Umntu angayilahla njani ubuntombi bakhe?
Akuyiyo imfihlo kunoma ubani ukuba isimo sethu sengqondo silawulwa yi-hormone. Ingakumbi ixhalabisa ukunxibelelana nomntu okhangayo. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukufunda umzimba wakhe ngaphambi, ngexesha nangemva kwesondo, kuyafaneleka ukuba sicinge ukuba ubuntombi benkwenkwana abuyinto engokwenyama, kodwa isifo sengqondo sengqondo. Kuyimathane ukukholelwa ukuba emva kokuqala kwesondo kwisistim zesini, kuya kubakho utshintsho, njengokuba kwenzeka kubasetyhini abaneenkcaso. Hayi, yonke into ihlala isendaweni. Kodwa iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango zifumana ukulungiswa kwakhona okukhulu.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kukuba ngumntu, ukuqinisekiswa kwakhe kwindoda yendoda ekwazi ukwanelisa. Ewe, kwaye ngokwezinto ezininzi abantu, ukulala ngokwesini kunye nomfazi ngeendlela ezininzi kunqabileyo i-masturbation ekuziqhenyeni.
Ngokuqhelekileyo kukholelwa ukuba intombi enyuluyayo ilahlekelwa kuphela xa ikwazi ukugqiba ngokuphumelelayo isenzo sesondo esilandelayo. Nangona ukungena kumlingane kwenzeka, kodwa imeko, nangona iphi na isizathu, ayizange ifakwe ekugqibeleni - loo nto isaphila intombi.
Indlela yokujonga ubuntombi bendoda kunye nendlela yokuziphatha nentombazana?
Musa ukulinda umfana ongenamava ukuba avuke ebhedini. Ukuba unemvakalelo yakhe, umsebenzi wakho kukukunceda ukujamelana nemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo. Ungakhubeki ukuba ngokukhawuleza phambi kocansi, uya kulahleka ukulungiswa kwaye akayi kukwazi ukunelisekisa. Ngokuphambene noko, oku kungomnye wobu bungqina obubonisa ukuba unomfesane kuye okanye unothando nhlobo. Ukuba kwenzeka isiganeko esinjalo, musa ukwenza izigcawu, ukhubekiso okanye ucinge ukuba iqabane lijongene neengxaki. Kungcono ukumnceda ulungelelanise indlela efanelekileyo: ukuhlalisa, ukukhawula kunye nokubanga, zama ukuvuselela okanye ukululabala.
Intombazana enothando neqondayo, ngaphambi kokulahlwa yindoda yobuntombi, kusengaphambili iya kuyinyamekela indawo epholileyo apho kuya kubakho ukukhanya okukhenkcezayo, ukufudumala okufudumele, ukulala okunethezekile kunye nentle. Akuyimfuneko ukunxulumanisa ukubaluleka okugqithisileyo kunye nokusemthethweni kwesi siganeko. Unokuquka umculo ophumayo oza kukhulula uxinzelelo lwengqondo. Ukunikezela ukusela umlingane wakho ngeglasi yewayini ecolileyo okanye utywala. Nika imizwa kunye nemizimba yakho.
Siyathemba ukuba inqaku lethu lincede ukuba uqonde oko ubuntombi bendoda kunye nendlela yokumnceda alahlekelwe nguye. Yiphathe umfana wakho ngokuqonda nangaphandle kokuhleka usulu.