Ukubonakaliswa koxinzelelo
Izandla, njengemilenze, i-flit ngaphandle kokuma emoyeni, ukuphuka, ukubetha, ukuthatha, ukuziva. Intloko ijikeleza i-180 degrees - ngokukhawuleza okuthakazelisayo uyakuphosa! Kodwa inzala, ukuba yinto echanekileyo, inzululwazi, i-alas, iyanelisa imizuzwana, kwaye umntwana ujika ngokukhawuleza kwenye into, kwaye angayi kubamba into ebalulekileyo yinto eyenzekayo.
Uphando alukho kwimeko yakhe. Ukusuka kuye unqabile ukuba "kutheni" kwaye "kutheni". Kodwa ukuba umntwana, njengoko athethayo, uya kufumana, emizuzwini emihlanu umntu omdala uya kuva iimbuzo ezingamashumi amabini, kwaye akukho mntu uya kuba nexesha lokuphendula. Ingane ekhutheleyo ikhumbule ukuba impendulo ifanele iphulaphule. Kwaye akukho xesha. Yonke iseshishini, unesigqeba "seengxaki" ezifuna ukusombulula ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye ngomzuzu uya kuthi (kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, angagqiba) inani elingaqhelekanga leemeko ezahlukeneyo. Mhlawumbi uMama uya kukwazi ukunondla umntwana wakhe, kodwa ukhetha ukutya ukuma, ukuphazamiseka rhoqo into enomdla kunokuba isitya sesobho. Kwiindawo zoluntu olunjalo umntwana unomdla ngokukhawuleza, kuba uzama ukunyuka yonke indawo aze athathe yonke into, ayigatya iincwadana zabazali. Enyanisweni, akuyena umntwana, kodwa umbane wamanzi abilisayo kunye abilayo, ugcina abazali bexinzeleleke rhoqo kwaye baholele ngamanye amaxesha ukugqiba ukukhulelwa ngokomzimba nangokwenyama.
Nangona kunjalo, musa ukukhawuleza ukubeka umntwana wakho uluhlu olungabonakaliyo. Oku kuxilongwa, igama layo ngqo-ukukhathazeka kweengxaki kunye nokunyanzelisa, kunokufakwa kuphela ugqirha, i-neurologist okanye i-psychiatrist, kwaye ngoko kusetyenziswa ukuxilongwa okhethekileyo. I-Hyperactive ayilona umntwana ophekayo. Uninzi lwabantwana abaneminyaka eyi-1.5 ukuya emibini ubudala bahamba rhoqo ukusuka ekuseni kuze kube sebusuku. Kodwa ngelo xesha baya kugxininisa ingqalelo yabo kwaye banokuyigcina ixesha elide.
Ukuba kuseyixilongo
Ngoxinzelelo, abathathu abahambahambayo: ingxaki yokukhathazeka, imoto yokukhubaza, ukuziphatha okungachukumisi. Kwaye okokuqala kusekho. Abantwana abakhutheleyo abanenkcitho yokungakwazi ukugxininisa ixesha elide kunoma yimuphi umsebenzi omnye, ingqalelo ukuba kulula ukutsala, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba uyigcine - "iyaphuma" ukusuka kwesifundo esinye kwesinye. Umntwana uva xa edibana nayo, kodwa akaphenduli. Akakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe ngokwakhe, nokuba wayithatha ngenkuthalo. Umsebenzi ofuna ukunyamezela kunye nokugxininiseka kuyamangalisa kwaye ayimkelekanga kuye.
Imoto yemoto ibonakaliswa ngumbango. Abantwana abanakuhlala phantsi, banokuphumla okufutshane, badlala imidlalo ehambayo yomsindo, benza ukunyakaza okungaqhelekanga, benze imisebenzi efuna ukuhambelana, ukuxoxa ngeenyawo zabo, cofa ngeminwe yabo. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukunyaniseka, okanye ukuthambekela ngokukhawuleza, izenzo ezingenangqondo. Indoda ilungele ukuphendula ngaphambi kokuba ibuzwe, ayikwazi ukulinda ithuba layo; Akayithandi ukuthobela imithetho, kwaye isimo sakhe sengqondo sitshintsha njengemozulu entwasahlobo. Abantwana abanomdla abaqhelanga ukucinga ngemiphumo yabo yokuziphatha, ngoko bahlala behlala kwiimeko eziyingozi.
Yintoni edala ukuxhatshazwa? Kwiimeko ezininzi, iikhosi ezikhuselekanga zokukhulelwa - i-oksijini yindlala yesisu, isongelo lokusweleka kwesisu; ukutshaya, uxinzelelo; ukusabalalisa, ukukhawuleza, okanye ukuhlala ixesha elide, i-craniocerebral trauma, i-severe fever high, izifo zentsholongwane kunye nezifo ezithintekayo kwiminyaka embalwa yokuqala yobomi kunye nezinye izizathu.
Oku okwethutyana
Unyango lwonyango, ukuba luyimfuneko, lugqitywe ngugqirha. Emva kwakho konke, ukunyanzeliswa kakubi akuyiyo into eyenza i-prank, ingabi yinto ephazamisayo, kodwa isifo esiyingozi. Abantwana abangenasifo esichengileyo, banokuthi bathethe ngokuzithobayo nangokuzithobayo: banobubele kwaye bayamkela imvakalelo yabantu abathandekayo, "bahlawuliswa" lula ngeemvakalelo ezintle nezimbi. Ukufundisa abantwana abakhutheleyo akulula.
Mdumise umntwana wakho kuyo yonke into encinane: abantwana abangenasicatshulwayo bayakuhoxisa amazwi, kodwa banentlonelo yokudumisa. Zama ukunika uvavanyo oluhle kumntwana, kwaye ungekho - kwizenzo zakhe. "Ungumntwana ontle, kodwa ngoku wenza into engalunganga, kungcono ukwenza okuhlukile."
Beka imisebenzi efanelekileyo kumakhono omntwana. Gweba isilingo sokubhalwa kwebhokhwe ngokukhawuleza kwimijikelezo emihlanu. Oku kuya kubangela ukukhathala kunye nokonwaba ngakumbi. Ngaphambi kokuba usabele kwisenzo somntwana, qhalela ukuya kwishumi kwaye uzame ukupholisa iimvakalelo. Uloyiko lwenu luya kubangela ukuba intsana ifane.
Yiba neengxaki eziqhelekileyo, kunye nemivuzo. Ukuhlwaywa, ukuba awukwazi ukwenza ngaphandle kwayo, kufuneka ulandele ngokukhawuleza amaphondo. Cinga ngolawulo losuku lomntwana kwaye ulwenze ngokugqithiseleyo. Umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba kufuneka avuke, yidle, hamba ukuhamba. Zama ukubambisa i-karapuza kumanqaku omnxeba, apho kuya kubakho ukusetyenziswa kwamandla okutshisa amandla. Kucetyiswa ukuba uthathe imidlalo yezemidlalo, ekhoyo kwixesha lakhe kunye nemimoya. Kwaye ukuhlakulela umntwana ongasebenzi kakuhle ubuncinane ukunyamezela, kuyimfuneko ukumfundisa ukuba adlale imidlalo yokuthula, umzekelo, i-mosaic, i-lotto, ii dominoes. Uncedo kunye neencwadi - zinokuthatha ixesha elide zithwala umntwana.
Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuba isicelo sokuntombazana asiququzelele imiyalelo emininzi kwangoko, mhlawumbi umntwana akayi kukuva okanye enze isigqibo sento eceliwe kuye. Abantwana abanjalo batyholwa ngokungabikho kwengqondo, kodwa oku akunjalo. Ingane nje iyakwazi ukufumana izicelo eziliqela ngexesha elifanayo. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka ukumphakamisa - umntwana okhutheleyo ekubonweni kokuqala akalawuleki. Kodwa xa kunzima kakhulu, khumbula ukuba ukusukela ebusheni, nakwabanye abantwana ngaphambili, ukugqithisela kudlula. Ngokuqinisekileyo, bazali abathandekayo, ukuba uncedisa umntwana ongcolileyo ngokungahambi kakuhle kwimeko.