Iintlobo kunye neengxaki zokuhlala kunye.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuhlala nabazali, intsapho encinane ayihlawulelanga indlu, egcina imali. Ukuba ngaba abazali baphila ngokuvisisana kunye nolwalamano lwabo luhle, ngoko ke umntu unokukwazi ukuzakhela ulwalamano lwakhe ngokomzekelo wabo. Ukuququzelela ukuqiniswa kobudlelwane phakathi kwezi zimbini iingxoxo ezidibeneyo. Kulawulo lwekhaya, zombini iintsapho zincedana: xa ufika ekhaya usuka emsebenzini emva kwexesha, unako ukulindela ukuba udle. Isizukulwana esincinane sinokuhlala sifumana iingcebiso ezizilumko kwiimeko ezinzima. Xa umntwana omncinane ebonakala kwintsapho eselula, uncedo lwabazali luya kulungelelanisa.
Kodwa kukho amanqaku amaninzi ukuba abantu abatsha kufuneka baphile nabazali babo. Ngokomzekelo, abazali abavumiyo ukuba abantu abatsha sele bekhulile. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo banike imiyalelo yabo "ngendlela ehlelekile." Oku ekugqibeleni kuya kubakho kwimpikiswano. Kungcono, loo myalelo iya kuhoywa. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuvela kweengxabano. Oku kungaba nomoya ongalungelelaniso kumntu obonakale endlwini. Uninazala ugxeka umkhwenyana wakhe, uninazala akayithandi umalokazana wakhe. Andiyithandi iyakuboniswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: kwintshaba, ukunganeliseki kubazali, njl. Ukudakumba okuqhubekayo kwinqanaba lezesengqondweni kubakho amava entsapho. Xa imeko ingalunganga, oku kungonakalisa ubudlelwane babo abasandul 'ukutshata.
Amabhunga eengqondo.
Cinga ngokuphazamiseka kwansuku zonke. Xa ilungu elitsha lentsapho libonakala, kukho iingxaki: ngubani oqala ukuhlamba okanye indlu yangasese, oza kuthatha isitofu ekhitshini. Kwaye kubonakala nakwezinye iindawo zeesanti ezintsha, amasokisi kunye nezinye izinto. Kutheni abazange basuse igug, njl. Kule meko, abazali kufuneka babe nesigulane kwaye banengqiqo, ngaphandle kokunyusa imeko.
Abazali rhoqo bazama ukunika iingcebiso, kubonakala ngathi bayazi yonke into kwaye banelungelo lokufundisa abantu abatsha. Ngoko ke, abantu abaselula abayithandi, kwaye kuvela iingxabano. Ingongoma kuphela kukuba abazali bafanele bulumko kwaye bazame ukuqonda abantwana babo.
Ekuqaleni kokuhlalisana, abazali bahlawula abantu abancinci ngeenkonzo ezithile, kodwa ekugqibeleni banokukhathazeka ngokuhlawula ilungu lentsapho elitsha. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, izihlazo eziqhubekayo ziqala, kwaye amacandelo omabini anzima.
Kwakhona iingxabano zivela ngenxa yokungazithandi. Abanye abazali abavakalisi izimvo zabo "evulekile", abanye abafuni ukuzikhusela zabo kwiimvakalelo zabo baze bathethe ngokukrakra ngokukhethiweyo okanye okhethiweyo womntwana wabo. Abatshatileyo rhoqo ngenxa yezinto ezibangelwa ukukhathazeka kwengqondo kwaye ziphikisana nomnye. Ngokukodwa "ukungathandanga" kungomntu ophakathi kwabantu ababini abasondeleyo - ngakwesinye icala abazali, kwelinye elithandekayo okanye elithandayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, xa abantu abatsha kufuneka baphile nabazali babo, akukho nto inqwenela ngayo "umtsha" ngenxa yokuphazamiseka komntu. Ngokomzekelo, umama-mkhwenkwe akakwazi ukuhamba kwihostela kwisigxina sasebusuku okanye kunye nabaphengululi entloko yakhe. Umkhwe-ntatheli unqatshelwe ilungelo lokuhamba ngeenxa zonke kwizindlu zakhe ezincinci kunye nokunye okuninzi. Ungakulibali ukuba kuzo zonke iintsapho zikhona izithethe kunye nemithetho yazo, ekungekho nje ukulungelelanisa. Oku kubangelwa ukungaqondi.
Iimeko zengxabano zivela xa iindwendwe ezintsha zivela endlwini, xa zibukele iTV (emva koko, wonke umntu uyayithanda iiprogram). Musa ukulibala ukuba zombini iintsapho zifuna iimfuno zabo. Ukuhlala ngokudibeneyo kweentsapho ezimbini kubangela ukuphazamiseka kwabo ubomi obusondeleyo, obungenakuchaphazela ubudlelwane bobabini kunye nabazali. Ngexesha elithile, kufuneka uhambe ukuyothenga, tyelela abahlobo, ngamanye amazwi, vumela abantu abatsha nabazali babo ukuba bangahlangabezane nexeshana.
Unokufunda njani ukuhlala nabazali bakho ngoxolo? Sebenzisa iingcebiso ezininzi. Zama ukufunda indlela yokusombulula iingxaki njengoko zivela. Ukuthetha ngokubanzi nabanye, ukuthetha ngezihloko ezahlukileyo. Funda ukuphulaphula ngononophelo uze ucinge ngemibono yomnye nomnye. Kule meko, khangela indlela yokuphuma kunye - ungathi "le ngxaki yakho".
Ulutsha kufuneka lufunde ukuhlonela ubulumko babazali babo. Kwaye abantu abadala kufuneka baqonde ukuba abantwana babo banelungelo lokwenza izigqibo ezininzi ngokwabo. Xa uthetha, zama ukuphakamisa ilizwi lakho komnye nomnye. Ngokubambisana, kufuneka unqobe ukungaphumeleli, ufunde kwaye ujabule kunye. Zithobelelana, zihlonipheke kunye nesigulane. Musa ukuqokelela amandla angenanto, ukuze kungabikho "ukuqhuma" kwemvakalelo. Ungazami ukubeka izimvo zakho kwabanye. Ukuba usebenzise amacebiso ngale ndlela, ubomi babaselula kunye nabazali buya kuhlaziywa. Musa ukulibala abantu abadala ababebe selutsha.