Ngethuba lithile, lincinci elincinci okanye elingekho, uphenyo oluninzi lwachithwa. Kwaye ke ngenxa yoko, kwaqatshelwa ukuba, ngokubanzi, amadoda akhathaleleki ukuba ubukhulu banjani amabele akho - owokuqala okanye wesithandathu. Into ephambili kukuzithemba, ukukwazi ukuzithoba. Ewe, konke kuxhomekeke kumntu, kodwa abaninzi abantu bacinga ukuba isifuba esincinci sihle kakhulu. Abanye bathi into eyona nto ifom, kungekhona ubungakanani. Kwaye ngokuphindaphindiweyo amadoda aphinda amazwi kaTolstoy, owathi isifuba - oku kuhambelana entendeni yesandla sakho. Okokuthi, eneneni, akukho ngxaki - amadoda afana namabele aso nasiphi na isayizi, into ephambili - ukuba yayingumhle, ngaphandle kwamanqaku alula. Yaye ubungakanani ngumcimbi wendlela.
Ukongezelela, ndingathanda ukuthetha amagama ambalwa malunga nebele. Ngenxa yoluvo lweembono ezifanayo, kwavezwa ukuba, ngokuchasene nenkolelo eninzi, amadoda afana nesifuba kunokuba afake izilwanyana. Abambalwa kakhulu bafuna ukuba intombazana yabo ibe nesifuba sokuqala sesayizi yesithandathu okanye ngaphezulu. Amadoda afana nobuntu kunye nezifuba zendalo - ezincinane. Bathi isifuba esingumsebenzi asiyithandeki kumgca, nangona abanye befuna ukuwuchaphazela - nje ngenxa yenzuzo. Kodwa ukuba kufuneka ukhethe phakathi kwebhokhwe encinci yendalo kunye nomsebenzi omkhulu, amadoda akhethe ukhetho lokuqala.
Ukongezelela, musa ukulibala ukuba amabele amakhulu adala ubuninzi bentombazana entombazana. Awukwazi ukulala kwisisu sakho, ungagxobholi uvuyo, kwakhona ungayi kuhamba. Ukudlala imidlalo yingxaki enkulu. Ukongezelela, kukholelwa ukuba ibele, ngakumbi ubisi oluncinane luveliswa kuwo. Abanikazi benkqantosi encinane kaninzi banenkxalabo yokutya. Esinye isizathu sokuba uzithande ukuba ungubani. Abanikazi bamabele amancinci kulula kakhulu: unokwenza nantoni na oyifunayo ngaphandle kokuva naluphi na ukuvakalelwa okungahambi kakuhle, unokukwenza kalula ngaphandle kwebhokhwe ehlobo, efanelekileyo kakhulu.
Eyona nto into ebalulekileyo kukuba ungubani. Akukho mntu uya kuba nentombazana kuphela ngenxa yobungakanani bamabele, ngaphandle kokuba unomdla kuphela kwisini. Kodwa awuyi kudibana nomntu onjalo, akunjalo? Ngako oko, zama ukuba ngumntu onomdla, ukuqonda, intombi kunye nothando. Funda iincwadi ezihlakaniphile, phuhlise njengomntu, fumana umsebenzi onqwenelayo. Funda into entsha kwaye inomdla, iya kukutsala abaninzi abameli bobulili obuhlukile kunokuba bahlasele. Kwaye uya kudibana nomntu oya kumthanda kwaye aqonde iimpawu zakho zokomoya, kungekhona nje amabele akho. Kwaye intombazana ethandekayo yonke into ilungile, ngoko ayiyi kuba nexhala, amadoda afana nentombazana yokuqala.
Ngako oko, into eyona nto yinto yokuzithemba, kungekhona isayizi sebele. Kakade, kufuneka uhlolisise, unakekele umzimba wakho, udlale imidlalo - ngokuqhelekileyo, zigcine ngendlela efanelekileyo. Kodwa, ukuba amabele akho amancinci, akusiyo isizathu esitsha. Kubalulekile ukulahla iingxaki. Ukuba awuhlali ujabule kuwe, imeko ayiyi kusindisa iingubo ezifake imfashini okanye ukwakheka okufanelekileyo. Ukungaqiniseki ngaphakathi kwakho akukuguqulwa, kwaye nangona ubukhulu besithandathu bebhokhwe intombazana ayiyi kubukeka ilungileyo. Ukuba intombazana idibanisa iimpawu ezifana nobubele, ububele, ukuhlaziywa kunye nethemba, ngaphandle kokuba uyavuya kunye naye kwaye ujabulele ubomi - akunandaba nokuba ubukhulu bezibele zakhe. Intombazana enjalo iya kuthandwa ngenxa yeempawu zayo zokomoya, kwaye ngenxa yoko iifom zayo ziya kubonakala zilungileyo kwihlabathi.