Enyanisweni, kukho izizathu ezintathu eziphambili, eziqhelekileyo zikhokelwa ngokwesini esilungileyo: ububele, ukwesaba kokuxhomekeka kwenyama. Emva koko, siza kuthetha ngezizathu ezithile ngokuthe ngqo.
Usizi
Abafazi basoloko bexhatshazwa ngokuthe ngqo ngenxa yenceba yabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba baqale ulwalamano ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba inceba nje into yokuba intombazana inithanda kakhulu. Ngelishwa, izibini ezinjalo ziqabuleka kakhulu. Kukho iziganeko ezinzulu xa ububele buba yintando. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo iyaba yintlonelo kunye nehlazo. Nangona kunjalo, akumangalisi, kuba, njengoko siyazi, inceba enye yeemvakalelo ezimbi kakhulu. Abantu banokuba novelwano, kodwa akukho mcimbi ungazisoli.
Ukuba ulwalamano lwakhiwe ngentlungu, ekugqibeleni, kuya kuba ngamacala amabini ahlupheke. Kungenxa yoko, uvakalelwa kukuba uthando luye lwadlula, umfazi kufuneka afumane amandla kuye ngokwakhe ahlale esondelene. Kakade, elowo umntu ufumana iintlekele ezinjalo ngendlela yakhe. Kodwa nantoni na eyenzekayo, awukwazi ukuzigxeka ngenxa yokuba umntwana uqala ukusela okanye ukuziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga. Inyani kukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kudla ngokuba "ukubonakalisa", okubhekiswe ngqo kwi-Navas. Umntu uyazi ukuba uyabuhlungu njani kwaye ubonisa wonke umntu kunye nantoni na into ebandezelekayo, nje utyumza ngengqondo. Khumbula ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo akuveli kumntu onothando ngokwenene. Ukuba uyakuthanda ngokwenene, myeke ahambe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba buhlungu njani. Kwaye akayi kuze ahambe kwaye akhononde kubo bonke abaqhelana nabo. Kwaye abo baququzelele inkundla yemidlalo yecala, ngokwenene, banqabileyo. Ngokwenza njalo, zibophelela i-vask kwaye ziphoqele ukuba zixhomekeke kwimimoya yazo kunye neminqweno. Ukuba uzisola ngale ntombazana kamva, ungamangaliswa xa uza kuhlambalaza ngokunyaniseka, kwaye usongela ngokuzibulala nokunye. Ngendlela, abaninzi abafazi bayesaba ukuzibulala ngaphandle komntu oshiyiweyo. kwaye ityala elingenakukhuseleka liza kusongela ukuba uya kuzibulala - awukwazi ukukhathazeka. Abo banokwenene abanokwenza isenzo esinjalo abayi kuzisa le nto. Kodwa nangona, uThixo ethanda, kuya kubakho intlekele, khumbula ukuba iphoso lakho alikho. Ukuze ungathethi "abacebisi kakuhle", le miphumo ayithethi ukuba ungumntu owonayo, kodwa kuphela loo mfana wayegula ngengqondo. Kungenzeka ukuba, wayenokwenza into enje, kungekudala okanye kamva. Ngoko ke, ukuba uqaphela ukuthambekela kokuzibulala ngenxa yendoda eselula, kunokuba uxolele kwaye uvuselele eso sifo, kungcono ukwazisa izalamane zakhe ukuba lo mntu unemimoya nengqondo engaqinisekiyo, ngoko kufuneka umlumke kwaye mhlawumbi umbonise kwiingcali. Nguwe kuphela onokukwazi ukuthatha uxanduva kwizenzo zakhe zexesha elizayo kwaye ucinga ukuba abazange bamlandele. Wayexhatshazwa ngabazali bakhe, kuba iingxaki ezinjalo zivela kubuntwaneni, ubuncinci beselula. Ngoko ke, ukuba uziva ukuba awusayithandi umntu, kodwa xa ehlala ehlambalaza kuwe, khawuleza ushiye. Oku kuya kuba yindlela ephuma phambili kwimeko kwaye uya kunceda ngokwenene
Uloyiko
Esinye isizathu sokuba umfazi esaba ukushiya indoda uyamoyiko. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzeka xa umfana ehlekwa ngumtyholi ocinezelayo. Uhlambalaza ngokuthe ngqo umfazi, aze ahlabe, atyisongele xa ehamba. Intombazana, ke, ayikho nto ngaphandle kokutya kwesilwanyana, ayikwazi ukumshiya, kuba uyesaba imiphumo.
Ukuba unalo hlobo lolwalamano, ngoko kufuneka uphume kwaye uphume ngokukhawuleza. Njalo khumbula ukuba amadoda anjengezinja: ahlaselwa xa beva ukwesaba. Ukuba unika umntu onjalo ukukhawuleza, ngoko uphakamisa isandla sakho, uya kuqonda ukuba awukwazi ukuphathwa njengento. Khumbula ukuba le mpawu nayo ingxaki yengqondo. Ibinzana elithi: "I-Beats-ithetha uthando" edala idlulile. Umntu onothando akanakuze afune ukulimaza umfazi wakhe. Ukuba iqabane lakho lihlambalaza kwaye libetha, ke unesifo sengqondo kunye nokuhlala naye kwindlu elandelayo isongela ubomi. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kuhlale kuyimfuneko ukufuna uncedo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyethusa kangakanani, khumbula ukuba enye inkohlakalo inokuba yingozi, kuba emva komzuzwana wobugwenxa umntu akacingi ngemiphumo.
Abanye abafazi banamahloni ngento yokuba bawela kwiimeko ezifanayo, ezibangela ukuthula. Khumbula ukuba awunanto yokuba neentloni. Uthando luyimfama yaye sonke ubuncinane kanye kanye ebomini siwela kwi-hook yayo. Ukongeza, abantu abasondeleyo abakuthandayo ngokwenene, bafuna ulonwabo kwaye baya kwenza konke ukukukhusela. Ngoko ke, ukuba kunokwenzeka, qiniseka ukuba uxelele uyihlo, umalume, umzalwana okanye umhlobo malunga noko kwenzekayo. Ufanele ukwazi ukuba ukhuseleko. Oku kulungele ukukhumbula kumfana oselula. Eyona nto ingcono, uvumele uyihlo (umzalwana, umhlobo) athethe naye. Emva kwengxoxo enjalo, isandla sakhe asiyi kuvuka kuwe, njengokuba rhoqo abo baxhamla kwiinkathazo zokuzithemba ngokwabo bahlala behlekisa. Kwaye ukuba baziva besengozini, abayi kuze bayeke ukukhangela inkathazo "kwindawo yesihlanu". Emva kwintetho enjalo, unokuhamba ngokukhuselekileyo kuloo ndoda, ungaqapheli ukuba uthele i-asidi ebusweni bakho.
Ukuxhomekeka kwenyama
Isizathu sesithathu sokuba kutheni ukuba abesifazane banamathele kumadoda yimali. Amantombazana amaninzi akakwazi ukuhlukana nobudlelwane, kuba besaba nje ukuhlala bengenayo inkxaso yezemali. Kule meko, konke kuxhomekeke kuwe. Cinga ngento ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe: ukuhamba ngeempawu eziphathekayo okanye ukuhlala nomntu omthandayo, kungekhona kunye nomntu onyanyekayo. Abasetyhini abaninzi basacinga ukuba i-destin yabo yintsapho kunye nomsebenzi awanakulungiswa . Izigidi zabafazi abazimeleyo baye bafakazela ukuba oku akunjalo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubambe umvuzo womntu kufuphi nomntu-ngaphandle kokucinga ngako. Makuqale ube nzima, kodwa ke uyaziqhayisa ngokwakho kunye nokufezekisa kwakho. Into enjalo kukuba iimali zenza uxhomekeke kakhulu, okunzima ukuphula. Abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo bayazi malunga noku kwaye bahlala benandipha amalungelo anjalo. Indoda enika ngokukodwa umfazi unelungelo elipheleleyo lokufuna yonke into evela kuyo. Ngoko, ukungena ekuxhomekeke kwizinto eziphathekayo, ufumene kwisicupho sangempela, indlela yokuphuma kuyo into kuphela xa ixabiso lezinto ezingokomoya liphezulu kunezinto eziphathekayo.