Ukubunjwa komntu wengane kwiminyaka yokuqala yesithandathu yobomi bakhe kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphuhliseni phambili ubuntu bomntu. Ngeli thuba lobomi kukho ukukhula okusebenzayo kunye nokwakhiwa kwengqondo yomntwana, umntwana unokuhlala, unomdla kwaye uqeqeshiwe ngaphandle kokuvuselela okukhethekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana ufuna kuphela ukuba afundiswe kwaye aqeqeshe, ungalibali ukuba ubuntwaneni, obubalabala kunye obuqhakazileyo, kuphela kanye kuphela ebomini, ngoko ke yonke into eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho kufuneka imlethe uvuyo kunye nenjabulo enkulu.
Njengomthetho, abazali abaninzi kwiminyaka yokuqala yobomi babo bomntwana baqala ukufunda nokuphuhliswa ngokwabo, kwaye sekuyisikhathi sokufunda into yokukhumbula ngaphambi kwesikolo, xa sele sele "hayi ukuba lixesha lini." Emva koko ukufunda okusebenzayo kuqala, okungekho ukuzisa izibonelelo ezithile. Ndiyayikhumbula imeko xa ndiza kutyelela abahlobo bam, kwaye iintombi zabo kwakufuneka zifunde itafile yokuphindaphinda. Kwakubuhlungu gqitha ukujonga lo mfanekiso xa umntwana enezinyembezi efundisa ipilisi yokuphindaphinda, kodwa ngenxa yokuba intombazana ayikhumbuli into yonke kakuhle, abazali bakhe bamemeza. Ukuba ukhangele imvelaphi yengxaki, mhlawumbi ufanele uhlasele abazali, ngokuba kwakungekho buvila ukuba bafunde "babo babini-babini abane," kwaye bebanesilonda emininzi kwiminyaka edlulileyo kwindlela yemidlalo enomdla kwaye ezonwabisayo ukubonelela inkunzi yakho incedo zezinto ezizayo zokufunda.
Ngoko, ukwenzela ukuba ungangeni kwindawo yezinyembezi, i-whims kunye namazinyo omzimba, akunakulimaza ukuthatha uphuhliso olubalulekileyo nolungqinelanayo, ukukhuliswa nokubunjwa kobuntu bokufunda, kwaye oku kufuneka kwenziwe ngokusesikweni kwi-diapers. Ukuba umntwana wakho sele engekho usuku lokuqala lokuqhaqhawula, ungadikibali, njengoko bethetha: "Ukuphuculwa kangcono kunokungabikho". Kukho nawuphi na, lonke uqeqesho nophuhliso lomntwana, luqale ngaphambi kwesikolo, luza kuzisa iziqhamo zalo ezifanelekileyo kwixesha elizayo.
Ukuphuhliswa kunye nokubunjwa komntu wengane ukuya kunyaka owodwa
Umntwana ufunda ihlabathi elikulo nyaka wokuqala wobomi bakhe, iimbasa zezinto ezisisiseko zokujonga izinto eziphathekayo zehlabathi, intetho kunye nezakhono zomzimba, kunye nophuhliso lwakhe lwengqondo. Ukuqhagamshelana nosana ngeli xesha lobomi bakhe luyinto ebalulekileyo yokukhuliswa. I-Lullaby i-foam, ukukotshwa kamama, ukunyamezela-oku kuyimfuneko ebusaneni. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umama akhulume zonke izenzo, ngoko ke inkwenkwe iqokelela isigama sakhe esisisigxina. Yaye ukuba ucinga ukuba xa umntwana ungatsho nto, ngoko akayiqondi nto, ngoko, mhlawumbi, awuyiqondi ingane yakho. Umntwana oneminyaka engaphantsi komntu uyazi, uyaqonda kwaye ucinge ngaphezu kokuba unokucinga. Kuwe kuncike kuphela kwimiba emininzi yolwazi kunye noluncedo olumnika lona.
Kubaluleke kakhulu, xa uneminyaka engaphezulu komnyaka, ukuba ufunde imidlalo yokuqala yokuphuhlisa, umzekelo, ukufaka iipramramid, ii cubes, ngexesha lomdlalo ukuseka ubudlelwane phakathi kwesenzo kunye nesiphumo salolu nyathelo. Umzekelo, xa uphosa into ethile, ihlala iwa. Uwa njani? Ikhupha kwaye ayikho kakhulu. Oko kukuthi, into iyawa kwaye ivelise isandi, kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezenziwe kuyo, nangokwemilinganiselo yayo. Kubonakala ngathi kwiinkqubo eziqhelekileyo ezinokwenza unokwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo, nto leyo eyenziwa ngumntwana wakho. Ngokomzekelo, xa inja ibeka ngaphandle kwefestile, ngoko, mhlawumbi, awuyiqapheli, kuba iminyaka emininzi sele isetyenzisiweyo kwezi zandi. Umntwana wakho, njengomthetho, ubamba ngokucacileyo inja ezigubungelayo, kunye nezinye izandi ezininzi, kuba kuye kuyinkqubo yokwazi ihlabathi elikujikelezile.
Ixesha lokuphuhliswa komntwana ukusuka kunyaka omnye ukuya kwiminyaka emithathu
Emva konyaka, umntu unokuthi, uphuhliso olukhawulezayo lomntwana luqala. Uqala ukuzalisa ngokutsha isigama sakhe. Kwaye nokuba umntwana wakho akafuni ukuthetha, ungadikibali. Bonke abantwana bahluke. Ngomonde nje uqhubeka uthetha naye ngezinto zonke ehlabathini. Uyakuqonda kakuhle kwaye, kholwa mna, uva kwaye uva.
Ukususela kwiminyaka emnye, umdlalo udlala indima ebalulekileyo ekukhuliseni nasekubunzeni ubuntu. Iintsana ezisebuntwaneni kunye nabantwana abasebancinci bathatha inxaxheba kwimidlalo eyahlukeneyo apho umntwana esebenza kakuhle, amathoyizi kunye nezinto, eqala ukwenza izenzo ezintle (ukutshintsha, ukuphonsa, njl.), Kwaye emva koko bebukele utshintsho kwimidlalo (ukutshabalalisa izakhiwo kwiikhabhi , kunye neepramamidi, ukunyakaza kweeyunithi zeeyure, njl njl njl) nokuzama ukuseka isizathu solu tshintsho.
Kule minyaka, indima ekhulayo idlala yimidlalo equka ukuhamba kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Musa ukuyihoxisa ibhuku lomntwana. Intombi yam eneminyaka eli-1 kunye neenyanga ezintathu zathandana neencwadi, ezenza umama, utata kunye nogogo bafunde le ncwadi. Musa ukuthenga iincwadi ezinentsingiselo, ezinika ulwazi, kunye nomthwalo omkhulu wokubhala. Kwabancinci, kukho iincwadi ezininzi zamakhadi anemifanekiso emfutshane, iincwadi zeemifanekiso kunye negama lezilwanyana, izinto zendlu, izityalo, amathoyizi, njl. Le yindlela ekhethekileyo yokuphuhliswa kwangoko.
Ekukhulisweni komntwana, kubalulekile ukukhumbula nokuziqonda ngemigaqo yokuziphatha kunye nemithetho yokuziphatha. Ungakulibala ukuxelela umntwana wakho: "isithandwa esinomdla" xa ehleli phantsi ukuba adle okanye "ubusuku obuhle" xa elala. Tshela umntwana wakho oko unokukwazi kwaye awukwazi ukwenza. Umntwana kufuneka aqonde ukuba akuyiyo yonke into ayifunayo ukwenza kakuhle kwaye avunyelwe. Kulapha kuphela ukucaphukisa nokuhlwaya i-crumb ayifanelekanga, kuba inkunzi iya kuphelisa ukuqonda igama, kwaye isetyenziswe ukukhwaza kunye nesijeziso esingokomzimba, ngokubhekiselele kumnxibelelwano oqhelekileyo. Kuyafana nokufundiswa kwabantwana abaneminyaka engama-10 ubudala. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza ulwalamano olunobungane kunye noluthembayo phakathi kwabazali kunye nabantwana babo.
Ubudala ukususela kunyaka ukuya kweyintathu kubonakala ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba umntwana uhlala ehlambalaza kwaye engenanto. Lo ngumpawu wonyaka owenziwe. Abazali badinga umonde omkhulu, kuba umntwana omncinci kuphela uyazi ihlabathi elikufutshane naye. Kwaye akudingeki ukuba ukhulise umntwana nge "kroti kunye nokunamathela" indlela, udumo kunye nokuthintela, kuba nawe uncinci kwaye wadlula isigaba esifanayo sokuphuhlisa kwakho. Xa unqabela, ngakumbi umntwana uza kwenza okubi. Akumangalisi ukuba bathetha ukuba isiqhamo esinqatshelwe sisiphumo. Yinto nje into ongenakuyenza okanye awukwazi ukuyenza, ufuna ukuyifihla ngokubanzi kunokwenzeka kwintsana, okanye uchaze kwifomu efumanekayo ukuba kutheni kungavunyelwe.
Ukususela ezintathu ukuya ezintandathu - "Kutheni?"
Ubudala ukusuka kwiminyaka emithathu ukuya ezintandathu yithuba lemisebenzi ethile kunye neemvavanyo ezithile. Ukumemeza, i-yelp, okanye ukukhusela, ukusetyenziswa komntu onamandla onke "akukho", ukuzama ukulawula ingqinisiso ngomnqweno omkhulu kuphela - oku kanye okumele kwenzeke kule minyaka. Kwaye amandla okomoya kuphela abangela umntwana ukuba enze ngendlela efanayo, ukuphazamisa oko, unokufumana iingxaki ezinkulu kwixesha elizayo. Amandla onke ombane womntwana kufuneka ahanjiswe kwisitishi esincedo, ekuzalisekeni kwaloo misebenzi kunye neemvavanyo eziya kufundisa ukufumana ukulinganisela kwengqondo kunye nemvakalelo.
Umntwana ophakathi kweminyaka emithathu nantlanu ubudala unenjongo enamandla kakhulu. Intsana ikhuluma ngenjongo yakhe kwaye yenza konke okusemandleni ukuze ithole into ayifunayo. Umntu omdala ukhathazeke kakhulu kwiminqweno, kwaye akufanele iguqulelwe ngokwenene. Kodwa apha, ukuba kwasebuncinaneni ukunyanzelisa nokuyeka ingqondo yomntwana, kuya kuba nzima kuye ukukholelwa ngamandla akhe kunye nobuchule bokuphila komntu omdala.
UJohn Grey ucebisa ukuba uhambelane nale miqathango elandelayo: Ukuhlukana kwabanye, ukwenza iimpazamo, ukufuna okungakumbi kunye nokubonisa iimvakalelo ezingekho phantsi, ukubonisa ukungavumelani kwakho kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kodwa akufanele uyilibale ukuba umama nootata bangundoqo.
Umntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu ngumphandi omncinci, ofanelekileyo wokudumisa, ukuphononongwa nokuvunywa. Musa ukuvila ukufumana iimpendulo ezifanelekileyo kwiintandokazi "kutheni" kwintsana yakho, ufuna ukuba umntwana akho akhule ubuntu obuqilileyo, kodwa oku, kuninzi, kuxhomekeke kuwe, bazali abathandekayo.
Ukufana: uphuhliso lwabantwana - uphuhliso lwabazali ngenzuzo yabo bonke
Abazali abaninzi bajongana nomntwana wabo, kulula into yonke inikwe, kuba nayiphi na into ayenzayo. Kwabanye abantu abadala, akusiyo yonke into enomdla ukufunda, uthi, "izinto ezilula": ukwenza izicelo, ukudweba imifanekiso yokuqala, ukubala ukuya kwishumi, ukufunda i-alfabhethi, njl njl. Kodwa kunomdla kakhulu ukukwenza nomntwana wakho! Ubonakala ubuyela kwakhona kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini edluleyo! Ndizikhumbule mna: xa ndandineminyaka engama-7 ubudala ubudala, ngoko ndandifuna ukufunda iincwadi ezindala kwaye ndiyicombulule iingxaki zabantu abadala, kwaye ngoku, xa zonke izinto zicacile kwaye ziqondakala, ndizichukumisa kakhulu kwihlabathi lobuntwaneni nentombi yam intanda! Ndikunqwenela okufanayo!
Iincwadi zabazali abaxanduva
Ukuze uqonde ngokujulileyo iimpawu zokuphuhliswa, ukukhuliswa kunye nokubunjwa kobuntu bomntwana osenkulanga kweli nqaku, kungakanani. Kukho uncwadi olunomdla olunomdla noluncedo olunokunceda abazali abancinci ukuphakamisa ubuntu obonwabileyo nangempumelelo. Andiyi kukunika uluhlu lwazo zonke iincwadi ezinokufumaneka kwaye ezifikelelekayo zokufunda, kodwa zizinto ezimbalwa ezithandekayo emva koko konke ndiya kukucebisa. Ezi zi:
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