Umlingiswa womntu uqala ukusetyenzwa ngokususela kwixesha elidala kakhulu. Zininzi izinto ezichaphazela ukuphuhliswa kwayo. Isimo sengqondo somntwana sixhomekeke ngqo kwiintlobo zokukhulisa abazali bakhe. Kuza kubekho uninzi lweencwadi kwiintlobo zemfundo kwintsapho. Ezi zilandelayo ziindidi eziphambili ziyakwazi ukwahlukana nabo: ezemveli, ezizenzekelayo, eziphuhlisayo, iinkqubo, imfundo ye-episodic kunye ne-person oriented education.
Imfundo yemveli
Imfundo yemveli kwintsapho ibhebhezela kwinto yokuba umntwana kufuneka aphulaphule ngokungazeleli abazali bakhe kukho konke. Iifom eziqhelekileyo zemfundo enjalo ziziphatha kakuhle, zichazwe, "ukufunda ukuziphatha"; Abazali benza kwaye bafunde imigaqo yokuziphatha nomntwana. Ingane ayinalo ilungelo lokujonga, eli lilungelo elikhethekileyo labazali. Umntwana unikwe umba womzali, iinkolelo zakhe zobomi. Olu hlobo lokukhulisa alubonanga ubuntu kumntwana. Uzama ukutshabalalisa iindalo zomntu kuye. Imfundo kwintsapho enjalo "ubungakanani obufanayo buhamba bonke". Xa kwenzeka ukuxabana phakathi komntwana kunye nabazali, aba bazame ukufikelela kwisivumelwano, abanikeli iingcamango ezinengqiqo ekuxhaseni ukufaneleka kwabo, kodwa bazame ukunqanda ukuthanda komntwana kunye negunya labo elibizwa ngokuba yiyo. Ngokwenene, iintsapho zanamhlanje azixhaseli lolu hlobo lokukhuliswa. Oku kungenxa yokusebenza kwayo ephantsi. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukhetha ukukhuliswa kwendabuko, abazali bahlupha abantwana babo ngengqondo.
Ukunyusa ukukhuliswa
Umgaqo oyintloko wokukhuliswa ngokunyanisekileyo kukuba umntwana kufuneka ahlale evuya. Abazali bazama ukuphepha zonke iimbambano nomntwana. Ingane ingazi igama elithi "akunakwenzeka". Akukho zivuno zalo mgaqo. Uba ngumbindi wentsapho kunye neziko zendalo. Kodwa ungakulibali ukuba kungekudala umntanakho uya kubakho uluntu apho angasayi kuba ngumntu oyintloko ngaphandle kwanalo naluphi na ukuthintela. Ukukhuliswa okunjalo kunokukhokelela ekubhubhiseni nokuzingca. Ukongezelela, kwixesha elizayo, umtyholi wangempela kunye noxhomekeke kungakhula kusuka kulo mntwana. Ngako oko, le ndlela ikulungele ukuba ingayisebenzisi kwinkqubo yokukhulisa umntwana.
Ukuphuhlisa ukukhuliswa
Ukuphuhlisa ukukhuliswa kukubonelela ukufumanisa kunye nophuhliso kumntwana wezakhono ezinokwenzeka. Ingane kufuneka ibe yinxalenye yenkqubo yokufunda. Abazali banyanzelekile ukuba bamkhuthaze ukuba bafunde ngokuzimela nayiphi na into emitsha. Ngokuhambelana nenkqubo ephuhlisayo yemfundo, umntwana kufuneka abe yingqiqo, kufuneka abe neetalente zantoni na. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bangalibali ukuba ukuphuhlisa ingqondo kunye neetalente zomntwana, kuyafaneleka ukugxilisa kuye imimiselo yokuziphatha nokuziphatha.
Imfundo yeProgram
Xa ukhetha imfundo yeprogram kwintsapho ngokuqhelekileyo ayinakuqwalasela iimfuno kunye neminqweno yomntwana. Ukususela ebuntwaneni, abazali babeka oko kuthiwa yinkqubo kuye, okuya kuba yinkwenkwe iya kuzalisekisa kwixesha elizayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo lawa amaphupha kunye neminqweno yabazali, abayizizathu ezithile ezingenako ukuzenza ubomi. Ukukhuliswa okunjalo kunokunqanda ingqondo yengane, cima "I". Yenza ukuba kungabonakali kumbono womnye umntu. Oku akusongela ukuba umntwana akwazi ukuveza nokukhusela uluvo lwakhe kwixesha elizayo.
Imfundo yesiphelo
Kukho iintlobo zeentsapho ezichitha lonke ixesha labo emsebenzini. I-Careerism imane ithatha. Umntwana akaze abe nexesha. Abazali ababandakanyeki ekukhuliseni umntwana. Oko aya kukhula kuxhomekeke kuphela kwimeko yakhe. Ngalo: izihlobo, abahlobo, abaqhelana nabo nootitshala.
Imfundo ejoliswe kumntu
Oku kukukhuliswa kakuhle komntwana. Abazali bahlakulela ngokuziphatha komntwana. Ingane ikhula ngokuvisisana ngokupheleleyo. Abazali bafundisa umntwana ukuzimela, ukunamathela ngokusemgangathweni komgaqo, ukukhusela uluvo lwakhe kunye nokuhlonela izimvo zabanye, ukumzisa kwiimpawu zendalo.
Iintlobo zemfundo kwintsapho zifani ngokwenene. Ngokwemvelo, nguwe obazali abakhetha ukuba ngubani oyisebenzisayo.