Amantombazana amaninzi azama ukubukela iifilimu zothando, oko kwenzeka nje kwisiqwenga ngesizathu esithile kunokubangela ukuba bakholelwe i-vromantiku, ecasulayo. Kule nto ayikho into emangalisa, emva koko, ifilimu yothando, enkulu ingabonakaliyo, kwaye abalinganiswa baninzi. Ngoko ke, ukuze ukholelwe othandweni, akudingeki ukuba ukhangele into ethile kwilizwe elimnandi. Kubalulekile ukuba sibone ngothando kwihlabathi langempela.
Musa ukuthelekisa neengcinga
Yonke intombazana inomdla wayo kumntu. Kwaye asikhulumi ngamabali amacandelo avela kwiincwadi nakwiifilimu, kodwa ngabantu abanyani. Ingaba ngumzalwana, uyise, utata, umalume, umhlobo ongcono. Ngokuqhelekileyo, indoda oyithembayo, oyithandayo, cinga okulungileyo, njalo njalo. Kulo mfana kunye namantombazana aqala ukuqhathanisa onke amadoda. Kwaye amaxesha amaninzi adidekile kubafana, ubulili obufanelekileyo buqala ukukholelwa ukuba into enjalo njengomntu osondeleyo akakho, ngoko kungcono ukuba ube sele ukhona. Ngokukodwa, xa usuhlala usethandweni, nangona kungenjalo kwifom oyifunayo.
Kule meko, impazamo yebhinqa ixhomekeke ekubeni siqala ukuqaphela abathandekayo bethu kwaye sijonga ezinye iintsilelo zabanye kwabanye. Akukho mfihlo kunoma ubani ukuba bonke abantu baneemfanelo zabo kunye nezidumbu. Kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile asifuni ukuwabona i-vnashih isizwe, kodwa kubantu abangaziwayo sibona kazhdymyloch. Ukukhethwa okunjalo kuvela emva kokuba abafazi bewela ezandleni zabantu abaphulaphula iintliziyo zabo, baziphathe ngendlela engafanelekanga njalo njalo. Enyanisweni, ukukhangela okunjalo kuzo zonke izilingo zesini esomeleleyo kukukhathazeka emva kokuxhamla emva kokuthanda. Yaye oku kufuneka kulwa. Ukuxabana kwama-Av kunokunceda i-logic logic. Njalo xa ufumana uphawu lokunciphisa, qhathanisa kunye nemigodlo yomntakwenu (ubaba, umalume, umhlobo) Ngaba uya kuxolela umhlobo wakho ngenxa yale nto? Ukuba kunjalo, ngoko umfana osemncinci akabi kakhulu. Umzekelo, uyabona ukuba lo mfana uthe cwaka. Ngokukhawuleza uqala ukucinga ukuba akayikhathaleli ukuba uyisidenge, ayikhathazeki kwaye akukho nto enokuyenza ngayo. Kodwa ukuba umntakwenu akafuni ukuthetha, ngoko kulesi sikhundla uyazikhumbuza ukuba ngendlela enjalo, kwaye nangona uthe cwaka, uyakuthanda, ithetha nje ngenye indlela. Ukubeka nje, unikezela uhlobo oluthile lokungcola kumntu osondeleyo, kwaye ngokuchaseneyo, ngokukhawuleza ulawule umfokazi. Nangona ungamazi nhlobo.
Qaphela abantu
Ngendlela, enye ingxaki kula mabhinqa abangenakukholelwa othandweni kukuba abafuni nje ukwazi abantu. Uthotho lwamazwi okuqala lukhohlisa kakhulu. Kungoko, ukuqikelela umfana osemva kwimimiselo emihlanu yokuqala, umfazi uthatha isigqibo sokuba akukho nto ayenzayo naye kwaye unqabile ukumbona kwintombi yakhe. Umnqweno onjalo wokukhawuleza ukuvavanya yonke into ngenxa yokuba amantombazana ayesaba ukusondela. Abasetyhini abaninzi, beqala ukungena emphefumlweni wendoda eselula, baqhotyoshelweyo kuyo, befumana kuyo, bacinga, into ekhethekileyo. Kwaye ke kuvela ukuba bazisile ngokwabo. Kwaye ukuze ahambe kwi-rake efanayo, amaninzi abazama ukufunda umphefumlo wendoda. Awukwazi ukwenza oku ngokuqhelekileyo, kuba ukuba uhlala uphazamisa wonke umntu, ngoko awuyi kumbona umntu othe wakuthanda, kodwa akakwazi ukuthetha oku, ukubona indlela onyamezela ngayo bonke abameli besilisa.
Ukuze ufunde kwakhona ukuthetha nabantu, thola umgangatho ophakathi. Ukulumkela ebuhlotsheni kunye nokuyeka ngokupheleleyo ngokupheleleyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukuphinde ukholwe othandweni, zama ukukholelwa kubantu abancinci. Ukunxibelelana namadoda, bayeke kubo ukuba bafune into enhle okanye into embi. Yinyamekele yonke into, ukuxhomekeka kuphela kwiqondo elifanayo. Ukuba umntu wenza into ethile, uthi into ethile, yenza ukhetho oluthile, jonga kwaye uhlalutye. Hlaziya, kwaye ungaphuthelwa ngokwakho, uzalise zonke izenzo ngeemvakalelo zakho. Emva koko unokuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba luhlobo luni lwabantu olukulindele kulo. Akufuneki ukuba ugwebe umntu ngokujonga kuqala. Nangona uthe wayenxila kwaye enganasiphelo, oku akuthethi ukuba umntu uziphatha ngale ndlela ngelo xesha. Okanye mhlawumbi wayedakile okokuqala ngqa ebomini bakhe ngenxa yokujova kwintlungu ebomini. Awazi na oku kwaye akaze wazi ukuba uyayicima ngokukhawuleza.
Yazi uthando lwakho
Ukuze ukholelwe othandweni, kufuneka uyibone. Abaninzi, badana ngenxa yeemvakalelo zabo, bayeka ukubona uthando phakathi kwabanye. Kwaye oku kakubi. Sekunjalo, kukho uthando. Ewe, kuzisa abantu kunye nokukhungatheka, kunye nentlungu, kodwa kukho uthando lokwenene olwenza ulumkwenkce kwaye ulonwabo ubomi. Kodwa ukuba lo mfazi udidekile, ngoko ulungele ukugxeka ididi nganye, kunye neyona nxalenye yesigxina kwaye ufumane isiphako semiphumo ekuphatheni kwamadoda. Awudingi ukunyathela. Enyanisweni, phakathi kwabahlobo bakho okanye izalamane apho ziya kuhlala zikhona abantu abathandana ngokwenene kwaye bakulungele ukunikela ubomi babo ngesiqingatha sabo. Oku akudingekile ukuba ulungele lo mthando kwaye ucinge ukuba loo mbini ayinayo ingxaki. Cinga ngokwakho, uxabana ngokuphuma kwexesha kunye nosapho kunye nabahlobo obathandayo. Akunjalo ngenxa yokuba bakhawuleza bayeke ukuthanda, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ngamnye wethu ngumntu, iimbonakalo kunye neengcamango, ngenxa yokuba kukho ukungqubana kwemicimbi. Ngako oko, khumbula ukuba abantu abanothando bayabambana kwaye bafunga ukuba banamaxesha amanzima, uthando oluyinyaniso luyinto ephumelelayo. Kwaye luthando luyabonakala, lubonakala ngendlela abantu bajonga ngayo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ixesha lidlulayo, amehlo abo asatshisa. Kwaye abafuni ukutshintshana, ukufumana umntu olungcono. Ngenxa yokuba zilungele omnye komnye. Ngaphezu koko, oku akuthethi ukuba yinto enhle kubo bonke abantu.
Uthando lokwenene lukhoyo kweli hlabathi. Kukho nje abantu abaninzi abadaniweyo abaqala ukuziphatha nabanye njengoko benzayo nabo. Yingakho ngokuthe ngcembe kwihlabathi kukho ulonwabo olungakumbi kunye nokudumala ngakumbi. Yaye ukuba uzalisa iindidi zabantu abanjalo, akukho mntu uya kuba ngcono. Ngoko ke, ubuncinane zivumeleke ukuba uzithande ngokwakho, shenxisa abantu ngaphandle. Kwaye ukuba uyayithanda ngokwenene, ngoko awukwazi ukuluxhathisa lo mvakalelo kwaye uthandane nomntu owenza uvuyo ngokupheleleyo.