombo ochanekileyo wolwazi ngomntwana.
Ukwenza izikhelo ezimbalwa ekukhulisweni komntwana, khangela ukuba lukhula ngokuvumelana nemimiselo yenyama. Nazi izikhokelo eziphambili zokuphuhlisa umntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala.
Uphuhliso lomzimba lomntwana. Umntwana kufuneka:
• Eyona nto ithetha umdlalo.
• Ngumbonakaliso wokukhusela ukunyakaza.
• Hamba ukusuka ekuphakameni ukuya kubude ngamasentimitha ama-15-20.
• Thatha ibhola ngaphandle kokuxhomekeka esifubeni. Yiphosa ngezandla zombini.
Uphuhliso lwengqondo lomntwana. Umntwana kufuneka:
• Yazi imibala engundoqo eyisithandathu. Khetha izinto ngombala nangomthunzi.
• Yazi ezinye iifom zejometri: "isangqa", "unxantathu", "isikwere".
• Bala ezintlanu.
• Yazi ixesha lomhla nexesha.
• Ukubuza imibuzo: "kutheni?", "Yintoni?", "Kutheni?".
• Phulaphula kwaye ubuye. Ukuchonga ikhonkco ebalulekileyo kwibali okanye ngongoma.
Uphuhliso lwengqondo lomntwana.
• Iintloni zenza ihlazo.
• Unako ukuziva uvelwano kunye novelwano, uqala ukuqonda isimo sengqondo sabanye abantu.
• Ngokukhawuleza novuyo.
• Unokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zabo.
• Uqonda imigaqo yokuziphatha, kodwa akayikulawula ngokupheleleyo iiminqweno neemvakalelo zakhe.
Ukwenza iimpazamo kubuthathaka bobuntu. Kwaye isithunzi sabantu siyabona.