Ukuphuhliswa koonxibelelwano lomntwana kunye nabadala kunye noontanga

Naliphi na umama ufuna umntwana wakhe oyigugu ukuba akhule nje kuphela kwaye ephilile, kodwa uyavuya! Okokugqibela kunokwenzeka ukuba umntwana unobunye ubudlelwane obuhle nabanye, ngokukodwa ngoontanga. Unokunceda njani ukufumana ukuthembeka? Xa umntwana ezalwa, ihlabathi eliphela kuye lilungu.

Ukufudumala, ucocekile. Emva koko ihlabathi liya kwipapa, oogogo, oomkhulu, abazalwana kunye nodade-bonke abo abathetha nabo rhoqo. Ngexesha, amaqabunga akhululekile kwintsapho, kodwa ke iya kuba yomelele apho. Uqala ukuya enkulisa, echibini lokubhukuda, kwisikolo somculo, ukwazi abantu abatsha kwaye ufumana ulwazi olutsha malunga nendlela yokuziphatha nendlela yokuziphatha kuluntu, yintoni imimiselo yokumelana nayo. Ngolulwazi lwesayensi, oku kuthiwa intlalo-uphuhliso lomntu kunye nokulungelelanisa nokusingqongileyo. Indlela yokwenza le nkqubo ikhululeke ngakumbi kwaye ilula kumntwana? Ukuphuhliswa kwengxoxo yomntwana kunye nabantu abadala kunye neontanga kuyintloko ebalulekileyo namhlanje.

Malunga nobudala

Okokuqala, kunceda umntwana anqobe ukoyika abanye abantu. Emva kwentlalo ngaphandle kokunxibelelana akukwenzeka. Imfuno yokunxibelelana nabantu egazini. Akunjalo kuphela kubantu, ngendlela. Izilwanyana ezininzi zihlangene kwiipakethe - kulula ukuba zisinde. Ngoko ke, umntwana ufuna, awufuni, kodwa kufuneka ujoyine iqela. Okokuqala, kuya kumnceda ukuba asebenze ngakumbi kwaye aqiniseke kuye, kwaye okwesibini, uya kumfundisa indlela yokucinga ngendalo. Emva kwakho konke, abantu abadala bahlala befakela umntwana kwisakhelo esithile: musa ukwenza, musa ukuyidlala, musa ukugijima apho, ngoxa abahlobo bahlala behamba kunye neengcamango ezithile (nokuba le ngcamango ukuphonsa udade omncinci inqanawa ebhedini okanye udwebe inkomo kwiphepha lodonga). Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana kufuneka adluliselwe kuluntu lwabantu ngendlela efanayo nokufunda ukubhukuda, ukuphonsa emfuleni - mhlawumbi uya kuhamba. Mhlawumbi uza kuphuma, mhlawumbi uya kufumana amanzi. Kwimiba enzima kangaka, kubalulekile ukuqwalasela iimpawu ezibonakalayo zengqondo yengqondo. Abantwana de kube yiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu bengenakukuvuyela ukuba ubahamba kunye nabantwana bommelwane: "Nangona kudlala apha kumatshini wokubhala, siya kuba nekhofi ekhitshini." Awunaso ixesha lokuchitha ikhofi kwiikomityi, kubakho ukukhala kwabantwana kuya kuvezwa: ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuba ngumsinga. Abantwana abasazi ukuba njani abahlobo: badlala kufuphi, kodwa kungekhona kunye, kunye ne-toy ekhanyayo ezandleni zezodwa kuya kufuneka ibe yipela yokungahambisani.

Qaphela: ukunceda

Ukuncedisa i-crumb ukuba idibanise, mkhokele ekuqhubekeni kokuphuhliswa (kodwa ngaphandle kokunyaniseka: amaxesha amabini ngeveki anele), kwindawo yokudlala. Kwiminyaka emine okanye emihlanu, abantwana baqala ukuzonwabisa ngokwenene noontanga. Kwaye nangona abantwana beli xesha banobungozi: bayaziqhayisa, bahlase, balwe kwaye bawakhumbuli ngokuqhelekileyo abahlobo-abadlali, kodwa banomncintiswano onempilo - emva kokuba bonke bazama ukufumana kunye nokufumana umchasi. Isimo esingaqhelekanga, nokuba ngaba iindwendwe, iisksi okanye i-metro, akayikuyikrokra kwakhona, ngokuchaseneyo, yonke into ibangel 'umdla kubo. Yingakho abaninzi abanokholo kwengqondo baqinisekile ukuba uneminyaka engama-4 ukuba umntwana "avuthwe" kwi-kindergarten. Kule ncwadana: izicwangciso zeminyaka emihlanu ziza kuba nzima ukuguqula kwi-melee, ukuba uyaziphonsa imidlalo emibini, apho iza kusebenza ngokufanayo. Kwiminyaka emithandathu okanye eyisixhenxe, abantwana baba ngumhlobo kwaye banokuphendula. Bathetha ixesha elide "ebomini" (basebenzise ukuthetha nabo ngexesha lomdlalo), babelane ngeemfihlelo zabo omnye nomnye, bakhulume ngohambo oluya kumakhulu, njl. Kwaye, oku, kubanceda ukuba bajonge kangcono esikolweni. Kwiphepha: kule minyaka ubudala abantwana baya emhlambini kwaye bahlala behlobo "kumntu". Ukuba umntwana wakho ukhulelwe, funda isizathu sokuxabana kwaye uncede enze uxolo kunye nabo afunda nabo - yena ngokwakhe akayi kukwazi ukujamelana nayo.

Ebusheni

umntwana engabonxibelelwano uyabonakala ebonakalayo nangokomfuziselo. Kwaye nangona inkqubo yentlalo iqhubekile, intsha isele ixhomekeka kakuhle kwimithetho yoluntu. Oku kuninzi okuvumela ukuba bawaphule, bephule izithethe ezifanayo. Ngaloo ndlela, kukuzimela kunye nokuzichaza. Kwinqaku: kubalulekile ukuba umntwana ukuba abe njengabahlobo bakhe, oku kuyindlela yokufumana igunya. Ngoko ungamangaliswa ukuba intombi yakho-intombi, ekhuliswe kumculo weklasi kunye noncwadi, ngokukhawuleza yaba ngumtsalane we-anime, xa iklasi lonke lixhaphaza ngayo. Khumbula okubhalwe kwintambo kaKumkani uSolomon: "Kuya kudlula ..."?

Malunga neenkulisa

Abantwana badinga ukunxibelelana nabangontanga kuphela, kodwa kunye nabantu abadala: izalamane, abahlobo babazali, oogqirha, ootitshala, ootitshala, njl njl. Emva koko, uluntu luhluke, kwaye umntu makakwazi ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo kunye nabameli balo. Kwaye akunakunceda ukuba umntu ovela kumntu omdala ukhupha umntwana wakho oyigugu kwimpumlo okanye uyifunde kuye. Ngoko ke, ukusuka kwinqanaba lokujonga uluntu, i-nursergart iyintsikelelo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba unesaba ukushiya unyana okanye intombi yakho ixesha elide kunye nabantu abangabaziyo (ngokuqhelekileyo imimmy eneengqondo ezixhasayo), nokuba ngabafundisi bezakhono, umntwana unokufumana inxaxheba yakhe yokukhulumisana "nabantu abadala" kunye nabafundisi beziko eliphuhlisayo, umqeqeshi wokubhukuda, utitshala umculo, njl. Into ephambili - ungayigcinanga yedwa. Kwaye unokumthabatha umntwana kumntwana wesibini ukuya kwisiqingatha somhla. Ngendlela, ukhetho olunjalo, kunye neeklasi kumaziko aphuhliso ahlukeneyo kunye nezikolo zokuphuhliswa kwangaphambili, kuboniswa ngokukodwa kubantwana abagulayo, abakhathazekile nabancinci (aba bahamba nabo abanakuze baqhelisele ukuqeqeshwa kwabantwana: abanalo ixesha lokususa iidyayi, badla, bagqoke ukuhamba, nabanye abantwana). Kwinqumle: oomama abanomdla ongathandabuzekiyo wothando lomzali banokubamema abahlobo babo emakhaya abo kunye nabantwana okanye bavakashele. Ngaloo ndlela, uya kubulala iintaka ezimbini ngelitye elinye: inzala yakho ethandekayo iya kuhlala kunye nawe, kodwa ngelo xesha iya kufundiswa kwabanye abantu.

Malunga nesikolo

Kukho iindlela ezimbalwa zeli ziko. Oko kukuthi: unokukhetha phakathi kwesikolo sabucala nekarhulumente okanye, umzekelo, isikhungo semfundo ngokufunda ngokujulile izifundo ezithile, kodwa ingundoqo yenkalo ayitshintshi kulokhu - akunakwenzeka ukuba "ukuluma" esikolweni ukususela kwi-kindergarten. Kodwa oku akuyimfuneko. Emva koko, isikolo semfundo jikelele sihlala esikolweni sokuhlala, apho umntwana efunda ukufumana udumo, ukuhlaziya, ukusebenza kwiqela. Akukho ziingxaki ezinjalo kubafundi kwizikolo eziphakamileyo. "Kukhwankathela kude nabantu," basuke bamele kakuhle iingxaki zabantwana babo abangaphantsi, ngoko ke banalo ulwazi ngakumbi kunokuba babone ingcamango yobomi. Ukongezelela, kwezinye izikolo eziphakamileyo, iqondo lolwazi, i-alas, ishiya izinto ezinqwenelekayo: abafundi bafakwa emagqabini kuphela ngenxa yokuhlonela abazali babo. Kwinqaku: ukuba niyahlabalala phakathi kwezikolo, nizama ukukhusela umntwana kwimpembelelo embi yesitalato, OKUYINYE into engekho nto - iziyobisi kunye notywala ngoku, i-alas, ingafumaneka kuyo yonke indawo. Kufuneka siqale kwakhona, kunye nosapho, sichaze umntwana (uchaza ngokuzithelekileyo, onobubele, okholisa), into enhle, nokuba yintoni embi. Emva koko uza kufunda ukuphinda ahlaziye izidakamizwa nezidakamizwa. Yaye uya kufumana amava amnandi, okuza kuba luncedo kuye kamva.

Yaye ungalwi nto!

Ukungqubuzana neontanga - into engathandekiyo, kodwa ngandlela-thile iluncedo. Emva koko, umntwana ufunda ukukhusela iimfuno zakhe. Umsebenzi wakho ukumfundisa ukulungisa iingxabano ngokuthula.

■ Ukuziqhelisa ukuba indlalifa isebenzise amagama, ingabi ngamatye. Umzekelo, awukwazi ukubetha ummelwane kwi-sandbox, ukuba wayichitha inqaba yentlabathi, kodwa unokuthi: "Musa ukuchukumisa, ngaba kuya kuba kuhle ukuba ndiyinyathele yakho?"

■ Zama ukuphendula ngokuzenzekelayo ukuxoshwa komntwana. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufuna ukujezisa umoni wakho unyana, zigcine wena. Okokuqala, usengumntwana ngokwakhe, kwaye ungumntu omdala, kwaye okwesibini, awuyi kukhusela umntwana wakho kude kube ngumhlalaphantsi wakhe?

■ Ukuba umntwana wakho unempawu zobonakala (inkomo ye-snub, i-freckles, ukuzaliseka kunye nokunye okunjalo), umkholise ukuba athathe lula. Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba athabatheke - ungabhongeli ngokuphendula ngenxa yokuhlambalaza kwaye ungagqibi ekulweni (mhlawumbi ngexesha elizayo uya kuthukuthela ngokukhethekileyo, uzama ukuthukuthela), kwaye uphendule ngokukhawuleza: "Ewe, ndiyanqatha, kwaye ndiyakuthanda. i-skeleton iyahamba, kwaye khangela, uya kuwa. " Into ephambili kulo mzuzwana ukuhlala uzolile, kwanokungakhathaleli, ngoko i-provocateurs iya kulahlekelwa ngumdla kuyo.

■ Musa ukugxininisa ukuba umntwana uhambelane nelo xesha, abonise abanye ngabanye. Abantwana abayithandi i-upstarts-iyayicasula kwaye iyangena. Ngoko de kubekho umntu othile omncinane kubalulekile ukuba angabikho phakathi kwabanye.

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