Okokuqala, kufuneka sixoxe ngeli nqaku kuphela ulwalamano oluye lwafundwa, ixesha lokuvavanywa kwezilingo, iifom yeenkundla, njl njl, ziqwalaselwa, zingangeni kulolu hlobo.
Ngokudakisayo, oku akuzwanga ngathi, kodwa amadoda anemvakalelo engqondweni kunokuba ucinga. Iimvakalelo zabo aziqabuki kwaye zihlala zigcinwe ngaphakathi. Ukuze umntu avule omnye umntu kunzima kakhulu (kunzima ukuvuma ubuthathaka bakhe), ngoko ke maxa wambi baziphatha ngokulula emva kokuhlukana. Makhe siqwalasele iintlobo ezininzi zokuziphatha.
Uhlobo lokuqala lokuziphatha. Boomerang.
Njengoko bathi, ngamanye amaxesha babuya. Amadoda ngokuqhelekileyo angadli ngokucacileyo izidalwa kwaye ngamanye amaxesha aqhubeka ebiza emva kokuhlukana kwaye azama ukuqala ubudlelwane obutsha, kungabikho ukuqwalasela ngokukhethekileyo ukungavumelani kwethu, baqhubeka befuna ukunyanzela. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka, nangona emva kokuba ikhefu liqaliswe nguye. Kule meko, ukuphuhliswa kokuqhubeka kwezi ntsebenzo kuxhomekeke kuthi, kwaye kufuneka silandele imithetho yethu.
Uhlobo lwesibini lokuziphatha. Andikudingi, ndafumana lula ukutshintshwa.
Njengoko kunzima ukuqikelela, oku kwenzekayo xa umntu wakho wangaphambili "ngokwenene" emva kokuba ukuhlukana kuyifumene intombi entsha (njengomthetho, kuya kuba nzima ngaphezu kwakho, njengoko besithi, kwenzekani). Oku akuthethi ukuba iimvakalelo ezikuwe ziye zaphela kuye, ngomzuzu ofanayo njengoko waqhekeka, umntu ufuna ukukhuselwa, udinga ukuqinisekiswa kwimeko yakhe njengendoda. Wayefuna nje umntu ukuba abe khona. Ngoko musa ukukhawuleza ukuba uzigqwezele ngaphezu kwe "inkukhu" ayifumeneyo, oku kukubonakalisa nje ubuthathaka.
Uhlobo lwesithathu lokuziphatha. UMagpie wamlethela emsila.
Njengoko sonke sisazi, abantu baninzi ukuhleba kunabesifazane. Yaye ukuba wena kunye wakho wangena kwisangqa esinye soqhagamshelwano, ngoko ungazifumana ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntu usasaza amahlebezi angcolileyo ngawe. Ewe, kunjalo, yile yakho yangaphambili, kwaye ndimele ndithi le nto ihlazo. Kule meko, akukhona nje ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ubuso bakho njengendoda (nangona engafanelekanga eli gama), kodwa kunye nentlawulo encinci kunye nenkohliso engcolileyo. Umntu nje uzama ukukucasula aze azivelele njengexhoba.
Uhlobo lwesine lokuziphatha. Ukuhlonipha nokuthula.
Ngokumalunga nokuziphatha komntu emva kokuhlukana kwakho kunokuphela nje ukuphupha, okanye kukukhwele, ukuba le yimeko yakho. Oku kunjalo, njengoko besithi, "bahlukana nabahlobo", kulo mzekelo, emva kwekhefu, awuzange ube ngumntu - njengeqabane phakathi kobudlelwane, kodwa ke umhlobo omkhulu uvele oqonda kwaye ekuxhasa. Kwaye maxa wambi kulunge ngakumbi kunxulumano. Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku kubonisa ukukhula kwakho ngaphakathi. Ewe, enye into kukuba unqume ubuhlobo bakho ngexesha.
Uhlobo lwesihlanu lokuziphatha. Abantu abangaqhelekanga.
Le yimeko xa, emva kokuhlukana, ngokukhawuleza uyaqonda ukuba akukho nto iyafana phakathi kwakho kunye nolwalamano lwakho, kwaye uyayiqonda le nto. Emva koko uziphatha njengomntu ongaqhelekanga kuwe, akukho zimbizo, akukho ukuhleka, akukho buhlobo, ukunxibelelana kuncitshiswa ukuba kube ncinane. Kule meko, unokuzisola nje ngokuba ube nolwalamano, kuba unabantu abahluke kakhulu kwaye unento enxulumene nobomi.
Kakade, oku akuzona zonke iintlobo zokuziphatha, kuba ngokwenene ukuhlukana okuhlukile. Le mizekelo nje ngokubanzi kunye nezinto eziqhelekileyo. Kulapha nje, izizathu zokuhlukana aziqwalaselwanga nonke, kwaye zinefuthe elinamandla kwimpumelelo yomntu emva kwekhefu.