Ukuziphatha komphakathi kusifundisa ukuba kufuneka sincede abanye. Kodwa ngubani ochasene naye? Kodwa ukuziphatha okufanayo kubangela abo bancedayo, ukuba banombulelo ngale ncedo ... Yiloo nto esinayo phakathi kwabahlobo bethu nezihlobo ezinjenge "freeloaders" ezikulungele ukuhambisa isisombululo seengxaki zabo kumagxa ethu.
Amanqaku amaninzi kumaphephandaba anganciphisa ngokungaqhelekanga "Kwabo abangenakuthi Hayi." Kulapho, baqikelela izizathu zokuba kungesiko ukuba umntu anqabe kwaye anike iingcebiso ngendlela yokwenqaba. Siya kwenza okuhlukileyo: siya kuqonda ukuba kuyingozi kangakanani ukuba "ngumceli womntu", kwaye ngoko utshintsho lweHamlet "Ukuba okanye aluyi kuba" (kuthiwa "EYE okanye HAYI") akuyi kuba yintloko, kodwa isisombululo (inqaku, sakho isisombululo!) kwimeko ethile. Nguwe kuphela onokuqhuba uhlobo oluthile lokhuphiswano okanye ubhale iskripthi esiphuthumayo, uthathe ixesha emsebenzini okanye emsebenzini; nguwe, ube ne-voucher "kuphela-nje", uboleka imali kubangani; nguwe owenza oko uphoqelelwe ukuba uyenze kwaye uhambe apho ungafuni nhlobo. Kwaye kuyaqondakala ukuba ingcamango yengqondo ihla: "Ngaba ndiyayifuna le nto?". Abahlobo banokuthi baninzi kuwe kwaye ukholelwa ukuba ngemvume yakho, ubuyela kubo umsebenzi wakho wobuhlobo. Nangona ucinga ukuba umntu ongekho ukhulelwe ukuhlala entanyeni yakho. Kufuneka uhlale ucinciza umsindo wakho, uzame ukungazi "ukuphula", kwaye oku kuphazamiseka kokuphazamiseka kwengqondo okuya kubonakalisa impilo yakho. Ekugqibeleni, ukucaphukisa okwakhiwa ngaphakathi kwakho kungadlulela kwaye kuwonakalise ubuhlobo bakho kunye nabahlobo.
Umthwalo owongezelelweyo kwimpilo yakho udala imvakalelo ehlala ikhona ngokucela isicelo esibi. Masingazikhohlisi thina, kuba xa kukho into eyenziwe, njengoko bethetha, "kungekhona entliziyweni", xa uzitshitshisa ngenxa yokukhuthaza ngokubonakalayo kwaye uxhalale omnye "onokukuxhatshaza", isithembiso osenzileyo asiyi kufezwa njengoko kufuneka. Ukuxinezeleka okunjalo kunokubangela ukusetyenziswa kakubi kotywala okanye "ngokukhawuleza".
Cinga ngokwakho ngaphezulu, kodwa kholisa abanye kuphela xa kunesidingo sokwenene. Umzekelo ogqithiseleyo wolu hlobo. Umntu onxilisayo uyeza kuwe kwisitrato aze akucele ukuba unike imali yokulala. Umxelela ukuba akukho ziingxaki, masihambe siye kuloo bhaka, ndiza kukuthenga isonka. Isiqinisekiso si-150%, ukuba umntu othukiweyo unxilongo wesonka uya kukwala, ufuna enye. Khangela yonke into ngokuhlukileyo. Ukuthi "EWE", uyanceda umfaki sicelo. Xa uceliwe into ethile, bahlala bangezela: "Ewe, ndiyenzile mna, kodwa andinayo ixesha". Njengokuba unayo imoto yakhe nenqwelo encinci ... Wena, ngokwakho, ixesha lakho, imali, izinto ngokuqonda kwakho kuphela wena, inikto, onokukuhlonipha, akunakuze ucelomngeni. Nabani na okulindele impendulo yakho ephilileyo kwaye uyathukuthela xa unqatshelwe - umntu ongenamdla. Kutheni ufanele ukhathalele oko akucingayo ngawe? Nangona kunjalo, amagama enqatshelwe kufuneka axoliswe. Musa nje ukuhlakulela imikhwa yakho yokulala kunye neebhokisi ezintathu, ukuze ungenzi nto ongayifuni. Ukunyaniseka. Emva koko unokuphepha ezininzi iimeko ezingamnandi, ezilungiselelwe wena ngobomi. Khumbula, akudingeki ukuba usungula nayiphi na i-pretexts efanelekileyo. Ukunyaniseka kwakho kuya kuqwalaselwa ngokufanelekileyo, uya kuphathwa ngokuhlonela ukuba unokukhusela izikhundla zakho. Ngaphezu koko, wena ngokwakho uya kuqala ukuziphatha ngokuhlonipha okukhulu. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba wonke umntu uyazi - xa uthi "Ewe", ibonisa imvume yakho.