Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamnye wethu ujamelene neemeko ezinjalo, xa umntu echaza ngokucacileyo, bathi, ukhathele konke kwaye ukuba uvakalelwa njani ukuba uthando olunjalo olungabonakaliyo luyabonakala phakathi kwakho. Abanye abafazi baqhaqhayisa baze baphuke: ngokuqinisekileyo, babeyithanda njani indoda ethandekayo? Intukuthelo ithatha inzuzo - kwaye igawula iingcinga, nangona kunjalo emphefumlweni abafuna kakhulu ukuyigcina. Kodwa kukho abafazi bohlobo oluthile - banomdla kumbuzo othi: "Yintoni enokuyenza, ukuze loo nto ingayiphumeleli inzala", kungekhona xa ibuyele kakhulu ukutshintsha into ethile, kodwa kusengaphambili, xa ubudlelwane buqala ukufumana ukukhawuleza. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba xa zonke izinto zinikezela, awukwazi ukugcina ibini lakho.
Masithi umfana wakho ukhuphe ngokucacileyo kuwe kwaye walahlekelwa umdla. Kubuhlungu kakhulu, ndiyavuma, kodwa kufuneka uhlale phantsi uze uqikelele-kutheni le nto yenzeke kwaye kungubani na isizathu esilandelayo? Siyanixwayisa kwangaphambili ukuba ukuphela kwayo yonke imizamo yakho ayinakuphumelela - ngokuba indoda yakho nayo ingumntu, ngeemvakalelo zakhe nangemvakalelo kwaye, mhlawumbi, wagqiba kwelokuba ayinqumelanise yonke into kwaye akayi kuvuma ukuxolelana. Yilungiselele ukuguquka kweziganeko.
Ngoku jonga ngokwakho: ngaba le ndoda indoda oyifunayo? Okanye mhlawumbi awuyikubona okukhethwa kulo mzuzu kwaye kukuthi - njengethuba lokugqibela lomntu omanzi? Cinga ngenyameko ngaphambi kokuya ekulweni kwikamva lakho kunye.
Ngendlela, ngokuqhelekileyo, kunokuhlala phantsi kwaye uxoxe ngokuzenzekelayo ngolu hlobo lwengxabano kunye ne "iqela lokubhikisha", sigcina yonke into engalunganga kwaye sakha ingqiqo malunga nento engalunganga kuthi. Kukho imigca emibini yokuziphatha kwethu nawe. Okanye siba ngongqongqo kwaye sivumelane nayo yonke into, sizama ukukholisa "inkosi" ukuze atshintshe umsindo wakhe inceba. Okanye, ngokuchasene noko, sithatha umyalelo wokukhusela kwaye sitshabalalisa ukunganeliseki nje kuphela ngeendlebe, kodwa kunye nezenzo. Qaphela ukuba ingqolowa eyakhayo ayifumanekanga kwiyokuqala okanye kweyesibini. Kodwa ukulungiselela intetho ethe tye kwiitoni ezilungileyo, mhlawumbi, indlela engcono yokuphuma. Ngexesha elifanayo, kwaye nixoxe - obani kunye nantoni na engxaki, nokuba ufuna ukutshintsha kwaye yintoni na.
Xa kungekho mntu unawe, hlalani yedwa ngokuzikhethela, ubenze itiye ngakumbi kwaye ucinge ngokuziphatha kwakho. Oku akuhlekisayo - ngokwenene, uhlambele umlingiswa wakho, imbeko yakho "kwiishelulo," zama ukuqonda - mhlawumbi usitya kakhulu ekhaya, yintoni eyanxilisayo nawe? Mhlawumbi wena kunye nalo mfana nje unomdla ohlukeneyo? Mhlawumbi ufuna ukuba uhlanganyele ngokuthanda kwakhe okanye, ubuncinane, ungamthinteli ukwenza oko akuthandayo? Thatha iqabunga uze ubhale kuyo malunga nazo zonke iziphoso zakho. Ayikwazi ukuba unayo? Emva koko ubuza umfana - yiziphi izinto eziphazamisayo azibona kuwe? Uze ukhangele uluhlu. Okokuqala, ngenxa yolu, uya kuqonda ukuba yintoni ekhoyo ekhoyo, kwaye, okwesibini, uya kukwazi ukuqonda ngokwakho kunye nezizathu zokungquzulana kwakho.
Oko, ngokusemthethweni, kunye neengcebiso zethu zonke. Ba landele kwaye baqonde imeko - eli liyinyathelo yokuqala kwisisombululo esiphumeleleyo. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba le nto isele kuwe - zama ukutshintsha nokuzama, avela phambi kwamehlo akho ozithandayo rhoqo ixesha elitsha nelifihlakeleyo - makhe umntu wakho angaze aphephe ukuqaphela i-puzzle yakho! Funda ukudansa okanye ukupheka, ukugubungela ukuzingca kwakhe - emva koko, kufuneka babe nekratshi ngamantombazana abo - kwaye kuphela ke balala phantsi kobudlelwane bakho.
Kodwa ukuba ubonile ukuba ukuzama apha akukho nto kwaye umntu onqabileyo ufuna isizathu sokushiya-ke ungayibambeli. Uzimisele ukwenza yonke into kwaye uyicinga ngokunyamezela kwakhe uya kwenza okubi ngakumbi - mhlawumbi uya kuba nomsindo kuwe kunye nokungaqondani kwakho kunye nokushiya, uthathe umphefumlo wakho nentukuthelo kunye nomsindo - oya kuvuma, uyisiphelo esingathandekiyo kuyo nayiphi na ubudlelwane - nabo licolile.
