Mhlawumbi, kulukholo ukukholelwa ukuba ukuba umntu ufuna isondo kuphela, uthanda. Konke okufanayo, iimvakalelo azibonakali nje ekutsalweni kwezilwanyana. Oku, okokuqala, luhlobo lwemiphefumlo, uluntu lwemimandla kunye neminqweno, imibono kunye neenjongo. Yaye yintoni indoda efuna kumfazi kuphela elala ngesondo? Kutheni esenza ngale ndlela kwaye yintoni ekhuthaza izenzo kunye neminqweno? Enyanisweni, kunokukho izimpendulo ezahlukeneyo. Ekugqibeleni, ungacingi ukuba abafana balala ngesondo ngaphandle kokuzinikela, ngenxa yesondo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kungumnqweno wabo oyisiseko, kodwa kunjalo, kwiimeko ezinjalo, abafana abakhokelwa kuphela ngothando. Ngokuchasene noko, kunokuba buhlungu. Xa amantombazana abathanda ngokungafaniyo, azama ukuzikhohlwa, kodwa ke, ahlala kunye neengcinga kwaye ahlale ethembekile kumntu abathandayo. Kwaye amadoda azama ukulibala. Kwaye isondo, ngokuqhelekileyo, yindlela ehle kakhulu apho bafaka khona iiminqweno ebomini. Kodwa kuphela, ngokuqhelekileyo, yonke into ayifani lula njengoko sifuna. Ulwalamano olulolo hlobo lunokulimaza intombazana enabelana naye ebhedini kunye nobusuku obusenyongweni. Ewe, xa ibhinqa liqonda kwaye likwabelana ngesimo: isondo, nje ngenxa yesondo. Kubi kakhulu xa eqala ukubona into ekhethekileyo kule nto, uzama ukufumana iimvakalelo, eqinisweni, zingekho ngokupheleleyo. Ngelishwa, ngelityeba, isondo, kodwa, asiyiyo i-panacea yazo zonke iingxaki. Indoda inokulala nomfazi othi, ndiyaxolisa ngenxa yokunyaniseka, wayesondele. Kodwa uya kuhlala esicinga, kwaye umele ngqo, enye yodwa, ngenxa yokuba uhlushwa kakhulu kwaye ubandezeleka.
Abaninzi abasetyhini baxela abafana ukuba bahlambuluke, kuba baziphatha kanje. Amantombazana akholelwa ukuba xa umntu ekhetha isondo ngesondo, akanako ukuthanda ngcaciso. Enyanisweni, kukho abantu abahlala benomdla ngokwenene kwiminqweno yenyama kunye kuphela. Kodwa, nangona uluvo oluqhelekileyo lwamkelwa, okunjalo, ngokwenene, incinci. Kwaye abaninzi abantu bathanda ukulala nabo bathandayo. Okanye balala nomntu ukulibala ngabo babathandayo. Ngoko ke, ukuba umfana wanikela ngesondo kuphela, unokuqiniseka ukuba uyabathanda. Kodwa, ngelishwa, akukho konke kuwe. Njengoko akubuhlungu ukuvuma, awunayo insizwa ekhethekileyo neyodwa. Kuphela ukuba umtsalane njengowesifazane, kwaye, mhlawumbi, mhle njengomntu nomhlobo. Kodwa, akukho nto. Ukuba intombazana ebizwa ngokuba nomntu onothando ngomfana, ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kubakha ubudlelwane ngesondo esinye. Nangona kubakho ukuba kukho uluvo lokuba uthando luye lwaphela, enyanisweni, lulungile ngokupheleleyo. Ngabantu abancinci, abaninzi abantu banamahloni ukubonisa eli candelo. Kodwa, njengokuba uyazi, uthando lusebenza ngokumangalisayo kunye nabo bonke. Kungenxa yoko, kunokwenzeka ukuthetha ngokuqinisekileyo ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba intombazana enothando nentombazana iya kubeka isondo kwimvelaphi.
Kakade, akayi kuyeka ukubaluleka kumadoda, kodwa, ekuqaleni, loo mfana uzama ukwanelisa kokubili kunye neminqweno yakho yokomoya. Ukuba oku kungenzeki kwaye uboshwe kuphela ngumbhede, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukugqiba oko ufunayo kubuhlobo obunjalo. Ukuba uhlala uphumule, ke awufanele ukhathazeke kwaye unako ukuqhubela phambili "ubudlelwane" obufanayo. Kodwa kwimeko xa uqala ukucinga malunga nembono apho le nsizwa iya kuba yinkwenkwe okanye indoda yakho, kufuneka ucinge. Inyaniso kukuba kukho ithuba elincinane kakhulu lokuba loo mntu uya kukuthanda. Kakade ke, ungafuni ukuba kukho zonke iintlobo. Kodwa, kwiimeko ezininzi, ulwalamano olunjalo lukhawulelwe kuphela kwisondo kuphela. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba uthanda, kulungile ukuyeka yonke into ngokukhawuleza. Ewe, kuya kuba nzima kuwe okokuqala. Kodwa, ndikholelwe, kungcono ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane obunjalo kumdiliya. Kubuhlungu kakhulu kwaye kukhwankqisayo ukubona ukuba uyamthanda umntu obona kuwe kuphela into yokudlala ngesondo, into, kwaye akukho nto. Ngokwemvelo, wonke umntu ukhetha ikusasa lakhe, kodwa kusekude kukukhetha okulungileyo. Sekunjalo, kwiimeko ezininzi, ukulala ngesondo kukuqhutyelwa uthando, kwaye akunjalo. Khumbula oku xa iingcinga zothando zingena engqondweni yakho ukuba yonke into iya kutshintsha kwaye uya kukuthanda. Ewe, andikuphikisana ukuba ibhinqa ilungile ngesondo, kubalulekile kumntu. Ngaloo nto ayikho imfuneko. Othandekayo unokufundiswa, kodwa umntu onamava akanakuthandwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngoko ke, xa uzama ukukholisa umfana, ungalokothi ugxininise ngokubhekiselele kwisondo. Sekunjalo, amadoda ahlala exabisa i-intelligence, i-erudition, i-humour kunye nezinye iimpawu ezithandayo iimantombazana.
Abantu abanobuchule nabanobuchule bathi ubudlelwane abuzange bakhelwe ngesondo, nokuba yiyona nto ibhetele. Ukuba iimvakalelo ziphelile kwaye umbhede uba sisiseko, kungekudala imibhangqwana enjalo kunye nemitshato iyahlukana. Vumela abantu babeke isondo kwindawo yokuqala yokubaluleka kwabo, kodwa bafuna ukufudumala, ukuqonda, inkxaso kunye nokuqwalaselwa.
Ewe, abafana bafuna uluthando, nokuba ngaba bayayenqaba ngenkuthalo kwaye bahleka ngeemvakalelo ezinjalo. Enyanisweni, bafuna ukubonakalisa amandla abo kunye nokufihla iimvakalelo zangempela. Kodwa kunye nentombi, intombazana iyayikhohlwa malunga nemiski yakhe. Unako ukumbamba nje kwaye uya kuba esonwabile.
Ukuba indoda ifuna isondo kuphela, inothando nomfazi ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Kule nto kufuneka uvume wena kwaye wamkele. Ngaphandle koko, imiphumo ingaba buhlungu gqitha. Ngokulula, abafazi abanakholelwa ukuba isondo asikwazi ukubangela iimvakalelo zothando. Kwaye amadoda alungile xa elala ngesondo, engacingi nantoni na ezama ukulibala ngamava. Kungenxa yoko, akufanele uzingcebele ngezithemba lokuba iqabane lesini liya kuba ngumlingane wobomi. Kukulungele ukufumana omnye umviwa ongakuniki nje kuphela ukuzonwabisa okungokwenyama, kodwa nothando lobubele.