Iingcali ze-Psychotherapists ziqinisekile - asinayo iipounds ezingaphezulu. Siqala ukuthayipha izinto ezingabonakaliyo ngenxa yeengxaki, njengabantu kunye nabantu abasisondezayo. Kwaye ngokukodwa kubantu abapheleleyo, iingxaki kwi-sex sector zibonakaliswe. Ziziphi ezi zinkimbinkimbi, kutheni zibonakala kunye nendlela yokujongana nazo?
Uninzi lwamaxesha amaninzi, iingxaki kwisigaba esithandanayo sokuba abantu abapheleleyo bavele ngenxa yenkxalabo engathandekiyo. Iinkomfa ezinxulumene ngesondo kunye nentliziyo, njengomthetho, unemibala engqondweni. Iimvakalelo, ezivela nakwezinye kwiingcamango zesondo, zingabangela ukwesaba, ukudideka, ukudibanisa nokunganeliseki nokunyaniseka kwesenzo. Ngenxa yolu bunzima, umntu unokufumana umonakalo kungekhona kuphela kwisigaba sezesondo - impembelelo inokubonelelwa ngobomi bakhe ngokubanzi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo iingxaki kwiimeko zesini ziyabonwa kubantu abakhulu kakhulu. Kwaye akukho nto emangalisa kule nto: ukuba awuyikuhlangabezana nemigangatho eyamkelwe kuluntu, inokubambisana nobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Kule meko, kukho iindlela ezimbini kuphela: nokuba uhlala kwindawo yokutya kwaye uziqhube kunye nomzimba wakho kwisakhelo esingaphantsi okanye esingaphantsi, okanye uzamkele njengoko ukhona kumzimba wakho okhoyo.
Ewe, kulungile ukuba umntu uziva ekhululekile kunye nomntu omkhulu kwaye akaxhalabisi ngako. Nangona kunjalo, ixesha elide le nto ayikwazi ukuqhubeka kwaye ubunzima ekuthethaneni kunye nesondo esahlukileyo kuya kuqhubeka. Nangona uthanda ulala embhedeni, awuyi kuba ezimbini, kodwa ezintathu: iqabane lakho, wena kunye nokunyuka kwakho, udala isimo esingenakukhathazeka kwaye unike ukuphazamiseka kobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Cinga nje ukuba kunzima ukuthatha nayiphi na ingxaki xa enye ibhinti lonyawo lwakho likhulu kuneyona nto intombazana engumlinganiselo. Kwaye xa intaba yamanqatha ikushaya, nakwibhedi elithambileyo - unonwabo awunamnandi.
Ukususela kwiinkqubo zesondo zingaphathwa ngabamele abesini zesini. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka, xa ngenxa yezixinzelelo ezithandane zomntu ovakalelwa yintlungu engakumbi kuye ukuya kumlingane wakhe. Ezi nkathazo zahlulwa kwaye zabizwa ngamagama amaqhawe adumile kunye nabalingani beembali.
Inkomfa yeDon Quixote
Indoda inokuzicingela igosa eliqhayisayo kwiinqwelo ezikhazimulayo, ezithandayo intombi ethandekayo yentliziyo. Okokuqala, ngenxa yowesifazane ozelekileyo, oku kunokuba kudibanisa, ukuba ube yinto yokunqula. Umntu ekuqaleni akayi kuwuqwalasela iimpazamo zakhe, ukubonakalisa le ntombi ngokuncoma kuphela. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo isimo sakhe sengqondo kumfazi sitshintshe ngokuphawulekayo: ngokukhawuleza uqaphele ukuba umfazi wakhe akayiyo yonke indawo kwaye akukho mzekelo wothando oludlulileyo. Ngenxa yoko, umnumzana akayiqondi kuphela ukudumala (nguye kuphela omele uxanduva: wayefanele amkhange ibhinqa ngokubukeka kancinci kwasekuqaleni), kodwa kubangela ukukhathazeka okukhulu kwintando yakhe yangaphambili - akazange atshintshe, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile bayeka ukunqwenela u kunika. Ngoko, malunga nale mvelaphi, malunga neepesenti ezilikhulu zamatyala inenekazi inokuba nobunzima obungaphantsi, nangona ingazange ibe nayo ngaphambili.
UDon Juan Complex (uDon Juanism)
I-Donorism ivela kula madoda angathembeki kwizakhono zabo zesondo. Kodwa ukuba uyenze kwaye uzive njengomntu wokwenene, uzama ukunyenga abafazi abaninzi ngangokunokwenzeka. Injongo ephambili kuye ukulala ngesinqazana, kwaye emva kobusuku bothando, umdla wakhe kwiqabane liyabhubha ngokukhawuleza. Umfazi akayiqondi into eyenzekayo, kutheni le ndoda kuye ipholile ngokukhawuleza kwaye iqala ukujonga izizathu ezikuyo, iqhuba ukumbumba kwaye kwisiphumo sokugqibela oku kukhokelela ekubonakaleni kokungaqiniseki kunye neengxaki ezinxulumene nokubonakala kwayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubunzima bukaDon Juan bubonakaliswa kwindoda enamafutha, ngenxa yokuba amanye amakhilogremu kunye negazi elibhubhileyo alinakuthintela ekunyuseni ukunakekelwa kwabafazi kumntu wakhe. Amadoda athile angabonakali ubukhenkco emehlweni abo bafazi. Kwaye oku, kwindlela, isiseko esenzululwazi esisisiseko: inqatha yeoli inqanda ukuphuhliswa kwamahomoni esondo. Yaye ukuba kukho ambalwa amahomoni eesilisa, ngokokuziphatha kommeli onamandla onamandla akuyindoda. Ukuzama "u-bun" onjalo ulalele embhedeni njengamantombazana amaninzi kunokwenzeka ukuba angqina ukuba "uyindoda".
IMacho Complex
Olu bunzima lufana nelo elidlulileyo. Indoda enobunzima bokuzamazama izama ukubonisa bonke abantu ukuba "uyindoda yinyani, inkunzi yindoda", ngoko unokuyenza ngamabomu, kwizentengiselwano kwaye ngaphandle kokusebenzisa igama elingafaniyo, ebonisa ukubonakala kwayo komntu ngokubonakala kwayo. Isiqingatha sesibini somntu onjalo asithandeki. Kumelwe ukuba uphelele ngokupheleleyo, uphuze uthuli lwamathambo kwaye ube ngamathathu kwelinye: inkosikazi elele embhedeni, intombazana endlwini kunye nomhlobo wemfazwe kuluntu. Kwaye ukuba umfazi engapheleli kumfanekiso (umzekelo, uye waphinda wabuya emva kokubeleka), ngoko ukugxekwa okungenakuqulunqwa kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwindoda kunokuxutyushwa. Umntu ofanayo onenkqantosi yamehlo unokuqonda ngokugqithiseleyo ukungaphumeleli kwakhe embhedeni (kwaye njengoko kuthethwe ngaye, banokudityaniswa nobunzima bakhe obunzima), okwenyani, kuphela ekubhubhiseni ubomi bomntu wonke.
Romeo Complex
Xa umntu onamandla waseRomao ethandana (ngokuqhelekileyo ekujongeni), uqala ukucamngca uYuliet kwaye akaqapheli nayiphi na iphosakelo kuye. Ukuba intombazana yakhe iphosakele ngokukhawuleza yabuyiselwa, ngoko unako ukuhlukana ngokupheleleyo nale ndawo. Ngokwemvelo, umfazi uya kuba buhlungu gqitha ukuba aphule ikhefu kwaye ukuphuhliswa kweenkomfa kuye kwimeko eqinisekisiwe.
Kukho iintlobo ezininzi zobuncwane obuphantsi kwezocansi kumadoda:
- inzima yelungu elincinci (ngendlela, liyakubonakala nje ngenxa yokungafani phakathi kobukhulu bomlingani). Kule meko, indoda iyayika ukuba iya kuhleka, kwaye ayidibana nabasetyhini;
- Quasimodo. Indoda ibona ingathandeki ngokupheleleyo kubafazi (kwaye yinyani, ukuba ibukeka njengemvubu, kunzima ukuthetha ngokukhanga). Ngokuqhelekileyo, nantoni na into ongayithethayo, kunye nokuphucula okanye ukuphucula ubomi besondo, kuyimfuneko ukujongana ngokukhawuleza ngokunyaniseka.