Cima ukuvalwa kwothando.
Khumbula ukuba ziphi na izihlandlo ebomini bakho ova ukuvalelwa kunye nokuvavanywa kakubi kwezenzo okanye iimpawu zakho? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kungekho encinci. Abazali, ootitshala, abahlobo kunye nabangaphandle abawuthinteli iimvakalelo zethu xa bezama ukusithumela ezinye iingcinga zabo okanye amabango abo. Zonke ezi zingapheliyo: ungakhathazeki, thula, shiya, wenze into yakho ngokwakho. Ngamabhalana: unamahloni, u-sloven, uyisidenge. Ingaba unceda ukuzithandayo? Akunjalo.
Ukongezelela, bonke abantu abasondeleyo besinomfanekiso othile, apho thina, ngokwemiqathango yabo, kufuneka sihambelane. Bazali, bahlobo, osebenza nabo balindele ukuba izenzo ezithile zisuke kuthi, kwaye xa singasilungisanga oku kulindeleke, zilahlekelwa ngumsindo. Khumbula - akudingeki sihambisane nezinye iinjongo zabantu. Sonke sizodwa kwaye sinelungelo lokuhluka, eyahlukileyo kumntu wonke.
Khumbula zonke izitatimenti kunye neentetho kwidilesi yakho ekuthintele kakhulu. Cinga ngako. Ngaba ngokwenene ulolu hlobo, uyisidenge okanye uthetha? Kungenzeka ukuba, ukuba ikhaya lakho lihlambulukile, uyazi ukwenza izinto kwaye ungasebenzisi iiyure kwiintetho ezingenanto. Banike iilebhile abanye abantu baxhomeke kuwe. Vumela ukuba ube yinto oyiyo ngokwenene.
Vu melani.
Okokuqala, kunye nawe. Mhlawumbi uninzi lwazo zonke - kunye nam. Xa uqonda into enokuthi ungayithandi kakhulu, xa wenza iphutha, yiqonda-kuyinto evamile. Abantu abafezekileyo abakho, sonke senza izinto esineentloni ngazo, iimiphumo eziphanga ubomi bethu. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba uphosakele, kodwa unako kwaye ufuna ukulungisa into.
Umzekelo, uhlala uvuka. Ewe, yinyaniso. Kodwa uzama ukwenza umsebenzi othe xaxa emini kwaye unganqabile ukuhlala emva kokuba ixesha lomsebenzi liphelile. Ngaba kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza-ewe, kodwa awufihleli iimvakalelo zakho, ungabadukisi abantu kwaye usuke ngokukhawuleza.
Khangela yonke into engalungileyo, kufuneka ibe khona.
Bazidumisa.
Qiniseka ukuba uzidumise yonke into efanelwe udumo, kodwa izinto ezinjalo kubomi. Bazibonga ngenxa yezinto ezincinci kunye nempumelelo enkulu, musa ukulibala ukuqaphela ibala elihle kunye nokuthengwa ngempumelelo, iphrojekthi egqityiweyo kwaye iya kuba namandla ekutyelele kwidokotela wamazinyo. Ungumntu osondeleyo onayo, uphathe ngokufanelekileyo.
Qinisekisa.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba akukho sizathu sokuzithandayo, thatha iphepha, apho ubhala phantsi zonke iziphoso zakho kunye nesidima sakho. Akunandaba nokuba iyiphi inkulu, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde - unalo ubuhle obukhulu kuwe. Cinga ukuba bangaphi abantu abakuthandayo nabakuxabayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, banesizathu, ngenxa yokuba uthando olungenasimo, kunoko, luvela kwimpumelelo. Ukuba wawunomntu oyingozi, ngaba unokuba nabahlobo abaninzi kangaka, ngaba abazali bakho kunye noogxa bakho baya kukuxabisa?
Jonga.
Musa ukulibala ukuba abantu abathandekayo nabanempumelelo balula. Zama ukubheka okuhle nokuba wedwa kunye nawe, nokuba awuyi kushiya indlu. Ukubonakala kwakho kufanele kukukholise, kodwa ungafumani ubuhlungu. Uya kuneliseka kuwe ngokwakho kwaye uza kwamkela lula ukusilela kwakho. Ukongeza, zama ukuphumelela kuyo yonke into oyenzayo. Ungalilahli ithuba lokuba ngcono, uphumelele, ucebile, uqaphele kwaye unomdla. Funda into entsha, ufunde, ufunde, uhambe, uthathe izinto ezintsha. Ungahlali usebenza, ngoko uya kuqala ukufumana iziphumo zemisebenzi yakho.
Kuvela ukuba kufuneka uzithande, kodwa akulula nje njengoko kubonakala ngathi. Sivame ukusohlwaya kakhulu, ukunyeliswa kuyo yonke into encinane. Thina ngokwabo sisona sigqibo esiqinileyo sezenzo zethu, kwaye isazela asinasiphelo sinika ithuba lokwaneliswa nathi. Kodwa ngamnye wethu ngumntu oyingqayizivele, apho kukho izinto ezintle. Kwaye ngamnye kuthi unelungelo lokuthandana.