Yintoni abantu bacinga ngayo ngabathandi

Unkosikazi ... Kuninzi kangakanani kule ngcamango yokuphikisana, iingcamango kunye neengxabano. Abafundisi be-Morist abaziboneli izinto ezingcwele kubasetyhini abanjalo, bawagxeka ngokugqibeleleyo kunye ne-mercantilism, babiza isizathu sokutshatyalaliswa kwemigaqo yokuziphatha kunye nomzekelo ombi wokukhuliswa kwesizukulwana esincinane. Ngaba oku kuphazamisa i-mistress? Ngaphandle. Baye, bekunjalo kwaye baya kuba. Ngaba ukuziphatha okusemthethweni kwabantu kuyayeka? Akunjalo. Kuba baninzi babo, inkosikazi ifakwa "kubasebenzi", ngenxa yefashoni, ukufezekiswa kwezinto "zokuzingela", njl njl. Ngasinye sinesizathu saso. Yiyiphi, kwaye kutheni amadoda ehlukanisa ubomi bawo, kubhetele ukubuza ngqo kubo. Yintoni abantu abayicinga ngayo ngeentsimbi? Bachaza njani ubukho babo ebomini babo?

Amadoda adibanisa iinkolelo malunga neengxaki

Ngokuqinisekileyo, amadoda anomdla, kwaye uluvo lwabo kulo mbandela luyintloko. Nangona kunjalo, injongo yethu yophando ayininzi ukukhangela inyaniso njengenzame yokuqonda ingcamango yomntu ngendlela yokukhohlisa. Yintoni abantu abayicingayo malunga neentlalo zentlalo malunga neendoda? Inkolelo-mfundiso 1: umthandi uvuselela ubudlelwane obunqatshelwe. Amadoda amaninzi avuma ukuba abe ngowokuqala ukuqala iintlanganiso kunye neentlanganiso ezintle, kuba, njengoko besithi, banomdla kulo. Ukuba bathetha ukunyathela endleleni yokungcatsha (ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokuzithandela - akubalulekanga kakhulu), akunakwenzeka ukuyeka le "locomotive". Basebenzisa zonke iintlobo zobuqhinga, amaqhinga, izipho, ukunakekelwa, ukukhohlisa kunye nesithembiso. Inkolelo yesi-2: inkosikazi ibhinqa eliziphethe kakubi. Abasetyhini, bathathwe ngabantu abatshatileyo, abaqhelekanga ngokuziphatha kakubi kunye neentliziyo ezinzima njengemilinganiselo yokuziphatha kunye noluntu lubonayo. Icandelo ngalinye lilibali elihlukileyo lomfazi. Amadoda ayenqwenela ukuba imbono kawonkewonke ibona ukuba bangamaqabane angama-naive, asetyenziswa ngabasetyhini abangenangqondo. Kunoko, basebenzisa ubutsha babo, ubuhle baze bazinikezele kwiminyaka yobomi.

Inkolelo-ngongoma 3: inkosikazi ifuna ukwakha inzondo yabo injabulo. Kwamabhinqa anamhlanje, amadoda anqwenela umnqweno omkhulu wenkululeko nokuzimela, kuquka. kunye nasezintsapho. Akunabo bonke abathandayo abanqwenela ukutshabalalisa intsapho yendoda nokwakha kwiindawo zokubhubha zabo lonwabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, inkosikazi yanamhlanje ayidingi indoda. Ufuna umntu onokuziva ethanda naye, kwaye engaqhutyelwa yihashe kwidyokhwe yobomi bentsapho. Namhlanje, umtshato ulahlekelwe yinto ekhangayo ngaphambili. Inkolelo-mfundiso ye-4: inkosikazi ye-mercenary, i-mercantile kunye nengqiqo. Kwaye amadoda avuma ukuba ngexesha lethu ibhinqa lilula ukwenza imali ngokwabo kunokufumana indoda ehloniphekileyo. Ukuba umntu ucebile kwaye "uzithengela" idoli enhle, ngoko, njengalowo "into" yakhe, ufuna kwaye uza kutyalisa imali, ukwandisa ixabiso layo. Yaye uyenzela yena. Kodwa namhlanje amadoda amaninzi, ephosa amehlo abo, avume ukuba kulezi zihlandlo ezibuhlungu akunjalo. Ubuhlobo ngaphandle kwemali, njengokuba uyazi, uthando olungenanto. Iingoma 5: inkosikazi ayihlonishwa. I-cinema yehlabathi, uncwadi kunye neembali zizukisa nje iimpazamo, zidale i-halo yothando, imfihlakalo kunye nesono esihle. Ii-Courtesans, i-hetaera, intandokazi zishiye umkhondo oqaqambileyo kwaye ziya kukhunjulwa ngonaphakade. "Bathandekayo" abafazi bayabonwa njengento eqhelekileyo, kwaye "ukungabongi" iindwendwe zenza izinto, zibeka umngcipheko kumsebenzi, intsapho kunye nangobomi.

Amadoda malunga nezona zinto ezibangela ukukrexeza kwabo

Kuthiwani ngala maqhubi, into engekho kubafazi? Sisiphi isibheno sabo? Kubonakala ngathi uthakazeliso luyabonakala, kwaye luyakuboniswa ngamanqaku amaninzi:

• Umthendeleko ongunaphakade. Indoda ifinyelela kumfazi ogama lakhe elingakhathaliyo.
• Ukuziqhenya komntu. Ngenkosikazi, indoda yindoda kunye nekhonto. Ekhaya uwonke kwaye uhlawulela yonke into, kwaye ngenxa yalo msebenzi unesihloko seqhawe asinikiweyo.
• Ukuvalelwa kwintshukumo. Ulwalamano nenkosikazi alupheli ngumthwalo wobomi, isiqhelo kunye nesimo esithandekayo sokuphila kwentsapho kwansuku zonke.
• Ngokwesondo. Uthando olubiweyo lunikezela bobabini ubudlelwane, kunye nesondo "isenzo" esithile kunye ne-adrenaline ehlala ixesha elide engekho nomfazi osemthethweni.

Okwangoku, ngeengxoxo ezingenangqiqo, amadoda aphika zonke ezi ngongoma.

• Inkosikazi iyaqonda ngaphezu komfazi? Hayi, okanye akunjalo nje nomfazi, ongeyonto idliwe yodwa ityuwa, kwaye sele sele uvakalelwa yonke into ebonakalayo ukusuka kwisiqingatha-ubukeka, nangona engavumelani nale mibono yendoda yakhe. Ukukhanga okulula akunalo ukuqonda, kwaye ingozi engazange ibe nayo.
• Unkosikazi usemncinci kwaye umhle kunomfazi? Okumangalisa kukuba, ngokuvuma ngokunyanisekileyo, amadoda athi ukubonakala kunye nobudala akubalulekanga kwaye kaninzi kulahlekelwa ngokwesini kunye nobufazi. Kwaye ukuba umntu uyaziqhayisa kwaye engenanto, ke inkosikazi ayikho ibali lakhe nantoni na, nokuba nguye uNdlovukazi woBumnandi. Akakwazi ukuziqhayisa ngokubanzi kuluntu kunye noluntu olusemthethweni.
• Unkosikazi unqwenela kwaye unyanzelekile? Akunjalo. Uluhlu lweminqweno yakhe (kungekhona kuphela izinto eziphathekayo) kaninzi lugqithisa iimfuno zomlingane, kubandakanye zombini, kunye nosapho, kunye nekhaya kunye neemfuno zakho. Umfazi uye wayeka ukuyeka isidingo sokwaneliseka ubuncinci, akazenzeli njengamaqabane omtshato kunye nobungqina bemihla ngemihla yothando.

Ngoko yintoni isizathu esiyinyaniso sokungathembeki kwamadoda? Amadoda akwazi ukuhlalutya, ayanyanisekile kwaye anyanisekile kunye nabo, adibanise ngokungahambisani noxanduva. Unkosikazi awukwazi ukwesaba iingxaki ezinxulumene nempilo yakhe, indlu kunye neemeko zezindlu, ukuba ungabi noxanduva lokukhuliswa, ukhuseleko kunye nobomi bentwana, ukuba ungenzi izicwangciso ngekamva kwaye ungenzi izibophelelo. Kuye - iholide eqhubekayo kunye nokungabikho kwengcinezelo. Kwaye ukuba kukho into engalunganga, unokuhlala usithi "inkohliso" ngesiNgesi uze ufake enye indawo. Lowo uza kubuya umgangatho wokungakhathali. Umsebenzi wentsapho, ukuphumla kwamakhosikazi kuye. Ngokubanzi, indoda ayikhathalele ukuba ngubani inkosikazi yakhe (ubuhle, ulutsha, i-adrenaline - enhle, kodwa iibhonasi zokuzikhethela). Unomdla kakhulu kwiimvakalelo zakhe, ezizifumanayo ngexesha elifanayo. Kwaye ukuba isityhilelo sezinto zakhe ezingekho mthethweni "ngakwesobunxele" zikhula, yena, njengomthetho, ngaphandle kokungabaza nokuzeza, uya kukhetha ukukhetha intsapho. Ubuhlobo obubi kunye nenkosikazi yakhe kwizicwangciso zakhe azifakiwe. Akangakho oko wamkhokela. Unkosikazi kwigama elithi uthando. Yaye uthando lusesimo sengqondo, iholidi engenakulinganiswa nezibophelelo.