Uthando kunoma yimuphi umntu aludluli ngaphandle. Unako ukushiya emva kwakhe kungekhona nje imemori yexesha elonwabileyo, kodwa kunye neengcwaba, ngamanye amaxesha amanxeba angunaphakade. Uthando lokuqala kulo mzekelo lunokuqwalaselwa njengesiseko sokuqala kobudlelwane bomntu ukuthanda: uya kukuphepha, ekubeni uthando lokuqala aluvuyo, okanye lufuna, ukuqaphela ukuba uthando luyisiseko saso sonke isiseko.
Uthando lo kuqala lokwenene luza nini? Ngokuyinene, xa umntu okanye ixesha lokuba ngumntwana adinga uphuhliso oluthile, ukubunjwa kweengcamango neziseko ezisisiseko.
Apha awukwazi ukuthetha ngokuthe ngqo xa uthando lokuqala lokwenene luza kuza, kuba umntu ngamnye uhlukile kwindlela yakhe kwaye ukhula ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Omnye umntu ovela kumaphupha abantwana kuphela ngumsebenzi ophumelelayo okanye ngemali, ngelixa abanye behamba ngenye indlela, becinga ngokomoya - into ephambili. Abazali badlala indima enkulu ekuqaliseni le ndlela. Emva koko, ukuba bavusa umntwana ukususela ekusaneni ngothando kunye nokuvisisana, uya kuqonda ngoku, kwaye uthando lokuqala luza kuye ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngekamva akayi kuyika imiva. Abazali nabo bancedisa ngokusisiseko - ngaphandle kokuxhasa kwabo, ulonwabo lothando lokuqala luya kuphelelwa. Kule meko, kukho izigidi zemimiselo.
Intombazana encinci iphuma kwirejista kwaye ixelela abazali bayo ukuba ifumene umyeni. Ukuba abazali baqala ukugculela intombi okanye babize ityatha, inokushiya inxeba elide emphefumlweni wentombazana, kwaye uya kuphepheka ukuba ayiphephe ukuthanda. Ingqondo yokuqala kufuneka ihlale iphathwa ngokuhlonipha nokuqonda, naluphi na uthando luza. Kule meko, abazali kufuneka bathethe nomntwana, bamnike inkxaso, balamle.
Uthando luza kubomi bethu ukuze luyihlobise, lwenze lukhanyise. Ixesha xa uthando lokuqala lufika, lumboza isigqubuthelo semfihlelo yaloo mva phambi kwendoda: uyaphawula ukuba yonke into ejikelezayo iya kuba yinto engakumbi, ukuba umothumo awuveli ebusweni bakhe, ukuba xa kukho ulonwabo, kukho umnqweno wokuwunika wonke umntu.
Njengoko uKhakhov owakhe wathetha, uthanda, kwaye kamva uyamthanda, ngumgangatho oqhelekileyo womphefumlo womntu. Uthando, ukucacisa ukuba kunokwenzeka ukutsho ukuba luyothando lokuqala, lubonisa kumntu oko kufanele ukuba. Uphosa ingqondo yakhe, wakha uhlobo lwezinto eziphambili zokuphila. Oku kwenzeka njani, umzekelo, ebuntwaneni? Umntwana akayi kuqonda ngokucacileyo konke oku, kodwa uyaqonda ukuba le ngqiqo iya kumkhokela ebomini.
Kuyinto engokwemvelo ukuba uthando lokuqala, kwanabantwana, luthatyathwa ngokungqongqo kwaye ngonaphakade. Kutheni kunjalo? Xa uthando lokuqala lufika, ukuza kuvela kuye kwintswelo, ngaphambi kokungafunyanwa, iimvakalelo ezintsha zivela: umnqweno wokunyamekela into enothando, umnqweno wokuhlala naye. Yonke into entsha kwaye engavamile, kwaye yile nto eyenza ukuba ungavumeli ukuba uzive.
Uthando lokuqala luyinto yokulwa nje, ukuzimisela ukuhlawula izigidi zemingcipheko ngaphakathi komntu ngokwakhe, ukuzimisela ukuhamba phambili endleleni engaziwayo. Ngaloo nto, eli qiniso linika ithuba lokukhwela kunye nokunyaniseka, kuba umzabalazo uyisenzo, kwaye umntu ongasebenziyo akhathalelekanga. . Ngoko ke, uthando lokuqala lufanelekile ukukhumbuza nokubulela ubuncinane ngenxa yokuba luye lwabunjwa kwizinto ezikuyo, thina ngokwemizuzu xa uthando lokuqala luza kuza ludibanise kwelinye ihlabathi.