Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo, okanye umlutha, kuyindlela yokuziphatha ngokwesini esithintekayo ekusebenziseni ukufumana uxolo kunye nentuthuzelo yengqondo.
Iimpawu zempawu zomlutha
Ukuxhomekeka kwezesondo, njengomthetho, ezi zilandelayo zibonakaliso. Oku kungakwazi ukulawula iiminqweno zesini. Oku kuziphatha komntu okukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi, kodwa umntu oxhomekeke kuye ngokwakhe uhlala ephika le nto. Ngokuxhomekeka ngokwesondo kumntu, ukuphindaphinda kwemiba yesondo kuya kwanda kumaxesha anamhlanje. Kweminye imida yobomi, umntu oxhomekeke kuye uya kuba ngumthwalo. Ngenxa yokuzilahla ngokwezesondo, ixesha elide, iimpawu zokukhutshwa kweempawu ziyafumaneka.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba uhlobo lwesenzo sokuziphatha ngokwesondo luxhomekeke kuphela xa kukho izinto zokungena, ukuziphatha, kunye nokungazi kakuhle iziphumo.
Ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesini kwabesilisa nabasetyhini
Abantu abahlukunyezwayo ngokwesini bafumana izinto ezifanayo kwiintlobo zoqhagamshelwano zesondo njengemilutha yezilwanyana - iimvakalelo ezintle kakhulu kumlutha. Iimvakalelo ezinjalo zigqithise ukudabuka kwabo, ukwesaba, ukuxhalaba kunye nentukuthelo, kwaye zibhekwa njengendlela yokuphepha kwimpilo yansuku zonke. Nangona kunjalo, iimfuno zamhlanje zifuneka ukuba zibaleke ngokwenene zomelele kangangokuba izilwanyana zisoloko zingakwazi ukuchasa. Kwaye, ngezihlandlo aba bantu baqonda ukuxhomekeka kwabo kwaye bazame ukuwususa, kodwa abakwazi ukwenza oko ngokwabo.
Uninzi lomlwelwe ngabantu ngabantu. Banoxhatshazo ngokwesini kwiimfuno eziqhelekileyo zokuthintana ngesondo. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuxhatshazwa ngokwesondo ukutshintsha kuya kwiindlela ezingaqhelekanga zesini, kwaye kunokukwaphula nokukhuseleka kokuziphatha kwabanye abantu. Ngokomzekelo, kukhokelela ekutshatyalalisaneni, ubudlova, ukunyanzelisa i-masturbation, njl.
KwabaseTyhini, nangona kunjalo, ukuxhomekeka kwezesondo kwiimeko ezininzi kubonakaliswa ngokulalana ngokwesini okanye ngesondo kunye nabantu abangaziwayo. Baya kubudlelwane obuqilileyo ukwenzela ukwandisa ukuzithemba kwabo, kunye nokufezekiswa kwexesha elifutshane. La mabhinqa afuna ukuphumelela aze alalele amadoda, nangona ngokwenene afihla phantsi kwesifiso sabo sobulili ukuqonda ukungazintli kwabo. Inyaniso kukuba ngokungena kwisondo esilandelayo ngokwesondo, abafazi abazimele ngokuzibandakanya ngokocansi bazibandakanya kunye kunye nexesha elincinci lokubalekela kwedwa kunye nosizi, kuba kwiimeko ezininzi bahlala bengenalo uxhulumano kunye novelwano. Kuvela uhlobo lwesangqa esichukumisayo. La mabhinqa afuna ukusondelana ngokomoya, kodwa abazi ukuba bangayifumana njani. Ngenxa yoko, ndithatha indawo yam yokungcola ngokomoya kunye nomvakalelo wamandla, ukunyamezela kwintsebenziswano yam ngokwesondo.
Iintembeko eziqhelekileyo, kunye nababi, abaxhomekeke ngokwesondo ekuqinisekiseni ukungabikho kobugqwetha nokungabi nantoni. Amanye amadoda ngokugqithiseleyo acinga ngesondo sabo esibaluleke kakhulu kwisidingo ebomini, ngokwenene ulingana ngesondo kunye nothando. Ngokuqhelekileyo, izilonda zamadoda zixhomekeka kwinkolelo yokuba akukho mntu uya kuthanda aze anelise iimfuno ngaphandle kwesondo. Kwaye ngokuchanekileyo ezi nkolelo ezikhokelela kwizigqibo eziphosakeleyo: "Ndiyakuthandwa ukuba bafumana ukukhangela ngesondo."
Iinkolelo ezinjalo phakathi kwabasetyhini nazo. Inkolelo eqhelekileyo yinto yokuba ubuthathaka kunye nokungenakunceda. Kwakhona ukunyaniseka okungahambelaniyo ngokungahambisani nomfazi ukuba agcine indoda ecaleni kwayo, ebangelwa yedwa yedwa, ubeka phantsi ingxelo: "Andiyi kushiywa xa ndifunda ukudukisa." Ngamanye amaxesha, emva kwezemfundo okanye kwiinkonzo zonqulo, le ntokazi iyaqiniseka ngokunyaniseka kunye nobuqhetseba bomzimba wakhe. Ezi nkolelo ezingenakuqondwa zikhokelela ekusebenzeni kwezenzo zesondo zabantu abaxhomekeke kuyo.
Isiseko sokuxhomekeka kwezesondo kwisqondo se-psychoanalytic kukuxhalabisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuxhalaba okunjalo kuqala ukuthatha isakhiwo sesondo somntu wabantu: umzekelo, iimfuno zesondo zesimo sokuxhatshazwa kwezesondo, ukuxhatshazwa kwimeko yokufutheka, kunye nokudandatheka okanye i-anedonia (ukucasula nokungafuni).
I-addictive syndrome inomntu ongenakunqandeka, ekubeni uxhala kunye noloyiko luyancipha. Ngoko ke, enye yemisebenzi ephambili yogqirha-isazi sengqondo kunye nomntu oxhomekeke kwisondo ngumsebenzi wokumfundisa ukulawula iinkolelo zakhe ezingafanelekiyo, ezivelisa umonakalo ophazamisayo, kwaye usebenze ngokunyuka kokuxhalabisa ngoncedo lwangaphakathi lomzimba. Njengomthetho, ukunyanzeliswa kwindlela yokutyelela kwi-ingcali kuyavuma, kodwa umsebenzi oqhubekayo wengqondo unceda kakhulu ukunciphisa umlinganiselo wokuxhomekeka. Umntu oxhomekeke kuye kufuneka, okokuqala, afunde ukuthetha nabantu, kuba amandla okuthetha akwanceda ukulahla ubunyulu, ukudala, nokuphumelela, ubuhlobo obutsha okanye ubuyisele ubudala.
Abantu abaninzi, bejamelene nokutshabalala, zama "ukulungisa" ingxabano ngokunyanzela. Kwaye kumatyala ekugqibeleni, isenzo, njengomthetho, silingana ne-counteraction, kwaye zonke iinzame zihlala zingenanto. Ukucebisa ngeengcali, kunye nokuncediswa kwengqondo ukuxazulula iingxaki ezinjalo kuya kuba mfuneko. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokutshintsha ubomi bakho kwaye uzincede, oku kuyindlela ephezulu kwindlela yokutshintshwa ngcono.