Abasetyhini banamhlanje basemashishini kunye nabazimeleyo, kodwa ngobudlelwane namadoda ababancedi ngokupheleleyo. Ukuba phakathi kweso sibini kukho inkcaso engabalulekanga, loo mfazi ulahlekile, akafumani amagama afanelekileyo okuxolelana. Njengoko bethetha eMpuma, amazwi amahle anokuncedisa nakona inyoka embi kakhulu. Ukuze ukomeleze okanye ubuyisele ubuhlobo nendoda, ngamanye amaxesha ngamagama ambalwa amnandi kwaye anomdla. Ukongezelela, umfazi kufuneka azi ukuba ngubani, nini nawaphi amagama athethayo.
Misele ukuba ngubani othetha la mazwi. Ewe, la mazwi aya kuphendulwa kumntu othandekayo. Ngoku ke macacise xa uthetha amagama amnandi? Ewe, lonke ixesha! Uhlala ufumanisa ukuba yintoni na amazwi athetha kumntu? Ngaphandle kobudlelwane obude, amaqabane ahlala ekhononda ukuba bayeka ukuqonda kunye nokuthetha iilwimi ezahlukeneyo. La mazwi aphindaphindiwe ngonaphakade.
Ngaba unokuyeka ukuphinda ibinzana elixakekileyo kwaye uzame ukuqonda ulwimi lomntu othandekayo? Fumana indlela emfutshane entliziyweni yakhe? Oku kungenziwa ngamagama alula. Umzekelo, ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi uthi kumntu: "Hlalani ncinane kunye nam." Ngendlela, izazi zengqondo zithi amagama anjalo abizwa ngabantu. Indoda iziva ikhululekile xa ihamba nomfazi wayo othandekayo.
Kwintsapho ukususela ekuqaleni kuyimfuneko ukuphumeza umgaqo ukuba amaqabane aya kwenza konke kunye. Nangona kunjalo, ngokungafani nomfazi, indoda idinga ukunyusa ngamazwi ngamaxesha ngamaxesha. Simele simdumise kwaye simbulele ngoncedo lwakhe. Kukho amaxesha apho umntu uya kufuna uncedo lowesifazane kwiimeko ezizodwa, umzekelo, iingcebiso, sisiphi isipho sokuthenga umphathi. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, awukwazi ukumkhanyela. Musa ukuphika umntu, kungcono ukusebenzisa le meko ngenzuzo yakho.
Musa ukukrakra amazwi okudumisa nokubulela. Umyeni wakho uya kukwazi ukuyixabisa ngolunye usuku. Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa liyabona ukunqoba kwakhe, nokuba yincinci. Ukuba uyakwazi ukuphawula le mpumelelo ngamazwi, sinokucinga ukuba usezinyaweni zakhe. Egcwaliswe ibinzana elithi: "umfazi uthanda indlebe, kwaye amehlo aloo mntu" akachanekanga ngokupheleleyo. Amazwi amnandi afana nokuva amadoda, naye. Ngoko musa ukukhahlela, nakuba ungeke uhambe kakhulu. Ukumodareyitha kulungile kuyo yonke into.
Igama lixhobo esisetyenziswa ngabantu bonke. Nangona kunjalo, akuyena wonke umntu onokusetyenziswa kwesi sixhobo. Ngaphezu koko, igama lingenza umntu "aphephe", kodwa ngegama 'unokubulawa.'
Akuyimfuneko ukuvakalisa la magama, angabhalwa kwiposi okanye ithunyelwe nge-imeyile. Indoda iya kuvuyela ukufumana umyalezo obonakalayo xa eofisi.
Liliphi igama lamadoda abathanda ukuliva? Ngaba kukho uluhlu oluthile lwamazwi anjalo? Ngaphandle? !! Kodwa akuyimfuneko ukubiza umnqweno ngothando ngokuthiwa ngamagama angama-bestial: "bunny", "bear", njl njl. Kungcono ukuyithatha indawo yendalo: "othandekayo", "mnandi," "othandekayo," njl. Kunzima ukuthetha ukuba yintoni amazwi afuna ukuyiva amadoda kwiimeko ezithile. Oku kunokumiselwa lilingo kunye nephutha. Ibhinqa liya kufuneka likwazi ukuzithethelela izakhono zayo. Ufanele abe nesisa kwaye avule intliziyo yendoda ngamagama anomusa.
Amazwi othando kunye nokuncoma kunconywa ukuhamba kunye nomgca. Xa kuthintela ukuthintana, ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo akusoloko kuqondwa. Unokuhamba ngezitrato okanye ukuthenga, ubambe izandla. Jonga i-TV embhedeni, udibanise, kunye nakusihlwa kwasekuseni ukuze uphawule intloko yendoda yakho kwaye wongeze amagama: "Yinto enhle, thandekayo". Emva kwesidlo sakusasa, umbulelo wokubonga kumntu uqinisekisiwe. Indlela yokwazi, mhlawumbi, ubudlelwane obunjalo kunye nabalingane abaneleyo ixesha elide. Ngobudlelwane bokuthandana, amaqela kufuneka alumkele. Kufanelekile ukunikela ingqalelo kwiingxelo ezinzulu okanye ezikrakra zesigamu sesibini. Kubalulekile ukuphulaphula umntu onomthandayo kwaye uqaphele oko "afuna". Yintoni enomdla kakhulu: amagama amnandi, izipho, ukuhamba ngokubambisana, njl.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abathandi banesondo. Yintoni indoda efuna ukuyiva ngexesha lesini? INzululwazi ibonise ukuba ubuchopho besisu buyilwe ukuze zenze izinto eziliqela ngexesha elifanayo. Apha amadoda, ekwabelana ngesondo, unokugxila kwisifundo esinye. Ngoko ke, ngokuqhelekileyo ngexesha lokulala, amadoda ayathula. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba abakwazi ukuva ngexesha lesini. Ngokwemvelo, isondo esinamandla ngumzingeli. Yingakho ethanda xa ebudeni bhinqa umfazi wakhe unomdla. Kwimeko enjalo umfazi uya kubonisa ngokuthethileyo izenzo, kodwa namagama. Intombazana kufuneka ixelele indoda ngamagama, kwinqanaba lenkqubo yokwaneliseka. Amagama ngexesha lokulala ngesininzi ekwenzeni ukwanda kwamadoda.
Amazwi akufanele akhulise kuphela ukukhangwa kwesondo kwindoda, kodwa inokunceda intombazana ukuba ilungiselele umthandi kuye. Ngoko ke, amaqabane ngexesha lesondo kufuneka aphendule yonke iminqweno yabo. Awukwazi ukulawula amagama ngexesha lesini. Omnye uthanda ukuva amazwi amnandi ngeli xesha, umntu-ithenda, umntu-uphezulu, kunye nomntu ocebileyo. Kodwa ininzi yexesha amadoda ayonwabile xa, ngelixesha lesini, bakuva indlela yakhe iqabane elihle ngayo. Ukunconywa, okuchazwe yintombazana ngokuzenzekelayo kwindlebe, akuyi kunika umdla ngakumbi kunokuba isondo ngokwaso. Ngaloo ndlela la mazwi angabonakala elula kakhulu kwaye angabonakali, umzekelo, ukuthetha ukuba ungunkulunkulu elala okanye ehlukile.
Amagama aphuculayo kufuneka ahambisane nokubukeka kwe-languid kunye nokunyakaza okulula kwezandla kunye nomzimba. Ngezesondo, indima ebalulekileyo idlalwe kukukhululwa kwamalungu kunye namazwi angamazwi.
Khumbula, ukuba umntu akhathazeki nje ngezenzo nothando, kodwa nangamazwi amnandi, ngoko umbuzo wokungaxhatshazi kobudlelwane awusoze uvele. Ibhinqa liya kufuneka lifunde ukukhetha ngokuchanekileyo amagama afunwa ngumntu kuye.