Masculinity

Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, kubonakala ngathi abantu bayeke ukunyaniseka nokuthembeka, ukuba yonke into ithengiswe kwaye ithengwe, ngoko awukwazi ukuthemba umntu. Kodwa ukuba uyayithanda, ungamthembi njani umntu ofuna ukumchitha ubomi bakho bonke? Emva koko, kulo mzekelo, awukwazi ukuthetha ngobudlelwane bokwenene, kuba isiseko sezinto sele sithemba. Abasetyhini banamhlanje bathuswa ngokungathembeki kwabameli bezesondo ezinamandla. Kunzima ukukholelwa ukuba kukho amadoda okwenene, xa kukho amantombazana amaninzi afumanekayo, kodwa awanike abafana yonke into ayifunayo.


Kulo luntu kukho ixesha elide lokuba uluvo lokuba akukho mntu unokunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo. Bathi loo mbhangqwana ayiboni ukuba ulwalamano olusenyameni lugqithiso lokwenene, ngoko ke baya kuyo ngokulula. Kwaye ngelishwa, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba abaninzi abantu bayamelana nale ngcamango, nangona bengayivumi. Kodwa kusekho abantu abatsha abathembekileyo. Kodwa kuncinane kakhulu oku kwenzekile kwihlabathi lethu.

Abafazi ekungathembeki

Ukuthetha ngobuntu, mhlawumbi, kuyafaneleka ukukhumbula ukuba amanye amadoda athatyathwa ngabasetyhini. Kuba umntu ongatshintshiyo, utshintsho sisono esona sibi kakhulu. Amadoda anjalo awaxoleli ukuziphatha kakubi. Ekubeni kubo intombi ethandekayo ngokwenene, abanako ukucinga ukuba intombi yentliziyo inokumnceda omnye umntu. Ngenhlanhla ukuba abafana baninzi bafumana abafazi abanomoya. Kwaye emva kokungcatshwa okulandelayo, bafika kwisigqibo sokuba ukunyaniseka kwabo kuyintsali yexesha elidlulileyo. Ngenxa yoko, abafana bazivale bona ngokwabo baze baphinde bagxeke umgangatho wabasetyhini, okanye baqale baziphathe njengabesetyhini. Enyanisweni, abafuni ukucaphukisa umntu, indlela yokutshabalalisa ukuhlambalaza ngokwabo. Ukuhlambalaza kwakusoloko kuhlazisa isidima somntu, kwaye kwiimeko xa umntu ngokwakhe engakwazi ukuyenza into enjalo, isimo sengqondo esinjalo siyamhlupha. Ngoko, ejonge amadoda anomoya, musa ukukhawuleza ukuwagweba kwaye ubagwebe ngokutshabalalisa iinjongo zamabhinqa. Mhlawumbi, isithuba sabo siphukile ngenxa yezinye izimeli zesini.

Izimpawu zomntu oyinyaniso

Ukuba umntu uthembekile ngokwenene, ukuthembeka kwakhe kubonakala kuyo yonke into. Okokuqala, intsapho (intombazana ethandekayo) yindawo yokuqala. Uya kuhlala ezama ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye nentombi yentliziyo yakhe. Ngendlela, oku akuthethi ukuba umntu uya kulahla kubahlobo. Kalula, ufuna ukuhlala emthanda naye. Neemvakalelo zakhe, uya kuhlala ebeka phezulu kunemvakalelo yabanye. Indoda ethembekileyo, okokuqala, ayinyani ngokwenene, kodwa ngokuziphatha. Akazivumeli lula ukuba ajonge amanye amabhinqa, akwenzeki ngokwenene. Amadoda anjalo awanamdla kubo bonke abantombazana, ngaphandle kwale ndlela ekhethekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo olu hlobo lwamadoda luhlala lukhuselekile, nangona lufana noluninzi. Amadoda athembekileyo awanakutshintshisani iimvakalelo zabo. Ukuba baqala ukudibana ngexesha elide, kungekhona nje oko, kodwa ngokwenene ukwakha ubudlelwane. Yingakho olu hlobo lwabafana alunalo ubudlelwane kunye nabafazi abaninzi, nangona bekulungele phantse nantoni na. Umntu othembekileyo uya kucinga ukuba kungcono ukuba wulezi ukuba akayiboni umfazi wakhe wekamva kule ntombazana, kunokumlimaza kamva. Ngendlela, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba amadoda athembekileyo aqala ukuqala ulwalamano, abhekisele kubanikazi babo abafana nomfazi onokuthi abe ngumfazi. Abenayo into enjengokuthi "i-pomatrosil kwaye ilahliwe". Abafana banokugqiba ixesha elide ukuthatha amanyathelo athile (umzekelo, ngesondo), kodwa ukuba oko kwenzeka, ngoko uyaqiniseka ukuba intombazana yedwa kwaye ufuna ukuba naye kunye naye kuphela.

Iingxaki zeNyani

Abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba amadoda atshatileyo kwaye angenawo amava ezesondo athembekile, ngoko nje bayesaba ukuzihlambalaza kwenye indawo kwicala. Kodwa enyanisweni, kukho iqhezu le nyaniso kule nto. Abathembekileyo bangaba ngamadoda anesisini esinobutyebi esinikwa ngokwesini, kwaye enyanisweni, kwimeko apho banakho ixesha elide lokuyeka ukulala ngesondo. Naluphi na i-sexologists ezithethayo, kodwa kukho isibini esinezinto eziphathekayo eziphathekayo kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokwenyama. Bayiqonda ngokwenene ukuba ukukopela kwabo kunokwenziwa ngumntu ogulayo othandayo kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ulahlekile.

Efanelekileyo kumyeni othembekileyo

Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu wayethembekile kangakanani, kusekho imfuneko ukuba uzame ukuba ngowona mfazi oza kuthi akayi kucinga ngenguqu. Kwaye konke okuya kuphula. Kwaye i-samoestrasnoe, ayiyi kuphuka nje ngokwenyama, iphula imilinganiselo yokuziphatha. Ukuba umfazi uhlala enganelisekanga ngento ethile, uxhala, uxhala, akhankqalaza, ngoko ekugqibeleni kukho umfazi obona kuloo ndoda enyanisekileyo kwaye uyamnika ububele nothando umfazi angenakukunika. Emva koko umntu othembekileyo walibala ngokunyaniseka kwakhe. Nangona, mhlawumbi, akufanelekile ukuthetha ngokunyaniseka apha. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, uthando luphela nje. Yaye xa le ntliziyo iphela, ke akukho mntu uthembekileyo.

Yingakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu onobubele, onobubele kunye onyanisekileyo, umfazi onethamsanqa enobuncwane obunjalo, akufanele athathe ngokungenanto, kwaye nangakumbi, ukunandipha iimvakalelo zakhe. Ukuba ibhinqa liyabona ukuba loo mntu akakwazi ukunyeliswa kwaye uya kuhlala emnqule wedwa, nokuba kunjani na, musa ukuphumla, "hlala ekhanda lakho." Ungalokothi ulibale ukuthetha indoda, ukumkhumbuza ukuba uyona nto ingcono kuwe. Indoda kufuneka ihlale ibona ukuba uyamthanda, uyifunayo kwaye ufuna ukuyichitha ubomi bakhe kunye naye. Kwakhona, ungavumeli ukuba i-routine ikuthinte. Ngona isithandwa sithembekileyo maxa wambi sifuna ukuhamba. Kwaye nantoni na into efunekayo ukuba ayibhangele ecaleni, yenze ebomini bakho ibali lefestile okanye i-adventure romance. Ukuhamba, ukuba uyayithanda, hamba ezinye izinto ezincinane, unomdla kwizinto ezithathayo. Ngokubanzi, uthatha inxaxheba ebomini bakhe, kwaye ungabambeli kwicala elinye.

Amadoda athembekileyo asoloko ekwazi ukukwazi ukuthandana okwenene. Bakulungele ukwenza konke okwenzela umfazi wabo kwaye abafuni ukuhlawula i-yobol. Ngoko ke, zama ukuhlawula umntu wakho "imali enye." Emva koko kufuneka uphile emtshatweni ubomi obude kakhulu obuhle.