Ebomi kukho into enjalo yokuba uthando lunokuthi lube luvuyo, kwintsapho yokuqala, luyabulala ebomini bentsapho njengesiqhwithi, ukuphula imibono yomfazi nomyeni malunga nomnye, ukutshabalalisa indlela yokuphila yabo, okubangela ukuba i-psyche yomtshato ibini yingozi kakhulu. .
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Ukuba umfazi otshatileyo ngokukhawuleza uyawa thandana nomnye, unjani iimvakalelo? Ngokuqinisekileyo, njengabathandi bonke, ufumana uvuyo. Emzimbeni kukho ukukhanya okungaqhelekanga, kwamehlo enkqonkqo, njengoko akukho nto icinga ngayo. Yaye, ezama ukunyanzela le nto imnandi, inqabileyo, idibanisa kuye. Kodwa!
Emva komyeni wakhe, ngoko kufuneka ucime umlenze emehlweni, unciphise isantya uze uqalise ukuchukumisa iingcamango phakathi kwentshiseko kunye nemvakalelo yomsebenzi. Ngokukhawuleza idlulela imeko yokuvuya, ithathelwa indawo yokudideka kunye nombuzo: yintoni elandelayo?
Ngoko ke kufuneka wenze ntoni ngokulandelayo?
Okokuqala, yima kwaye uthathe ixesha lakho, zama ukuphendula lo mbuzo. Kutheni unqumle ukuba unalo uthando? Mhlawumbi uqhubeka uthanda umyeni wakho, ngaphezu kweminye yakho ukuthanda kwakho kuhlile, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukutsha, ukuvuyisa kunye nemvakalelo, kwaye kumyeni awufumani nantoni na entsha, kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyayibona komnye umntu, apha wathandwa kuye. Oku kwenzeka.
Yaye ungadideki uze ubize uthando uthando. Kwaye nangakumbi nangenkqubo yokuqalisa into enomdla omtsha, ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ekubeni ezi zihlandlo ezininzi ziphela kwintlekele. Kudala ukufihla ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nomnye umntu akayi kusebenza. Ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, yonke imfihlelo iyabonakala.
Ukuthembeka komfazi wakhe, amadoda ayenomona kakhulu. Thina, bafazi, ukuba sisindise intsapho, sinokuzenza ngathi asikwazi nto emva kokufunda ngokungcatsha komyeni wakhe. Indoda enomdla ngokugqithisileyo yomfazi wayo, ukuba akayi kubambelela kwi-ax.
Kwaye ukuba akayindawo engenanto kuwe, ukuba wayenomthandayo okanye ungumntu olungileyo, zama ukumlimaza. Okokuqala, jonga ngokwakho nangemvakalelo yakho. Ukuyithanda okanye ukuzonwabisa.
Kakade, akulula okokuqala ukuzenza, ukufihla ukuthanda. Kodwa ayikho enye indlela yokuphuma. Khawucinge ukuba waqhekeza intsapho yakho, waya komnye umntu, kwaye emva kwexesha kuya kuvela ukuba unyulo olutsha alufanelekanga kumyeni wakho nokuba. Ngaba ucinga ukuba umyeni wakho uya kuxolela ngokukhawuleza, ukulibala yonke into kwaye akuvumele ubuyele? Mhlawumbi kungcono ukuba ungabi ukuqhuba amahashe ukususela ekuqaleni, kodwa ukuba uqonde indlela yokuphuma kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma?
Okokuqala, qwa lasele umyeni wakho. Khumbula into oyithandayo. Thetha naye kwiimviwo ezifanelekileyo, ungachukumisi nesihloko sokungcatsha. Mhlawumbi uza kufumana kulo nto ungaswelekanga, kwaye mhlawumbi ubuhlobo bakho buza kudlala ngemibala emitsha.
Okanye fumana i-hobby entsha. Umzekelo, ukuba ungenayo ilayisenisi yokuqhuba, bhalisa kwiklasi okanye uqale ukufunda enye into entsha, mhlawumbi iya kubeka uthando lwakho ngasemva.
Buza umyeni wakho kunye nomthandi imibuzo efanayo kwaye uqhathanise iimpendulo. Ungamangaliswa ukuba indoda yakho iphumelele kule ncintiswano yemfihlo. Uya kuzuza kuphela kule nto.
Kukho enye inketho. Kodwa yena unzima kakhulu. Ukuba uyayithanda, thanda impilo! Thatha le mvakalelo yentlonipho emphefumlweni uze uyivumele iphile khona. Mthande kwaye umthuthuzele. Musa nje ukuyeka ngaphandle. Ukuba lo mva uphenduka ube yintando, uya kusasa ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye uya kuba nombulelo kuwe ukuba awuzange ubeke izinto eziyintsiphu waza wonakalisa intsapho yakho. Kodwa ukuba le ngqiqo yokwenene, iya kuphuka.
Uthando lokwenene luvakalelwa. Kuya kuphuma xa kunethuba loku, ukuze bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kule mbali baza kubangela ukulimala okungaphantsi. Ekubeni, konke kwenzeka, mhlawumbi umyeni wakho uya kwenza into engeyiyo okanye angazithandanga nomnye, kwaye unokushiya unembeza ocacileyo. Nantoni na into eyenzekayo eya kusombulula imeko yakho.
Uvakalelo olunjengothando oluyinyaniso luya kunqoba yonke into. Uya kufumana indlela yokuphuma kuyo nayiphi na imeko kwaye iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo. Musa nje ukukhawuleza izinto. Yikholwa kwaye ulinde kwaye yonke into iya kulungiswa.