Mama omama

Akukho mntu oza kugxeka ukuba umntu oyintloko ebomini bomntwana ngumama. Ngoko ke, ukukhuliswa kunye nokuziphatha komama onempembelelo enamandla kakhulu ekuphuhliseni ubuntu bomntwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unokufundisa unyana wakho, okhokelwa kuphela ngumzulwana wesisu, ngazo zonke iindlela ukulondoloza umntwana wakho, kodwa ke usengozini kwixesha elizayo ukwenza unyana wakho abe "ngumntwana omdala." Ukuze umntwana abe nozimeleyo kwaye azithembele, umama, okokuqala, kufuneka ahlole impembelelo yakhe kuye kwaye kwixesha elizayo uzame ukufundisa unyana wakhe ubomi obuzeleyo, kungekhona yena.


Abangabonakaliyo kwaye abanelisekanga ngobomi

Kwimeko apho umfazi enganelisekanga ngobomi bakhe, uhlala ezama ukuyenza unyana wakhe "athenywe", ukuze ubuncinane adibana neemfuno zakhe. Abafuni ukutshintsha imikhwa yabo, unina "ongenelisekile" ubafaka kwinkwenkwe yakhe, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uqala ukubheka ihlabathi ngamehlo kamama. Emva kwexesha, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo luyaqina ngakumbi, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuliphula. Nanku akukho mbuzo wobukhosi, kuba unyana akayi kukwazi ukuthatha isigqibo esingaphantsi okanye esincinane ngaphandle kweengcebiso zomama.

Ukwesaba impembelelo embi kumntwana ngabaontanga

Ubuntwaneni, xa kunomntwana onomdla ekuxoxaneni noontanga, unina-ntlungu, ngokuchasene nengqiqo, uyazama ukukhusela unyana wakhe kubo. Kulo lonke ithuba, ugxininisa kwiingxaki zabangane bakhe, kunye neentlobo zabo zangaphambili zonke iindlela zokudumisa umntwana wakhe. Ngeendlela ezifanayo, unina uzama ukukhusela umntwana omncinci kumhlobo kunye namantombazana. Uthi: "Kubonakala kum ukuba uMas akazi indlela yokuziphatha", okanye "UTanya uhamba ixesha elide edieni". Ngoko umama wenza, ekubonweni kokuqala, amazwi angenanto, kodwa ngokuhamba kwexesha inkwenkwe ihlakulela ukuziphatha kakubi kwezesondo zesini.

Ukungathembeki kwesikolo

Kungekudala, umama-ntlungu sele sele evuna isivuno sokuqala sokukhuliswa kwakhe, kodwa ufumanisa isizathu. Ootitshala nabafundisi baqala ukukhalaza malunga nokuziphatha komntwana wakhe, kwaye umama ngexesha elifanayo ulungelelanisa, ngokumangalela ngokuchasene nabafundisi abangenakho ukuqonda. Iintetho ezinjalo zidla ngokuqhubekayo phambi kobantwana, kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo uyaba nokuqiniseka ngokuthe tye kunye nokungahlawuli, kwaye umama uba ngumhlobo kuphela kunye nomkhuseli "wengane".

Omnye nomama

Unina olawuleza kunye nencinjana yakhe "incinane" inobomi ezimbini. Uyayinyamekela ngokupheleleyo unyana wayo-uyilungisa, uyicima impahla, ukhetha isiko, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo unquma yonke into kuye. Ingcamango yonyana sele ihamba ngokuvisisana nombono womama, ngoko kukho ukuqonda okupheleleyo phakathi kwabo. Ukuba ngenye indlela unyana uphuma phantsi kwamaphiko kamama, okuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ngexesha lothando olunzulu okanye ukukhulelwa ngokukhawuleza kwentombi yakhe, umama ngokukhawuleza uqala ngokumsebenzisa ngobuchule. Kwaye kulo mzekelo, nokuba into yokuba intombazana ingaba sesikhundleni ayinakusindisa. Umama usebenzisa amaqhinga akhe amancinci ngendlela yokuhlaselwa kwentliziyo kunye nokuhla kwamanzi. Ukuba oku akunakunceda, umama uphuthuma ukukhumbuza unyana wakhe ukuba unikezele ubomi bakhe kuye kwaye unikeza intetho ngomsebenzi wokusebenza. Ekugqibeleni, unyana uya kubuya ngaphantsi kwephiko, ukuba nje angacasuli kwaye angacasuli umama.

Yintoni ekugqibeleni sinayo?

"Umntwana omdala", ongafanelanga ubomi bakhe ngaphandle komama kwaye ongenakwenzeka ukukholisa nayiphi na ibhinqa. Kwaye ubani oza kunakho ukukhuphisana nomfazi "othe tye"? "Unyana wamama" akunakwenzeka ukuba athengise ubomi obonwabileyo nomama wakhe ngomtshato nabani na umfazi. Ngoko ke, kulo mzekelo, akuyimfuneko ukuthetha ukuba loo mntu unokwakha ubomi bakhe obuzimeleyo.