Ngethuba lolutsha asixhomekekanga kakhulu kwiindibano. Sibonisa intlango yolwazi, ukuze singasichitha ubusuku ekhaya, siyifumana kalula ithuba lokuthatha umhlalaphantsi kunye nomfana phakathi kweqela elomsindo. Kutheni ebuntwini bezobulili ngokuqinisekileyo sifuna indlu engenanto ngaphandle kwezingane kunye nezihlobo, ibhedi enkulu ebini, njl.
Ingxaki yezindlu kunye nobomi obusondeleyo buba yinto ephakamileyo ngokukhawuleza kwingxoxo yesizukulwana esitsha.
Ewe, kulungile ukuhlala kude nezihlobo. Kodwa akunjalo konke kuvela. Kutheni ngoku: akukho zindlu - akukho zesini? Ndikholelwe, oku akunjalo. Ukusuka kwam amava ndiyazi ukuba indlu ehlukeneyo ayiqinisekisile intsapho yolonwabo kunye nosuku lwandlululo lwezesondo. Ngako oko, kunzima ukuba iimvakalelo zinyaniso ziyanyamezela. Hlanganisa nefantasy, yongeza intshiseko yolutsha kunye ne-adventurism - kunye nobomi bakho obusondeleyo buza kudlala nemibala engakaze ibe yinto.
Ukulala ngesondo kwikhaya lomzali
Imeko: ukuhlala phantsi kwephahla elilodwa lezizukulwana ezininzi akuqhelekanga kwixesha lethu. Izizathu zento nganye: ukungabikho kwemali yokuthenga / ukuqashisa izindlu, imfuno ethile kwindawo "yokukhawuleza" ngexesha lokulungisa, njl. Ziziphi iingxaki ezinokuvela kule meko? Esinye isiqabane esaziwayo sikhalaza ukuba ngelixa bephantsi kwephiko lwabazali babo, ukuzonwabisa kwabo okwenziwe kakubi ngokwesondo kuba ngumdlalo omdala ongabonakaliyo: ngaphandle kwezandi kunye nokuhamba okungadingekile. Abaninzi bangakwazi ukuphumla, beyazi ukuba umntu ulandele udonga. Phakathi kwemiqobo kukuba ukwesaba ukubanjwa ngexesha elibi kakhulu kunye nesidingo sokulawula zonke izandi kunye nokunyakaza.
Indlela yokuphuma kwindlu kunye nobomi obusondeleyo: njengokuba uyayazi, ubunzima beemeko bunokulinganiswa ngesimo sethu sengqondo. Ngoko, kufuneka ulahle ukuthozama kwenkohlakalo kwaye uqale ukukhathalela intlalontle yentsapho yakho, kungekhona malunga noko abanye bacinga. Akunakulibala, ewe, imithetho yeprayimari yokuziphatha.
Okokuqala, xhaphaza ngesikhiye, okanye ubuncinane isango. Ukuba kwi-arsenal yakho ye-artical kukhona izinto ezinqwenelekayo ukungaziboni isohlo labazali abanomdla, kungcono ukuzifihla "kwi-key-turn key basis".
Abantu basekhaya abadinga ukwazi ukuba wenza ntoni ekhaya lakho. Gweba umbhede - uthenge enye entsha okanye ufake i-mattress phantsi. Iphephethi elincinci - kwakhona i-sexplatform enkulu. Uyakhumbula ukuba amaqhawe eveliphi "izihlalo ezili-12" azame ukuvakala isandi sokubamba ngesitofu sokuqala? Musa ukuphinda iimpazamo zabo, uzama "ukuguqula" ngeTV okanye umculo. Abo bafunda i-physics esikolweni bayazi ukuba ukwenza isandi kufuneka kube apho baphulaphule khona. Ngoko ke, kusebenza ngokugqithiseleyo ukuxhuma i-TV yekhamera kwigumbi lomntwana okanye isitokethi kwiiDVD. Abazali "i-Podsadiv" kwinqaku elithile, uya kuzibonelela ngeeyure ezimbalwa zexesha elikhululekile. Abahlobo bam bahlala "benza" kwindawo yokuhlamba phantsi kwesithandabuzo esithi "Ndiya kubuyela kwintando yam." Uhlolwe ngamava: ukuhamba kwamanzi ngokugqithiseleyo kumisa izandi.
Thatha amaxesha xa abazali be-dacha, benze ukuba baxhamle. Yeka ishedyuli yomsebenzi wakho ngendlela oya kuyo ukusebenza emva kwamanye amalungu omkhaya okanye uza ekhaya "ngesidlo sasemini" ngesondo.
Ehlobo, udibanisa ubudlelwane bakho kunye neentlobo ezingavamile zokuthanda imvelo. Ngaba uyazi ukuba indawo yokusingqongileyo isondla ngamandla okwenza ngokwesondo? Akumangalisi ukuba isondo sangaphandle sithathwa njengesithandane kunye nokukhunjulwa ixesha elide.
Ukucingela, kwaye kukho amathuba amaninzi okuba yedwa kunye nomthandayo. Into ephambili kukugcina umoya ofudumele kunye nobungane ekhaya, kwaye izithintelo ezikwindawo azibonakali zibuhlungu. Emva koko, njengoko ilizwi lihamba, lincinci, ewe, akukho cala.
Kwi "odnushke" nomntwana
Imeko: ukukhutshwa kwezindlu kunye nobomi obusondeleyo: kubini isibini esitshatileyo kunye nekamelo elinye kwigumbi libonakala lilula, nje ukuba libaleke kubazali. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba kukho ukuzaliswa kwintsapho? Unina nootata abaninzi banomdla malunga nombuzo: ukuba umntwana ulala egumbini elifanayo nabazali, iminyaka imivumba "ihloniphekile" ukwenza uthando? Kwaye kufuneka uyenze ntoni xa umntwana ekhula kwaye igumbi liba "lixhamle" kulezi zintathu?
Isizukulwana esipheleleyo sezingane zaseSoviet sakhula ezindlini zokuhlala kwiimeko ezibi nakakhulu. Kwaye akukho nto, wonke umntu, mbulela uThixo, ephila kwaye ephilile ngokwengqondo. Enye into kukuba "iintyatyambo zobomi" zanamhlanje ziyazi kakuhle izinto zobomi obusondeleyo kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba inkunzi yakho eneminyaka emithandathu iya kukholelwa ukuba abazali bayabandakanyeka kwimidlalo.
Abahlobo bam bahlala ehotele kunye nabantwana ababini abadala. Ingxaki yezindlu kunye nobomi obusondeleyo sele ixazululwe ngoncedo lokwahlula. Ukuba ididi ayivumeli ukuhlaziywa okunjalo, utshintshe "ukuchithwa". Emva koko, ngaphezu kwegumbi, indlu yakho inezindlu zokuhlambela kunye nekhitshi. Ndiyavuma, lonke ixesha lokulala ngesibhedlele sentsapho luyisicefe!
Uyakwazi "ukurhoxisa" abantwana ngeeholide okanye ngeveki ukuya kubazali nogogo. Enye inketho ukubeka ekhitshini isilifa yokunyumba okanye ukulungiselela umntu olele ebhaleni (enye indawo yexesha lehlobo). Ndiqinisekile ukuba umntanakho ngokwakhe uya kuvuya apho ebusuku ukuze abe yedwa kunye naye, funda incwadi enomdla.
Ukuze ubulili bube buhlungu, kubalulekile ukukhetha indawo efanelekileyo. Imiba yomthunywa wevangeli kunye nomgibeli walo njongo ayifanelekanga ngokupheleleyo. Uxoxe ubuso nobuso. Vumela kuphela umntu ukuba ahambe, ukuxhatshazwa kufuneka kuphuze. Okanye thabatha i-pose ye-spoon: ulale ngecala lakho, umfazi ujika kumbuyiselo wendoda kwaye uphawule umqolo ongaphantsi.
Uninzi olunokungaqondani lunokuphetshwa ukuba umntwana ulungele kwangaphambili. Wena kunye nomyeni wakho akufanele ube neentloni ukubonisa iimvakalelo zothando phakathi komntwana. Kubantwana abavela kwiminyaka emi-5 kwiivenkile zithengiswa ngee-encyclopedias ezikhethekileyo ezibhalwe ngabafundi beengqondo (mhlawumbi iincwadi zababhali basekhaya). Qaphela ngokukhawuleza le ncwadi ndawonye, funda indlela yokuthetha ngaphandle kokungathethekiyo kwizihloko ezingenanto. Yaye ukuba umntu omdala ekhulayo ngokungenakunqweno uba ngububungqina obusondeleyo bokuphila komama nobawo, akusayi kubakho ukubonakalisa ukulungelelanisa izizathu.
Ngokuqhelekileyo imbangela yeengxaki zethu entloko, kungekhona ekungabikho kwezimo zokuhlala. Ukuba ubungqina bokuba umntwana okanye abazali (nangona emva kwodonga) bebulala umnqweno wesondo, isiqabane sakho sidinga uncedo lomntu ovela: kwi-psychologist yezempilo okanye kwi-sexologist.
Ulutsha ulindele ukuba abazali baya kuba novelwano kubomi babo. Kutheni ekuphenduleni kungabonakali ukuhlonipha kwaye ungazami, ukuba ngexesha lesondo isamba se-decibel asikho esikolweni?