Ngokumangalisayo, kodwa ukuhamba ngesiNgesi ngaphandle kokuchasana kunye naziphi na iinkcazo eziqhelekileyo kuphela kubafazi. Amadoda nawo, ngokuqinisekileyo, anakho "ukuphunyuka" okunjalo. Emva koko, ude ubize, ubuncinane ubhale, kodwa akukho nto. Le ndoda yagqiba - loo ndoda yenze. Ulahlekelwe yintliziyo yentlekele, ngokuqinisekileyo, ibhinqa liza kulila imihla ngemihla kwaye liyibize ngamazwi okugqibela. Kodwa apha ayincedi nonke. Kuhlala kulungele ukukhumbula ukuba ukuba phakathi kwendibano indoda iyalala, ke unezizathu ezizodwa zezi, esiza kuzama nokuzifumana.
Okokuqala, abameli abaninzi besondo esomeleleyo, bazigqibelele ukuba abafunanga ulwalamano nomfazi othile, bacinga nje ukunyamalala ebomini bakhe njengento efanelekileyo. Nantsi kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba abantu bayesaba imivakalelo yethu kunye nabahlaziyi. Oku kuyinto enzima ukuhamba kuyo. Bayazi ukuba nayiphi na inkcazo yokucacisa ubudlelwane kunye nabo, ngokukhawuleza, isithuba, ibhinqa libona lilukhuni ngakumbi kunomntu. Ngoko ke, ngokuphepha konke oku, indoda, ngokukhawuleza, ihamba ngokucotha, ikholelwa ukuba kuya kuba ngcono kumacala omabini.
Kwakhona, indoda inokuthi, ngokukhawuleza, iphakamisa i-ego yakhe engaphakathi. Apha, umzekelo, uyazi kakuhle umfazi, ubophelelane naye ulwalamano oluqinileyo, kwaye ngoko ke ukuphakama kwabo kuphelile. Kule meko, kukho iingcamango ezimbini. Eyokuqala kukuba konke akwenzayo nje ukuphakamisa igama lakhe phambi kwakhe. Ukhethi lwakhe olulandelayo, kwaye ukuphunyuka kwakhe kukuphela kwenguqu ehamba phambili, kwenye, efanayo nawe, apho uya kutshabalalisa ngokukhawuleza. Ingongoma yesibini ithi uyakwazi ukuphefumula ngaloo nto, kwaye nokuba uyayifumana kwaye uyibuyisele. Ukuba awukwenzi nto nto, uya kucinga ukuba kuthetha ukuba oku akuyiyo injongo kwaye awunyanzelwanga ukuba ube kunye. Kodwa, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele, ngaphambi kokuba uhambe ngeenxa zonke kwindlu yakhe kwaye ubale xa ebonakala, cinga ukuba ufuna uhlobo lomntu obomi bakhe bonke bakhelwe kwinto enokuthi ibonise into kuye.
Omnye umfazi, kwaye yintoni esingekho isizathu. Wadibana naye, kwintlanganiso efana nawe, waza wagqiba kwelokuba wayeyifunayo nje. Ukuchazela ukuba uya kwelinye ibhinqa, ngombono wakhe - oku kukuchitha ixesha. Kwaye ngokubanzi, awuyindoda nomfazi. Umtshato omude kunye nokuhlukaniswa kwepropati kuwe, bulela uThixo, awuyikrokrele. Ngoko ke, ukuze kuphinda ungakhubekisi kwaye ungalimazi i-psyche yakho, kwaye, ngexesha elifanayo, ukuzithemba, kungcono ukwenza oko kanye. Njengoko bethetha, ngaphandle kwengxolo engadingekile kunye nokumemeza. Apha, sinokuzixela kunye nenyaniso yokuba kungenakufuneka ukubalekele kwelinye ibhinqa, unokukwazi ukubalekela kuwe. Izizathu apha, ibhanal kwaye zibalulekile, zawa ngenxa yothando, ndaqonda ukuba unabantu abahluke ngokupheleleyo kwaye ngenxa yokudanisa kwakho. Indlela yakho yobomi, umsebenzi, umsebenzi awuhambisani nesimo sakhe kunye njalo. Kwaye, ukucacisa into ethile, akayisebenzisi okanye ayicinge. Ngoko, ukucinga ngoku, ngokuthe ngqo, ukuziphatha kwakho kwaye ubonakalise ukusilela kwakho okanye uqhathanise isimo sakho kunye nendlela yokuphila - kunye nayo. Kwaye, apha, ndicinga ukuba, kuya kubakho indawo enkulu.
Ukutshintshwa kwakhe ngokukhawuleza kunokuthatha ukwesaba okulula okanye ukwesaba uxanduva. Khumbula ukuba kaninzi kangakanani uxoxe naye ngekamva lakho kunye kunye nakusihlwa, okanye mhlawumbi nje echazwe kuyo, ukuba bathi, awukwazi ukutshata. Mhlawumbi akazange aqikelele ngako konke. Ngendlela, kuya kuba kufanelekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba bonke abantu besilisa bayinkululeko yokuthanda inkululeko kwaye intetho yethu ngomtshato ingabonakala ngathi yinto engabonakaliyo. Ngoko wesaba, wagqiba ukunika umva. Okanye mhlawumbi yena ngokwakhe waphawula ukuba bobabini sele sele nisondele kakhulu kulwalamano lwabo kwaye apha, umphumo ubonisa oko. Okanye umtshato, okanye ukuphuka, njengoko besithi, akukho nanye indawo yokutsala. Nantsi ke, usindiso oluvela kwimithwalo-mboleko-ngokugqithisileyo nangokungaqondakaliyo.
Kwaye, njengenkcazo yokugqibela yalolu hlobo, kunokuthiwa ngamanye amaxesha amadoda akwenza njalo ukuze alondoloze ubudlelwane obuhle, ngokugqithisa zonke iinkcazo kunye nokucaciswa kobudlelwane. Kwaye bafuna ukugcina lo buhlobo ngolunye usuku, luya kubonakala kwakhona ebomini bakho. Kwaye, ngaphandle kwayo, ukubonakala kwakhe kuya kuba kungalindelekanga njengoko ukusabalalisa kwangaphambili. Ewe, oku akuthethi ukuba umlingo wesilisa kunye nenkohliso yakhe "ivela okanye iphela." Ngaloo ndlela, uloo mzuzwana, udibanise kwiimvakalelo zakhe okanye iiminqweno kwaye ngoko ke wagqiba ekubeni angathethi ukuya emthunzini ukuze aziqonde yena aze enze isigqibo esifanelekileyo. Kodwa ukubuyisela umbaleki onjalo okanye akunjalo, kufike kuwe. Ngendlela, akunakwenzeka ukuba akuxelele ukuba wakwenza ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kwangaphakathi. Ngoko-ke, lungele umdla othakazelisayo, malunga nezizathu zokuhamba kwakhe ngokukhawuleza. Nangona kunjalo, kwimeko yokugqibela, musa ukuxhaphaza izinto ezininzi kunye nethemba lokuba ngamnye umntu kufuneka abuyele ngokungazelelwe. Hayi, iimeko ezinqabile kakhulu, ngoko ulinde kunye nethemba, akufanelekanga. Qala ubomi obutsha, uze uyilibale. Makube ngumntu onjalo.
Ukuqhawula umgca, phantsi kwayo yonke into engentla, ndifuna ukuthetha into eyodwa kuphela, isizathu esona sizathu sokuthi ukuphakama kwendabuko indoda eyanyamalalayo kukuba ukwesaba indlela esabela ngayo xa ezama ukuchaza into ethile. Ngoko ke, ukuhamba ngeyona ndlela elula kwaye elula kakhulu yokubeka ingongoma yeoli ebudlelwaneni. Aba ngaba, amadoda ethu, kwaye bahlala benelungelo lokulinda into engalindelekanga kwaye engaqondakaliyo. Ngoko lungele nantoni na. Ungalokothi umsukele umntu onjalo, makabe nguye, uthetha nje ukuba akuyiyo ikusasa lakho.