Ngaba ube ngumama? Gwema ukwenza amaphutha!

Xa ebomini bakho esi siganeko senzeke kakhulu-ukuzalwa komntwana, ngoko ke, ngaphandle kovuyo olukhulu, uxinekeke uxanduva olukhulu. Ukujonga emva, ukhumbule ngokulangazelela ixesha lokukhulelwa, okwangoku kubonakala ngathi kuyinkumbulo enomsoco, naphezu kokukhathala, i-toxicosis, ukukhathazeka ngonaphakade kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi ezihamba ngokukhulelwa.

Ewe, kwakungekho lula ... Kodwa zonke ezi zigulo azihambelani naziphi na ubunzima obuye wahlangabezana nazo emva kokuzalwa kweemvumba zakho ... Mhlawumbi, unxiba nawuphi na umama omncinci, ekhangele encinci " Ekugqibeleni walala, ngaloo ndlela unika unina umfutho omfutshane. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, uqala ukuqonda ngokucacileyo uxanduva olukhulu oluye lwawela phezu kwakho, kwaye oluvame ukuloyikisa unina abaninzi, kwaye ingakumbi abanamava. Ufanele udibanise njani imikhosi yakho, yintoni omele uyenze ukuba ube ngumama omncinane kumntu omncinci? Emva kwakho konke, ngoku kuxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kuwe, kwaye uzive ungenelisekile, kubonakala kuwe ukuba awukwazi nto nengazi nto ...

Umama - rookie

Into eyona nto ayikuyikwesaba (ewe, kulula ukuthetha, ndiyazi ...). Kuzibulo lam ndingengazi indlela yokuthetha, ndithetha ngokuthe ngantoni, ndandidangele, kodwa kwenzeka ukuba emva kwesibhedlele sifike esibhedlele, apho kungekhona nje umntwana wam waphiliswa, kodwa safundisa nomama ongenamava .

Ndikucebisa ukuba uphathe isimo sakho esitsha njengomsebenzi, kwaye nakuphi na umsebenzi okhoyo, kwaye baninzi ukufunda. Kukho uluvo lokuba akukho mntu ungcono kunomama onokukwazi oko umntwana wakhe adinga. Vumela, ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene? Masibe sisicatshulwa: ekuqaleni komama yenza iimpazamo ezininzi, ngakumbi xa kuziwa kuzalwa. Inyaniso kukuba ininzi yale "mpazamo engenalwazi" ayiyibi, kwaye, kwaye iyazilungisa, umama omncinci ohambayo ufunda indlela yokuphatha kakuhle umntwana. Kodwa kunyanisekileyo ukuba kukho nexesha elibalulekileyo kakhulu kwinkqubo yokunyamekela umntwana, ofuna ingqalelo ekhethekileyo, kuba kukho iimpazamo ezinokuba nzima ukuza emva koko.

"Ilizwe leengcebiso ..."

I-Finite, iingcebiso ezivela ku-oh njengoko ufuna, zenzele uncedo kunjalo, kodwa ungaziqokeleli, kwaye ungasebenzisi konke kumntwana wakho ...

Kuyinto ekhohlakeleyo ukuxelela umama omncinane ukuba kufuneka acele iingcebiso - zona ziya kukufafaza kuwe njenge-cornucopia, kwaye ukususela kusondele kakhulu, kungekhona ngokusondeleyo kunye nezihlobo ezikude kunye nabahlobo. Kwaye kaninzi baya kuphikisana. Phantse sonke sibazali, kwaye, ke, sinokuqiniseka ngokupheleleyo ukuba nantoni na, kwaye sikhathalele umntwana.

Musa ukuvumela le ngcebiso yeengcebiso ikugqithise ngentloko yakho! Njani? Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kuba yinto ekhohlakeleyo ukuthetha ukuba sele uyayazi yonke into, kwaye ke awuyidingi isiluleko, kodwa ungagcini ubuchopho bakho "ezininzi zokupheka umntwana", kodwa unyoko, uninazala, izalamane, izalamane kunye nabazala babo, kunye Kakade, abahlobo abaninzi ... Unokudideka ...

Unganqikazi ukucela uncedo

Ngendlela, malunga noncedo ... Awusetyenziso olukhawuleza kwenye into eyingozi - ukwakha i-heroin yowama evela kuye, owenza konke ngaphandle koncedo. Ubungakanani na ongayaziyo kwaye ungazi njani! Unina okanye umkhwekazi unokunceda ngokwenene.

Masibhekane ngokungathethekiyo: ukuba kukho umncedisi oza kuthatha ubuncinane inxalenye encinci yokhathalela umntwana (ukwenza ibhotile ngokutya okanye ukukhathaza izinto zezingane) - oku kuya kunceda kakhulu kuwe. Ngoko ke, ungazikhuseli izilingo zakho, ngaphandle koko wenze iimpazamo, kwaye ekugqibeleni, - zizenzele kwi-overwork ... kwaye ufuna umntwana wakho ...

Cwangcisa!

Ndibona kwangaphambili indlela abaphendula ngayo ngala mazwi: wowoo ngcebiso! Njengokuba umlobi engazi ukuba ukuzalwa komntwana sele sele udibanisa uhlahlo lwabiwo lwekhaya?

Yaye ukuba ucinga ngokuhlakanipha? Fumana kuphela ezo zinto ziyimfuneko ngokwenene, ungabathengi imibutho epheleleyo. Ubuncinane kwiinyanga ezi-2-3 zokuqala, khangela ithuba lokuba ugcine imali, ukuba ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi kuchanekileyo uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali ...
Kukho konke andiyikucebisa ukuba ndithinte inkunzi yezona zinto ziyimfuneko. Kodwa ukuthengwa okungaxilongokiyo kweengubo, ama-creams, ii-oyile, njalo njalo. Musa ukwenza ube ngumfundi-mhle kakhulu.

Ukuxinezeleka? Siya kulwa!

Uxinzelelo emva kokubeleka ... Mhlawumbi le ngxaki iza kubonakala ungabalulekanga phakathi kwabo bonke abanye abaye bakuphazamisa, kodwa kule ndawo yenkxalabo kubalulekile ukuba ungayihoyi le ndawo engathandekiyo kwaye ufune indlela yokuphuma kwimeko. Musa ukucinga ukuba oku kuyingqungquthela, kwaye esi sifo sinenkcazelo, njengoko kukho iindlela zokujongana nayo.

Buza omnye ugogo ukuba athathe indawo yakho ngethuba elincinane (ukuba uthemba umyeni wakho - ngakumbi), kwaye wenze uhambo oluncinane-ukuthenga, kunye neentombi, kwi-hairdresser. Kodwa kungekhona iiyure ezingama-3 - kude kube yondlo olulandelayo ...

Musa ukuyihoxisa "wakho umlingane womphefumlo"

Ngelishwa, impazamo eqhelekileyo yoomama abancinci ... Yintoni enokuba nemiphumo emibi kakhulu, kubandakanywa nomntwana wakho. Ewe, ndiyazi, uzive ukhathala kakhulu kunanini ngaphambili ebomini bakho, amandla aphela kumda, kodwa akufanele ubale ukuba ungumfazi.

Udinga omnye nomnye ngoku ngaphezu kokuzalwa komntwana wakho. Ngamanye amaxesha ukubonakala komntwana (masithi, ukuvavanywa kanzima!) Kungakhokelela ekugqibeleni ubudlelwane bomtshato, kodwa kwiluhlu lwakho olubanzi lweemeko ezibalulekileyo, zibandakanya into enye - zama ukungavumeli ukuphuhliswa kweziganeko ebomini bakho.

Ukutya akuyona indlela yendalo yokuzinza umntwana

Kwaye utshintshe i-diapers, ngendlela, nayo ... Abanye oomama abancinci banokukhohlisa ukuba ukulila kwemvumba yabo kubangelwa zizathu ezimbini: indlala kunye ne-diaper epheleleyo. Ngamanye amaxesha baqhelana nesithathu - isisu siba buhlungu. Kodwa yazi, izizathu zinokuba ngaphezulu, kwaye akukho nanye kwezi zinto ezingafanelanga!

Funda ukukhala kwentsana yakho: akusoloko ifana, ihluka ngoxhomekeke kwinto leyo umntwana wakho ekhononda ngayo ngethuba.