Okokuqala, siya kulujonga kwimeko. Ukuba umntu wakho ulala namadoda., Umbuzo kubantombazana: uthetha ukuthini igama elithi "ukulala". Ukuba unxiliswe kwinqanawa ecaleni kwesithandle kufuphi nabahlobo bakhe emva komcimbi, akukho nto ingaqhelekanga okanye ihlazo malunga nayo. Nangona intombazana inxiba umngane wakhe omhle ephupheni. Musa ukulibala ukuba kwiimeko zobunxila obunzulu abantu balele ngokuqinileyo kwaye abaqondi ukuba yintoni eyenzekayo ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko, xa evuma iVova okanye i-Vitya, mhlawumbi umfana wakho uyaqiniseka ukuba uyasondela kuye.
Okanye umfana uthanda ukuhleka ngokukhawuleza. Ewe, ndiyavuma, olu hlobo lokuhleka kakhulu lucacile, kodwa kukho abantu banjalo. Umfana unokuhlambalaza rhoqo kubahlobo bakhe ngenxa yehlazo, ukukhawula kunye nokumanga, etshilo ukuba indoda yinto efanelekileyo, kwaye kuyinto enzima kakhulu ukulala nomfazi. Kule meko, uya kukuvuma, kwaye ngomzuzu uza kuqala ukuguqa ngamadolo akhe kumhlobo wakhe aze amcele ukuba amkhathaze aze amanga. Kwaye, kwamehlo akhe kuya kuba nobubele kunye nothando kangangokuthi uya kuqala ukuba nomona kumfana. Musa kuba nomona. Kuphela nje ukuba umntu ufuna ukutsala ingqalelo, kwaye, ekubeni zonke ezinye iindlela sele sele zivaliwe, uzama ukukhangela imibono efana nokuziphatha kakubi. Kungcono ukuba ungayithobeli "amanqaku" athile. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu basicinezela ngaloo ndlela. Yaye, kungekhona ngomsindo, kodwa ukuzonwabisa. Bacinga ukuba kumnandi, badlale umlingane kwaye bajonge ukuphendula kwabahlobo babo kunye namantombazana.
Ukuba loo mntu uyangena kweli nkampani yendoda engekho yendabuko, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ayibalekele "yonke into" yakhe kwaye uya kuziphatha njengomntu oqhelekileyo. Nangona iyure eyadlulayo wazama ukumbamba umhlobo wakhe, engayithobeli ingqalelo yokuba wayexakeke ngokupheleleyo nentombi yakhe. Ngoko ke, kwiimeko ezinjalo, ungayithobeli ingqalelo yokuba umfana ulele nabanye abantu. Konke oku kwenzeka ngamagama kwaye akusongela ubudlelwane bakho nangayiphi na indlela. Into eyenzekayo yinto yokuba uya kukhwabanisa ngabahlobo bakhe ngamahlaya aze abenze kakuhle ebusweni.
Ngoko ke, ukuba ubona ukuba le ncinane ibhekisele ngokugqithiseleyo-ukuguqa intonga, zama ukuyijika, ukuze ingxabano ayifuni. Nangona abahlobo abasondeleyo nabahlobo abajwayele ukuhleka kwehla, ngokukhawuleza okanye emva koko baqale ukuphelelwa ngumsindo. Nangona amahlaya ngobungqingili ayenziwa namhlanje, kwaye abantu baqala ukuziphatha njengabafazi, nokuba kunjalo, kungekudala okanye kamva, umntu oqhelekileyo uyaxhalaba kwaye uya kuhoxisa kunye namazwi okuhlaselwa. Ngoko uzama ukukhusela wakho umthandayo kwiingxabano ezinjalo nabahlobo. Ukholelwa ngokwenene ukuba ayenzi kakubi. Ngako oko, kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu kwaye kuyabuhlungu kuye, xa isicelo esilandelayo sokubanga, umhlobo wakhe omhle uhlambulule ebusweni. Musa ukulibala ukuba abantu, bahlala beziphatha njengabantwana. Kanye nje kunye neminyaka ubudala, batshintsha umdlalo, kodwa umlinganiselo wenani, ngesizathu esithile, awunakongezwa. Kungenxa yoko, enjalo, eqinisweni, engenamacala, nangona amahlaya angaqhelekanga, unokuba yingxaki kwibudlelwane phakathi kwabahlobo. Ngoko, njengentombazana ehlakaniphile kunye nekhulile, zama ukuvumela ukuba oku kwenzeke.
Udinga ukuba ube neentloni kwaye ukhathazeke kuphela xa ubona ukuba loo mntu akayi kuhleka. Ukuba uqaphele ukuba akacaci ukuba ngumhlobo kubantu abathile, kwaye nabo, bahamba kwakhona, ngoko kufuneka ucinge ukuba ngubani othabathayo naye. Kukho amantombazana abafihla ukuxhomekeka kwawo okungahambisani nawo kwaye adibana nabantombazana, kodwa, ngokwenene, baziva benene uthando kunye nokukhanga kuphela kubafana. Kule meko, indoda ingaba nosapho kunye nabantwana, kodwa kuya kufuneka ukuba iqalise kwicala labathandekayo. Kukho amabhinqa avuma ukunyamezela ubomi nobundlelwane obunjalo ngenxa yothando, inzuzo yemali kunye nezinye izinto. Kusenokuba nokuba loo mntu akayi kuqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyingqingili, akayikuyiqonda le nto kwaye avule intsingiselo yakhe kwiminyaka embalwa emva komtshato. Kakade, oku kuphazamiseka kuye nakumfazi wakhe. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ukhethe indlela yokuphila. Ngaba kukufanelekile ukuzama ukugcina umtshato umbala okanye kungcono ukuyeka omnye nomnye uze uzame ukufumana ulonwabo olutsha. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubona ukuba umfana wakho ngokucacileyo unqwenela abanye abantu, cinga ngendlela obona ngayo ikamva lakho elizayo emva kwakhe. Ngaba unokwabelana nomntu othandekayo, kungekhona omnye umfazi, kodwa kunye nomnye umntu.
Ngendlela, kungekhona ukuba umfana kufanele abe ngumlingani, naye, unokuya kuba ngumlingani. Kule meko, unokukuthanda, kodwa, ngelo xesha, uya kujonga amadoda. Abantu abanjalo ngokubanzi kunzima ukuba isithembu. Akunakutsholwa ukuba abayithandabuzi ngothando. Kunoko, bakholelwa ukuba uthando alukwazi ukuba lunye. Umfana onjalo unokufumana inkwenkwe nentombazana eya kuthanda ngokulinganayo kwaye uya kuzama ukwenza yonke into kulaba bantu. Nayi imeko iya kuxhomekeka kwindlela oyijonga ngayo ihlabathi kunye nokukhululeka kokuziphatha. Ukuba unokuhlala kuloo ntsapho, ngoko akufanele ukhathazeke ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe. Kwiimeko ezifanayo, oku kuqhelekileyo. Ukuba kuwe akuqhelekanga kunye nokuziphatha kakubi, ngoko, mhlawumbi, kuya kufuneka ukuba ukhethe okanye aphule ubuhlobo.
Enyanisweni, ukuba umfana wakho ulala namadoda, umbuzo kumantombazana aphumelele oku, unokwenzelwa, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, wena uya kufuneka wenze isigqibo. Emva kwakho konke, uvuyo lwakho luphela, kwaye kuphela uqonda indlela enokuyenza okanye ayikwazi.