Ukuqala, ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka ufune imvume yomntu ebukhosini bakhe ngexesha lokubeletha. Ndiyabona kwangoko, kukho amadoda ambalwa kakhulu anqwenela ukuba khona ekuzalweni aze axelele ngolu hlobo kwiqabane lawo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, zigqutywe ngomkhuhlane obandayo, ziphaphatheke phambi kwamehlo abo, ziginye umquba kwaye zilungisiwe, njengokungathi zenziwa. Akunjalo kuba abanithandi okanye abafuni ukukunceda, kodwa ngenxa yokuba bayesaba. Ewe, ewe, amadoda anjalo anesibindi kwaye anesibindi ayesaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa ingqondo, ukukhathazeka, ukwenza into engalunganga. Kule meko, akudingeki ukuba ubeke uxinzelelo kuye ngokuziphatha kwaye ufake iimpawu zokugqibela, kuba singabesifazana ukuba senze ngokuthobeka nangobulumko.
Kwindoda ekulungele ukuziphatha ngokubambisana, ukususela ekuqaleni kokukhulelwa, qalisa ukuzisa i-future daddy ekuzalweni komntwana. Yilapho iikhosi zoomama noomama abanokuza kunceda kakhulu, isibini sincinci ngomsebenzi ngamnye ulungiselela ukuzala ngokubambisana, kwaye kuya kuba yindalo yokuba umntu azalwe kunye nawe. Sitshele malunga nokuba utshintsho olunjani ngeveki nganye, indlela oyithandayo ngayo xa esitye isisu sakho, kubaluleke kangakanani ukuba ube ngowomzuzu osondeleyo. Chaza ukuba uloyiko yonke into, kwaye kunye nendoda enamandla, awuyi kuyika ukuba uya kukwazi ukulawula izenzo zogqirha. Ndicinga ukuba kwinqanaba elinye umyeni wakho uza kungena kwaye amnike imvume.
Emva koko kuyimfuneko ukuqala inkqubo yokulungiselela ukubeletha ngokubambisana. Okokuqala, xelela ugqirha uze ubonise oku kwikhadi lokutshintshiselana. Ngeli xesha, akukho ugqirha uya kukumangalela umnqweno wokuzala, ngaphezu koko, oogqirha abaninzi bayamkela kakhulu ubukho bomntu ekuzalweni, kuba kulo mzekelo, isabelo seengonyama somsebenzi senziwa nguye. Emva kwakho konke, ngumyeni wakho oya kukunceda ekutyeni, shayela udokotela, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ukujonga imeko yakho jikelele. Iqela labagqirha, elinokukhuselekileyo okwangoku, liza kuphela kwiimviwo kwaye sele lifumene ngqo ukufumana umntwana.
Emva kokuba zonke iimbasa ezisemthethweni ziqhutywe, kufuneka ubhalise kwizifundo zokuzalwa ngokubambisana kwaye uzame ukuzivakashela rhoqo. Oku kuyimfuneko ukuze umyeni wakho angakunikezela ngengqondo kuphela, kodwa uncedo lomzimba. Nangona, ndithi kum amava kunye namava abahlobo, ngokwenene, kwinkqubo yokuhanjiswa kwindoda ilahlekile, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ikulungele njani. Kodwa unako ukubanceda: yenza umququzelelo, amanzi ngamanzi, ubambe ishawa, uncede ukuya kwisihlalo seengalo zokuzala, njl njl. Yaye inkxaso yenkxaso yomyeni ngexesha lokulwa kwaye yonke into ibaluleke kakhulu. Ugqirha kunye nabagqirha baya kufikelela kuwe kuphela njengoko kuyimfuneko, kwaye lonke ixesha liya kuba yinto oyithandayo, kwaye ungakholelwa, amazwi akhe enkxaso iya kuba yinto ebaluleke kakhulu kwaye ibaluleke kakhulu. Enyanisweni, kwaneyona nto ibalulekileyo kwihlabathi abaqeshwa abayi kunika ukufudumala kunye nothando, elo mntu uphincelwe nguwe.
Okubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ubukho bendoda xa ibhinqa linikwa isahlulo sokulondoloza, kuba kulo mzekelo ukuqhagamshelana kokuqala kwesikhumba ngesikhumba akuveli kumama kunye nosana, kodwa kubaba. Nguye oza kufakwa esifubeni umntwana, ukuze amfudumise ngokufudumala aze athethe naye sele esaziwayo kuye ngelizwi. Olu qhagamshelwano luyinto engathethekiyo kubapapa kunye nosana ... kwaye ke umama omncinci oza kuvula amehlo akhe kwaye ngokukhawuleza abone abantu ababini abasondeleyo nabathandwa kakhulu.