Ukukhulisa unyana ngomoya onjengeemfazwe

Ukukhulisa unyana ngomoya onjengeemfazwe, unokuthintelwa njani oku? Uyihlo wakho ungumphathi wezempi, loo ndoda yeklastiki: ihlakaniphile kwaye ilukhuni. Wahlala uloyiko-kwaye wazama ukujongana naye.

Kodwa emva kokuthatha umhlalaphantsi kwaye ushiye umhlolokazi, wayevame ukuza kukutyelela. Ukubonakalisa "ukuhlaziywa" kwebini lakho lebhantshi, wanyamezela izigwebo zakhe - waza wabuya umhlala phantsi. Wena nomyeni wakho abazange bahambelane ngokukodwa kuzo zonke iingcebiso ze "mphicothi-zincwadi", wonke umntu wayehlala ecinga kunye kunye ngokufanelekileyo.

Kodwa konke kwatshintsha xa unesana. Utata wayevuyiswa kukuba le yinkwenkwana. "Indlalifa yefayile! Umkhuseli wexesha elizayo kunye nenkxaso yentsapho! "- wavakalisa kwi-christening. Wathi kuwe kufuneka uzinike ixesha elide lokukhulisa unyana wakho ngomoya onjengeemfazwe. Kwaye waqala ukuthatha inxaxheba ebomini bakho. Ngokuncedisayo kuncedwa ngale nto kunye nemali, kunye nokudibanisa. Xa unyana wam wakhula, waqala ukuya enkulisa, wafaka phambi kokuba umkhulu wakho wayeza kukhulisa unyana ngomoya olwa yimfazwe. Umyeni wakhe ngokukhawuleza wayexhasa icala likayise, nangona wayethemba ukuba uya kuthatha icala lakho.

Ukukhuliswa kwendodana kwaqala ngento yokuba abaninzi baqala ukumnika izibhamu kunye nezixhobo zempi, badlale naye kuzo zonke iintlobo zabaculi - ikhomputha kunye "nentsimi", jonga ama-militants, ugxininise ukuba usebenze kwicandelo lobugcisa bokulwa ... Unyana - umfana akayi ingquzulwano kwaye inothando, kodwa kulula ukuba "uqale" kwaye emva koko emva kokuphuma kulesi sikhundla. Kwimeko enjalo evuyisayo, ukuguqula kumsebenzi othile onzima kunzima. Ukukhuliswa kwonyana wakho akufanelanga. Ngomntwana, uzama ukungabambisani nomyeni wakho nomkhwezala. Kodwa awufuni ukunyamezela imfundo yonyana wakho kwimoya efana nemfazwe. Uyaqonda ukuba inkwenkwe kufuneka ikwazi ukuzikhusela, ithi, ukusuka kuma-hooligans. Kodwa akafanelekanga, kwaye ngoluvo lwakho, unengqondo ngokubhekiselele, ukufa, ubundlobongela. Uxelwa ngokukhawuleza ukuba unamahloni, awukwazi ubomi obunenkohlakalo obunenkohlakalo, akazange abe engozini, kwaye inkwenkwe iya kuba nomkhosi! Ngamafutshane, awukwazi ukuguqula.

Ukukhulisa unyana akulula. Kwaye kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba le nkwenkwe uba ngumlawuli omkhulu, kungekhona umama. Kodwa konke okufanayo akuwona umthetho ongenakuphikiswa.

Umntwana ubona ngokucacileyo oko umama afuna kuye, kwaye uya kudibanisa ngokupheleleyo "amandla akhe" (evela koyise kunye noyise) onothando nomusa (evela kunina). Ngenxa yoko, umntwana uya kwomelela kwaye abe nesibindi, kunokuba athathaka kwaye abe nemvakalelo. Ngoko akudingeki ukwesaba ukuba ukwazi ukuzimela, kodwa ukuba ungabi nalo! Enye into - kumlinganiselo we "militancy" kunye neentlobo zayo: kunokwenzeka (ukuba ucinga ukuba kuyimfuneko) ukunciphisa. Umzekelo, ukuba ukwesaba okanye ukwesaba, ulwaphulo lobugcisa bokulwa - unike unyana wakho kwi-aikido. Olu lukhuselo olumnene nolunomusa. USonny ngexesha ongayazi, uya kukhula kwaye ulungile.


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Nantsi kukho umzekelo weklasi wokutshintshwa kwengxaki. Enyanisweni, akusiyo imfundo yonyana onomoya okhuselayo obangela ukuxhalaba, kodwa ukwanda okungenakunqunyulwa komkhwezala. Izigwebo ezinomsindo "womphicothi-zincwadi", amazwi akhe kunye neengcebiso, kwaye ukutyelela ngokukhawuleza kakhulu kunomsindo. Umama unomuvo wokuthi uphononongo kwaye unqatshelwe ilungelo lomthetho lokwenza izigqibo ekhaya lakhe. Konke oku kubangela ukukhathazeka nokukhusela. Uvukelo kuphela luya kuba luhlobo oluthile loloyiko. "Akunakwenzeka ukuqinisekisile" - awanalo amagama omfazi, kodwa intombazana encinci yintloni phambi komntu omdala. Kubuhlungu ngakumbi ukuba awukwazi ukuthembela kumlingane. Naye, naye, akazange aphumelele ukwesaba kwakhe kootata ootata oomandla. Kubonakala ukuba ukulwa "nemfundo yindoda" yonyana kukuthi inxalenye yenkcaso yokumelana nomkhwezala, enokuthi igqitywe kule meko. Imeko efana nayo iya kuqhubeka kuze kube yilapho imida yentsapho ichazwe ngokucacileyo kwaye imithetho imiselwe iindwendwe ekhaya.