Kwimeko apho ngomhla wokuqala isiqingatha sesilisa sithatha amava angaphumeleli, iifomati zichaza ukuba i-65% yala madoda ayifuni ukuza kumhlangano ofanayo olandelayo. Ukuze ufunde intombazana, ukumanga ngokuchanekileyo nomntu othandayo, kuya kunceda ukunyamekela umgangatho wokubanga uqobo, kunye nezinto ezihamba nazo. Indawo yokubanga, kunye nokuzimisela komntu othandwayo ukumanga kunye nenkqubo yenkqubo, zihambelana nale miba.
Kuphi ukubanga. Ukuhlangana kokuqala okuthandanayo, okunokwenzeka, akubandakanyi umbuzo ohambelana nokukwazi okufanelekileyo kwintombazana ukuba ndibambe, kodwa kunokuba yintoni na ukuyenza. Ubusika obumnandi buyenzeka kwiindawo ezingapheliyo, njengokuba izazi zesondo zikholelwa. Amantombazana amancinci anqwenela ukuveza iimvakalelo zabo ngokungazi kakuhle, baziqhayisa ngamandla asemandleni phezu kwesondo, kodwa amadoda ahlala ethanda uxolo ngokuthula. Ukuzama ukumanga umntu omthandayo, kokubili kwindawo ephithiweyo kunye nomsindo, nokuba ingaba ibha, okanye ikhonkethi, ngowokuqala, okanye kwimini elandelayo, ayimfuneko. Amadoda anesimo esithandwayo, esingaba namangqina, ngokutsho kukaMatthew Hussy - umphandi onxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu. Ubungqina bamasikati buyakwazi ukudala i-romantic mood, ehamba kunye nomculo omnandi kunye namakhandlela kunye nesiqhumiso. Into ephambili kukuba akukho nto eyamthintela.
Silandela intle. Isalathisi esilandelayo siya kuba kukuba ngexesha lokubanga indawo ebalulekileyo ilandelelanisa amaqabunga avela emlonyeni nasemilonyeni ngobuso. Nangona kungabikho bonke abantu baqwalasela iphunga ngexesha lokumanga, kodwa linelungelo lokubizwa ngokuba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo kwinkqubo yesondo. Ukumanga komntu uSara Woodley ucingisisa-ingcali kwiyunivesithi, njengolu vavanyo lwempilo yintombazana encinci. Ukungahambi kunye nevumba elithile lokubanga, kunokuthetha ukuba akukho ziingxaki ezinzulu kwi-system immune, okanye ubuncinci ngokutya. Ngenxa yoko, kunye nomzimba ngokwawo wonke.
Silandela ixesha. Ixesha libalulekileyo kwinkqubo yokufunda, intombazana ayimanga. Khetha umzuzu xa indoda iya kumiselwa ukukrakra ngokukrakra, oko kubalulekile. Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba ubulili besilisa bukulungele ukusondelana ngokusondeleyo. Ukubanga ku-K akunakwenzeka, kodwa kulala, mhlawumbi. Xa evuselela ukukhanga, ngokutsho kukaJudy James, ngubani umbhali wencwadi eyaziwayo yeQumrhu loLwimi, umlomo wesigxina sesigxina siyancipha, kunye nokukhanya. Ukuhlolisisa ubuso obuncinane bobuso bomntu, ngaba ngumqondiso ongezelelweyo kumnqweno wokubanga. Isiqingatha sesilisa asithandi ukumanga, ngokudabukisayo, emva kwesondo. Uyabona ukumanga uguquko kwizenzo ezingakumbi, eziyimfuneko, apho isiqingatha sowesifazane asihlali silungele.
Sidla phambi kokumanga. Ukuzonwabisa akuyi kufumana isiqingatha sabantu besilisa nabesifazana, kuba ukumanga kungcono nakungasese kwisisu esingenalutho. Le ntombazana iya kuhlala isicinga ngokukrakra kwayo esiswini, okanye ukuqina kwayo. Amazwi abaphandi athetha kuthiwa, xa kunjalo, xa uthetha ngokutya ngaphambi kokuzibamba, zilapha ezinye iinkalo ezimbalwa. Ibhinqa, sele lidle ukutya, lithatha isondo esifanelekileyo. Ama-Aphrodisiacs anika igama elifanayo ngokuhlonela unkulunkulukazi ongumGrike nodade owaziwayo uAphrodite. Bandisa ukhenketho oludityanisayo, kunye nokulungiswa kwinqununu yesilisa. Izinto ze-Psychedelic zifumaneka lula kwiindawo zokutya: kwizinyosi kunye namantongomane, ii-bananas kunye ne-avocados, kunye nama-mushroom. Iintlobo ze-acids, ezikunceda ukuveliswa kwamahomoni afutshane, zenze igalelo kumxholo wazo, zombini kwiglasi ye-champagne kunye newayini. Amagama afana nawo angowona ugqirha-wesondlo uStephanie Tolle.
Ukutshintshana. Iipheromones zezinto ezinokubakho zingabonakaliswa kwiimpawu ezisemgangathweni ekufuneni iqabane elithandanayo, elifunayo, kunye kunye bobabini abalingani, abesibini nabesilisa. Kuye kwafika isiphelo esifanayo nezinye uphando lwezesayensi. Ukukhumbuza ubukho bomzimba othile onomsebenzi onokuzibona ezi phheromones, umntu unokuthi ukukhethwa komlingani akubangelwa yimpawu zentlalo. Amathisti afanelekileyo akhona phakathi komlomo kunye neengcambu. Ngoko phambi kokuba uwanga, mnike indoda ithuba lokubamba. Iisisiti zivakalelwa uphawu olusondeleyo, olumele ngumzimba womnye. Iiseli ezivelayo, ukuthelekisa nembono yeentlobo eziqhelekileyo, unike iimpawu kwindawo ethile ethile yengqondo yomlingane. Ujongene nomoya womntu ngokwakhe.
Kuphela. Ibhinqa lendoda ayithandi ithole elithile lenkwenkwezi, ngokunjalo, njengento yokumangalisa ithenda, nangona xa ihamba. Kukho iingcamango ezininzi ezithetha impendulo kumbuzo wendoda yesini efana nobusana obusondeleyo. Umbhali wezinto eziphilayo uHelen Fischer wayenombono wokuthi ngokumanga okunjalo isondo sesilisa sizama ukudlulisela kwi-testosterone yakhe kwintombikazi, oko kuthetha ukuthandana naye. Ngokwesiqingatha sesilisa, ukubanga ngokwayo kubaluleke kakhulu. Ukubanga okunjalo, apho kukho ininzi yamathe, xa kuthelekiswa nokuwanga okuthandana, ukukhawuleza intliziyo yakhe kwinqanaba le-120 ngomzuzu. Uphando olwenziwe ngabakho-1041 abathathi-nxaxheba, abangaziwa kwaye baqhutywe kwiYunivesithi yaseNew York, babonisa ukuba ukuvana okulula ngexesha lobudlelwane bezocansi bengenakho indawo yabo.
Ukufunda intombazana enokubamba ngothando ngamanye amaxesha kulula kunokuba ikulindele. Ukubamba ingqumbo kunomdla kangangokuba umntu akanakukunceda ukucinga ngaye ixesha elide. Makungabikho wonke umntu ophethe ngale ndlela, kodwa kufuneka sizame oku. Emva koko, ukumanga akuyona indawo yokugqibela ebomini bethu.