Ngethuba lokuqala lobudlelwane, ukunyaniseka kuba luvavanyo olunzulu. Uhlala kulindeleke njalo, kwaye ukuwanga kunye namagama kuphela yendalo yesikhashana. Ukuvuleka kunye nokunyaniseka kukhula kunye kunye nothando. Yaye ungathini ukuba uqiniseke ngokunyaniseka kweemvakalelo?
Ityala umntu ngomandla namandla. Uthando lunika ukwaneliseka kunye nenkululeko engenamkhawulo. Xa uthanda ngakumbi, uziphakamisa ngakumbi. "Ndiyabulela ngokuba ungubani." Elingary, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ukhona nje kweli hlabathi. Le nto yintloko yothando - ubukho bomntu omthandayo. Yaye mbulela kuye ngokukunika ithuba lokuziva ubukho bakhe.
Ukuba unothando oluqinileyo, ukuba le nto inentsingiselo kuwe, awuyibeki nayiphi na imida kunye nemiqathango yokukhetha. Kodwa ukuba uthando lubuthathaka, ukuba ungumntu obuthathaka kwaye iimvakalelo zakho azibalulekanga, ngoko ubeka inamba enkulu yokukhetha: kufuneka ube njalo, kunjalo, njalo njalo. Kuyadabukisa ukuba ubomi babantu abaninzi baqhubeka ngaphandle kokuba badibanise nomntu ophethwe ngumntu onokuhlala naye ngokunyanisekileyo, ngokukhululekile nangokunyanisekileyo. Kwaye ukuqinisekisa ukuba ukunyaniseka komnye umntu kunzima nakakhulu. Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba uthembeke ngokupheleleyo nabanye, ngelixa ungafundi ukufunda ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye oku sele kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kumntu ngokwakhe.
Akukona ukulahla izinto zokuzilibazisa, izipho okanye iimpazamo; Konke oku akunakwenzekayo, ngokungakhathaliseki ukuba umntu uhlala phakathi kwabantu, ngenxa yokuba abo bantu ababiza umnqweno, isicatshulwa, okanye nje isiphako ukuba yiyiphi inxalenye ebalulekileyo yobuntu, ingundoqo, ayilungile. Umntu de ukuphela kweentsuku uya kulahlwa ukuba afunde ukungafezeki kwakhe. Ukuba, ngokwenene, abahlupheki kwi-megalomania kunye nokuzidla. Uzama ukukholisa wonke umntu ngokunyaniseka kweemvakalelo zakhe.
Umntu oziqondayo yena uyazi ukuba ziphi iimbombo ezimnyama zomphefumlo wakhe. Oko, ngokuqhelekileyo, akuthinteli lo mntu ukuba aphumelele, aphelise, enze izinto ezintle. Ingongoma kukufumana kuzo zonke iinkcukacha kunye neenkcukacha ezilungileyo kunye neentsilelo onalo. Kwaye ukuba ufunde indlela yokuphatha ngayo impumelelo efanayo, ongenako ukwesaba ukuba basenokusikhupha okanye basuse phantsi kokulawula kwethu kube yingozi kubo nakwabo abasondeleyo. Ukususela ekuphakameni othile kophuhliso lwayo umntu unokuzibona iimpazamo zabo ngaphandle kokwesaba ukuba baya kuzuza amandla phezu kwenu, kuba kunzima ukucima ingqondo eqinileyo nekhulile. Ukukholisa ukunyaniseka kwemvakalelo yomntu onengqiqo kulula kakhulu. Kunokwenzeka, ixesha elifanelekileyo, ukulahlekelwa ngabanye, ngamanye amaxesha ukwenza iimpazamo, kodwa ukwenzela ukuba ukulungiswa kwazo kulula. Emva kwakho konke, kulo mbuso, asicingi ukufihla ingcamango engcolileyo okanye engabalulekanga, okanye iimvakalelo ezingafunekiyo. Xa ufunde ukuzilawula, uzama ukuzilawula. Abayi kusenza sihlaziyeke ngakumbi, ngoko ke, xa siwaqonda, siyabagweba, sibahlule, siwahlukanise nathi, siqiniseke ukuba asisekho kuthi, andinathathi inxaxheba ngakumbi ebomini bethu, abonakali ngakumbi kumsebenzi wethu kunye namandla ethu. Nangona kunjalo, siyaqonda ukuba bangabomninimzi ongeyinto engaqondakaliyo, abagqila, abamele ngathi into ekhohlakeleyo, njengazo zonke esizikhethayo yi-predominance yendalo yamandla engaphezu kwengqondo.
Ukusasazeka kokungazithandi, ukuzingca, ukunyaniseka, ukunyaniseka okanye ukungathembeki, kubonwa ngokunyaniseka, kuyintyatyambo enomdla kuphela. Ukuvuleka, njengomlilo, kucoca yonke into echaphazelayo. Ayithinteli imigaqo engozi kwaye yenza ukungabi nabulungisa okubi kakhulu into enqwenelekayo, engenakuyingozi, njengobuthi obubulalayo emva kwendawo yokugcina iimyuziyam. Amandla okuhlanjululwa ekuqaphelisweni axhomekeke kwiipropati zomphefumlo owenzayo, kunye nalowo owaziyo. Ukukholisa ukuvuleka kobudlelwane bokwenene kulula. Ngohlobo oluthile, ngokuqinisekileyo konke ukuqaphela kukuphucula umgangatho wothando kunye nolonwabo.
Sonke sifuna ukuzama ukufezekisa ukunyaniseka okunjalo, nangona sisoyika ixesha elide ukuba abo bantu basithandayo baya kukhula bebanda ngathi xa sibonakalisa into esingafuni ukuba siyivume yona. Siyicinga ukuba ezi zivumo ziya kutshabalalisa ngokupheleleyo umfanekiso abazenzayo ngokwazisa. Ukuba bayayiphambukisa ngokwenene, bekuya kubonisa ukuba asizange sithandwe ngamandla esinokuthandayo. Kwaye abanye abantu banokuqiniseka njani ngokunyaniseka kweemvakalelo kunye namava? Ukuba umntu owamkele ukuvuma kwakho akakwazi ukufika eqinisweni ukuba ufuna kuphela ukuthandana nawe ngenxa yokuqonda, ngoko ke uthando lwakhe alusekelwe ngokungaqondakali.
Akukho sidingo sokwesaba ukuba ukuvuleka ngokubanzi kuluntu phakathi kwabantu ababini kuya kubakho ukupholisa iimvakalelo kunye nokwazisa ukungafezeki komnye. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, kholelwa ukuba oku kunjalo, imfihlo yothando ibonakaliswa kuthi kuphela ngomzuzwana wokunyaniseka, kuba INYANISO yezinto ezimbini zinokuthi zivelise ngakumbi, zingapheliyo kwaye zinzulu kunokuba zivelele, zikhukhume kwaye zixoke. Ukunyaniseka kwemvakalelo kubaluleke kakhulu kulwalamano.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, akudingeki ukhathazeke kukuba ukuvuleka kwakho kuya kuba yinto engapheliyo kwaye akukho nto iya kuyenza kulwalamano lwakho, ukuba ukunyaniseka kwintsebenziswano yabo kuphazamisa. Kwimeko nayiphi na imeko, ukuvuleka nokunyaniseka kusekhona iingcamango ezihambelanayo, kuba ukuqonda komntu kuye kwatshintsha imihla ngemihla ebomini bakhe.