Khumbula ukuba wakuba ungakhange udibanise njani? Unandipha yonke imzuzu esetyenzisene kunye. Ngoku usebenzisa yonke imzuzu ukuchitha ixesha elilodwa. Awufuni ubuhlobo obusondeleyo, njengokungathi umntu uthathe iqhosha ngomsebenzi "wesini" ukusuka kwipaneli yokulawula. Umlingani wakho uphazamise kwaye akaqondi into eyenzekayo. Unenkxalabo, kuba unesaba ukuba kuya kuvela iingxabano malunga nale mvelaphi kwaye ubudlelwane buya kuphele. Kuphi ukungabikho komnqweno wesini kuvela kumfazi? Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu - yintoni oyenzayo malunga nayo?
Isizathu 1. Isiqhelo sokuxhatshazwa
Ukungabi nomnqweno wokulala ngesantya okanye wancinci imeko? Ukuba ukhethe okokugqibela - usuke udinwe yedwa. Ubundlobongela buba "yinyanzeliso", isithandwa sanyamalala kunye nezinye iimvakalelo. Utshatyalaliswa nje noko kwenzeka ntoni kwigumbi lakho lokulala. Ukuba iziganeko zihlala zilandela imeko efanayo - uyayazi kwaye kuya kwenzeka ntoni kwimizuzu elandelayo. Kungokwemvelo ukuba ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nomntu wakho abukuvakalisi. Njengoko kunjalo, njengeqabane lakho, oqonda ukuba uyeka ukuba ngumthandi wakho othe tye.
Ndingayitshintsha njani imeko? Ukuthula akusombululi ingxaki, ngoko kuthetha nomyeni wakho. Kodwa ngaphambi kokukwenza oku, cinga malunga nento enokuyenza ngayo. Cinga ngeminqweno yakho kunye nento oyifunayo ebhedeni. Ukuba ubona ukuba awukwazi ukukholisa iqabane lakho ukuba litshintshe impilo yakho yesondo - kungcono ukubonisana neengcali. I-sexologist iya kukuxelela indlela onokuvuselela ngayo iminqweno yakho.
Isizathu 2. Kwi- hormone yehomoni
Ukuba ulahlekelwe yi-libido ngokuphawulekayo, emva kweemeko ezithile okanye ingxaki yempilo - isizathu esingaba yiinguqulelo ze-hormones kumzimba. Ngenxa yokuncipha kwinqanaba le-hormone ethile, umnqweno wokulala ngesondo unciphisa. Mhlawumbi indlela yokwenza isisu okanye imiphumo yecala. Ngokuqhelekileyo kukho kwakhona uphawu lwegciwane le-thyroid, umzekelo, hypothyroidism. Ngoko jonga. Ngaba uvakalelwa naziphi iimpawu ezixhalabisa? Mhlawumbi unempawu ezifana nokungena kwelanga, ukungena kwintsholongwane, okanye ukuvalelwa ngokugqithiseleyo, ukukhathala, ukuphelelwa yintswelo? Ngokuqhelekileyo, esi sizathu asibi kakhulu. Imvelaphi ye-hormonal ingasetyenziswa ngokusetyenziswa kolunye unyango. Isimo esisodwa kuphela: kufuneka wenze oku phantsi kolawulo logqirha.
Ndingayitshintsha njani imeko? Ungakulibala ukudibanisa nomzimba wakho wezilwanyana uze umxelele ngeengxaki zakho kunye namazwana. Ugqirha wakho uya kujonga izinga lakho le-hormone kwaye unqume ukuba wenze ntoni ngokulandelayo. Ukuba isisombululo sesigxina, uzakucelwa ukuba ukhethe izidakamizwa ezifanelekileyo kwi-hormone yonyango. Kuya kunceda ukukhulula iimpawu kwaye ujabule ngesondo njengoko ngaphambili. Ukuba isizathu asikhethi kakuhle iipilisi zokulawula ukuzala, mhlawumbi sinokuthi siyeke ukuthatha. Emva koko uya kufuneka uphinde ulandele. Ngeli xesha, ezinye iindlela zokukhulelwa, ezifana neikhondom okanye i-contraceptive vaginal, zingasetyenziswa. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, kukho ukukrokra ukuba une-pathology ye-thyroid, ngoko ugqirha uyakukudlulisela kwingcali ye-endocrinologist.
Isizathu 3. Unendlela ezahlukeneyo zesini
Kwiqabane lakho, isondo iyindlela yokunciphisa uxinzelelo. Wayenomsebenzi onzima emsebenzini, ufuna nje ukuphumla. Kuwe konke ukuchasene. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuqala entloko, kwaye kwangoko kuthintela umnqweno. Ngaba usandul 'into esenza ukuba uhlale kwindawo yoxinzelelo? Ezi zingxaki zexeshana emsebenzini, imeko engabonakaliyo yezemali okanye ukuhlambalaza iqabane. Nantoni na into enokuchaphazela ukungafuni ukulala ngesondo. Awuhluli imvakalelo evela kwisondo, ngoko ukuba awuhlali uxolo nawe, awuyi kuba nomnqweno wokuthanda.
Ndingayitshintsha njani imeko? Ungaziphoqeleli nantoni na. Ngamanye amaxesha, kulungele ukulinda. Xa imeko ixinzelelekile, yonke into iza kubuya eqhelekileyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kumzamo wokutshintsha into oya kuyenza ibe yimbi. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba i-libido yakho ihambelana nobuthakathaka obuninzi, ukungabi nandiphavulo nokungafuni ukuyenza oko kwakunandipha ngaphambili - qhagamshelana nengcali yeengqondo. Akukho mnqweno wokulala ngesini kwabanye abantu kuthetha ukuba neengxaki ezingundoqo zengqondo (ukudandatheka, i-neurosis). Kwaye ukuba ucinga ukuba awunanto into eseleyo, kwaye ucinga ukuba yinkinga yakho-thetha kumlingane wakho. Musa ukulindela ukuba ingxaki iphele.
Chaza ukuba kwenzekani
Kwabaninzi abasetyhini, isondo ngumzimba kunye nomoya ongokomzwelo, uqinisa uxhulumaniso phakathi kwabantu ababini, indlela yokubonisa uthando. Kubantu, nje ukulala - ukuphumula, isenzo somzimba, asixhathelani neemvakalelo, asithwali ukuqinisekiswa kweemvakalelo. Ngoko ke, mhlawumbi umntu wakho unzima ukuqonda kakuhle into oyifunayo, kunye noko ungayifuni. Ukungahambi kwakho ngokukhawuleza kwesifiso sesondo kunokuthusa umntu. Akakwazi ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ingxaki.
Kubalulekile ukuba uthethe naye malunga nento eyenzekayo kuwe. Ibhinqa ifuna abalingani bobabini ukuba bafumane isizathu sokungahambi kwesifiso sesini. Akukho mzekelo kufuneka wenze ngathi akukho ziingxaki. Kwaye, ke, musa ukuziphoqa ukuba wenze into ongayifunayo, kuba oku kuya kwandisa ukunyaniseka kwesondo. I-libido yezilwanyana ngezinye izihlandlo ingabonakali, kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana ngokukhawuleza izizathu zokuncipha kwayo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba yonke into iya kubuya.
Ukunciphisa i-libido yisifo?
Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, ukuxilongwa kweengxaki zesini zesini zesondo kuye kwaba yisayensi. Uphando olutshanje olwenziwa kwiYunivesithi yaseWayne State eDetroit kubonisa ukungalingani kwiinkqubo ezenzeka kwingqondo yowesifazane okhalaza nge-libido ephantsi. Umbhali wocwaningo, uDkt. Michael Diamond, ubonisa ukuba imbangela yangempela yinkinga engokwemvelo. Uphando lwezenzululwazi lwabandakanya abafazi abangama-50 ababenobomi obuphantsi. Iirekhodi zomsebenzi wengqondo zazifaniswa nabanye abafazi abasixhenxe abangenayo ingxaki. Abafazi babebukele iiprogram zethelevishini zemihla ngemihla, ezaphazanyiswa ngokufaka iifilimu ezinobomi. Intsapho "yabantwana abangenayo ingxaki" babona ukutshintsha kwisebe yengqondo ejongene nokuvuswa kwesondo. Bonke abazange bafumane utshintsho olunjalo. Abasetyhini abaneengxaki zokuphulwa kwe-libido, babengenayo imizwa.
Olu phofu lunikeza ubungqina bokuba i-libido ephantsi isifo sabantu abazikhuselayo. Kodwa akuzona zonke iingcali kule ndawo zinombono ofanayo. UPeter Bell, ophethe isondo, ukholelwa ukuba ukungabikho kobuchopho kwimifanekiso engamakhwenkwe yowesifazane olahlekelwe ngumdla kwisini unokufumana izizathu ezahlukeneyo. Le ngxaki iyabonwa njengesi sifo, kodwa isaziwa ingaba kukho enye okanye izizathu ezininzi. Ngokweengcali, ezininzi izinto, ezivela kwizinto zokuphila, iingxaki zomzimba, ezifana ne-polycystic ovary syndrome, zingabangela ukulahlekelwa kwesifiso sesini kubafazi.