Unokuza kuwe ukucoca indlu, uhlambe, ulungiselele zonke izitya uze ucinezele i-cutlet. Ngokwalo, kungenjalo kwaye akubi, kodwa uhlala enganelisekanga nawe: ngombono wakhe wenza konke okungahambi kakuhle kwaye ngokubanzi awukho nto nhlobo. Nendlela yokujongana nayo?
Ukuba ukhethiweyo wakho uphumele ngaphandle kwidleke lomzali, akaze aphephe, kwaye sele sele ekhulumisana kunye nezihlobo kungekudala, ngoko ke akufuneki ukujongana neemeko ezinjalo. Inokwenzeka ukuba unina unethemba lokukhetha wakhe unyana kwaye uyavuya ukuba unayo. Lo ngumkhwekazi ophelileyo!
Ukuba ungeyintlekele, okokuqala, zama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umama wakho umphazamisa ngokupheleleyo ebomini bakho. Mhlawumbi unomfazi onoyovuyo omele uvelane naye.
Izizathu zolu hlobo ziphatha ezininzi, kodwa ezibaluleke kukuba kukunike into ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakhe. Kakade, akakwazi ukuhlukana negazi lakhe. Kwaye ukuba sele unabantwana, kufuneka uqonde oku.
Mhlawumbi unina wayesebenzisa yonke into ngomntwana wakhe: wayepheka, wahlamba, wahlambulula, wathenga izinto ... Yingakho iingxabano nomama-mkhwe kaninzi zivela kwiindawo zasemakhaya. Kwaye unomama ukhathalela unyana wakhe, ulunge ngakumbi xa ekhula, ngamanye amaxesha akakwazi ukunyathela ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe. Konke oku kunzima xa umfazi ekhulela unyana wakhe yedwa. Ukungabikho kwengqalelo yindoda, uhlawulela ukunyamekela umntwana. Kwaye ngoku uyisusile.
Kodwa unokuthembela njani kumntwana wakhe?
Kungokwemvelo ukuba ngesimo sengqondo kumntwana wakho, uninazala uzakukunika iimvavanyo ezinzima, uhlobo loviwo lokufumana ilungelo lokuba ngumfazi, kuba ngoku kufuneka wenze umsebenzi wakhe. Uyavuma, unamathuba amaninzi okuhluleka, kunokuba ufumane uvavanyo olwanelisayo, kuba umkhwe wakho uthelekisa, usengumntu ongenamava, naye. Kwaye nasiphi na isithintelo (uluhlu oluthile olungqothuliweyo okanye ungakhathali oluphonswe ngotshongo lwakho olusibusisiweyo) unokwenza isibini shlopotat. Uninazala uzakuzama konke okusemandleni akhe ukubonisa ukuba ngubani inkosikazi ekhoyo endlwini. Ukuba uhlala nabazali bakhe, ubunkokeli bulungele ukunika emva - konke, le yindlu yomnye umntu. Zixhomekeke ekubeni uyashintsha izinto zakho, ayikuvumeli kwisitofu kwaye uthenge iilethini kwintetho yakho.
Ngaba akunako? Emva koko wenze isigqibo ngendoda yomyeni wakhe. Nangona kunjalo, nangona uhlala ngokuhlukileyo, kunzima ukumelana nokulwa nomama-mkhwenkwe endlwini yakho, kodwa akudingeki ummbone ngekhefu.
Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba umama wakho unjani ukuziphatha, awukwazi ukuxabana naye! Ungalibali: ngumama wakho oyintanda.
Ukuze ufumane ulwimi oluqhelekileyo noninazala, kufuneka umbonise izinto ezimbini-ukubaluleka kunye nentlonipho yakhe. Kwangathi unyoko-mkhwe wakho abe ngumfundisi wakho oqinileyo kodwa ofanelekileyo kwimpilo yemihla ngemihla. Mcele ukuba akufundise indlela yokubhaka ii-pie, upheke i-borscht, ibhetri yepende, nokuba unako ukwenza konke oku.
Ungalilahli uncedo lwakhe. Ngokuphambene noko, yena ngokwakhe uquka kwishishini elithile elihlangeneyo - uye ukuyothenga kunye, uye kwikhaya, ukutsalwa kweentyantyambo.
Mthiye umnxeba, musa ukulibala ukuvuyisana ngeeholide kwaye unike izipho ngenxa yezizathu ezingabalulekanga.
Zama ukuthatha unyokokazi wakho kwicala lakho ngeentetho ezifana "siyazi into (sibona, siyazi indlela)".
Xhumana naye kuyo nayiphi na imibuzo: apho ukuthenga ukutya kungabizi, nto leyo iphostile ibhetele ukuhlamba, ingakanani intshukela yokufaka i-jam. Yaye khumbula: kwixesha elizayo, nawe uya kuba ngumama wesibini - uninazala okanye umkhwekazi. Ngoko ke, ungaze uxabane nomamazala wakho.